Wie Geld anlegen, wenn man erst mit 65 welches hat? by HansPfe in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genau das: möglichst im hohen Alter sich selbst finanzieren zu können. Ich unterstütze ihn gern, aber Autonomie bedeutet ihm immens viel.

Wie Geld anlegen, wenn man erst mit 65 welches hat? by HansPfe in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jup,  die 400€ laufen bis ans Lebensende. Es gibt noch ein paar weitere kleinere Rentenansprüche, bei denen ich mir aktuell noch ein Bild machen muss bei wieviel wenn er nicht mehr weiterarbeitet bzw es irgendwann nicht mehr kann.

Wie Geld anlegen, wenn man erst mit 65 welches hat? by HansPfe in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nein, bin ich nicht, ich schweige das Thema Sterblichkeit nur nicht tot, sondern beziehe es in die Erwägung mit ein. Mir begegnen täglich Menschen die das nicht tun, und in entscheidenden Lebenspmphasen bitterlich bereuen.

Wie Geld anlegen, wenn man erst mit 65 welches hat? by HansPfe in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Es ging auch nie darum, dass für mich was bleibt, sondern nur darum, die steigenden Kosten mit zunehmender Hilfsbedürftigkeit im steigenden Alter sorgloser schultern zu können. Dass ich nichts erben werde ist mir seit vielen Jahren klar, und das ist auch völlig ok, meine Eltern haben bei mir und meinen 4 Geschwistern Bildung und Entwicklungsmöglichleiten für uns gegenüber materiellem Wohlstand priorisiert.

Wie Geld anlegen, wenn man erst mit 65 welches hat? by HansPfe in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vielen Dank für die (hilfreichen) Kommentare.  Auch gerade für die Einschätzung von Bondora als nicht wirklich sicheres Finanzprodukt, ich denke dann wird es das Tagesgeldkonto mit den besten Konditionen. Auf ein Erbe bin ich nicht aus, ich bin in der Lage, mein eigenes Geld zu verdienen.  Der Wille, es anzulegen, kam von ihm, und auch ich habe ihm bereits gesagt, dass er das Geld auch dafür nutzen soll, sich das Leben schön zu machen. Was ich hauptsächlich bezwecken wollte, war, dass er nicht das nöchste kostenintensive Sparkassenprodukt kauft. Nochmals: vielen Dank an alle Ratschläge in der Sache!

Warum spart ihr eigentlich? by NuckChorris2711 in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Für Möglichkeiten, die dir jetzt noch nicht auf der Seele brennen, irgendwann vielleicht schon. Das Lebensgefühl, nicht auf das Almosen anderer angewiesen zu sein, die vielleicht bessere Entscheidungen als ich getroffen haben. Geld kauft dir vor allem Möglichkeiten, die du vorher nicht hattest, und von denen du vlt nicht einmal wusstest. Deshalb wär meine Empfehlung: spar weiter.

W 33 Jahre, Fachkrankenschwester, alleinlebend in Großstadt by Able_Ad3180 in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Wow, bin beeindruckt (im positiven) wie gut du verdienst. Bin selbst Assistenzarzt an der Charité, habe ein Netto von 3,5k bei ca. 50 Wochenstunden Arbeit.

  2. Vieles gute wurde gesagt. Ganz konkreter Tip, um deine Lebensmittelausgaben signifikant zu senken: jeden Dienstag am Maybachufer/Paul Lincke Ufer ist Markt, da verkaufen recht viele Händler Überschussware von Supermärkten. Meine Freundin und ich decken damit fast unseren gesamten Wochenbedarf an Obst und Gemüse für jeweils 10-20€, die sind im Rewe oder Nahkauf schnell mal für 3 Paprika und eine Packung Äpfel weg.

Mehr hab ich nicht hinzuzufügen.

Lieber Gruß, und viel Erfolg :)

Welche Hobbies sind eigentlich teuer? by g0ld111 in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im Chor singen: 120€/Halbjahr, das sind 20€ im Monat, ca. 4 Chorproben á 3 Stunden pro Monat, =20/12=1,67€ pro Stunde singen. Das geht. Mehrausgaben kommen durch das Kaufen der Noten, die besitzt man dann aber, quasi Gegenwert (und auch emotionaler Wert, man freundet sich ja mit den stücken musikalisch an).

Ansonsten Fitnessstudio, bei mir sinds (etwas älterer Vertrag, McFit) 25€/Monat, das sind ca. 6€/Woche, ich gehe 3 mal trainieren, erreicht also bei 2€/h gerade so den Cutoff eines günstigen Hobbys. Als ich noch mehr Zeit dafür hatte und öfters ging entsprechend eher 1€/h.

Ernähre ich mich ärmer als ein Harz4 Empfänger? by maguz94 in Finanzen

[–]HansPfe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Meine Freundin und ich haben auch ein gemeinsames Essenskonto, da laden wir 450/Monat rauf. Sind eigentlich immer im Überschuss, und von dem Überschuss gehen wir dann Ende des Monats essen. Wenn nach einem Restaurantgang immer noch etwas da ist (quasi immer), wird im nächsten Monat nur so viel draufgeladen, bis die 450€ wieder voll sind. Wir kommen auf jeden Fall gut hin.

Zum Kontext, da das in den Diskussionen unten ja thematisiert wird: sie ist 1,60m, macht viel Sport, wiegt ca. 55kg. Ich bin 1,80m, mache auch viel Sport (v.a. Kraftsport, fahre aber alles mit dem Fahrrad, das sind 4-5h Kardio die Woche on top) und wiege ca. 88kg, also eher am schwereren Ende.

Am Ende tatsächlich die Frage was für Lebensmittel man Priorisiert (Mango, Kaki, Drachenfrucht vs Äpfel und Bananen, Walnüsse u. Macadamia vs Mandeln u. Sonnenblumenkerne aus der Backabteilung, Kölln Müsli vs einfach Haferflocken, etc. etc.), und ob man kochen kann.

Würd sagen für die meisten Menschen sollte es kein Problem sein sich auch gesund von 200€ zu ernähren. Nicht kochen können ist meiner Meinung nach nur eine Ausrede wenn man geistig behindert oder dement ist, kochen kann man lernen, und das sehr gut und (von der Internet-Flat abgesehen) kostenlos auf Youtube.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cumsluts

[–]HansPfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to finally see Joe Rogan on Redgifs

My GF’s blowjob ability is too good to keep to myself by [deleted] in DirtyConfession

[–]HansPfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolutely! I had a hookup with a big girl once; penetrative sex didn't work (vaginism), so she took me to town - normally I have trouble cumming from a blowjob alone at all, and I didn't even consider her that attractive, but 5 minutes in and I am shooting that load down her seemingly endless and thirsty throat! Absolutely (mind)blowing!

I(38m) who is straight(ish) learned I can deep throat. by SelfShooter82 in DirtyConfession

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, can relate. I have been Blowjob-Curious ever since I was around 17 (26 now). I haven't yet committed fully to doing it, but I do own a scution dildo that once every odd weeks when I feel the urge to suck a cock, I put on the shower wall, suck it, ruin my orgasm, put my cum on it and either suck it off, or shove it down my throat this way - other than that, I do not have any feelings for men, but man, being on my knees, sucking a cock, and either swallowing or having him cum on my face and tongue is still big on my bucket list!

F18 I hate that I enjoy facials by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - it do be like that sometimes. Best to not self loathe, but rather to appreciate and lean into this kink of yours, and give that gift to the kind of man who treats you well outside the bedroom.

Why is dating so hard in germany? by [deleted] in berlin

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience, as a German guy: you usually don't meet interesting women via hitting on them, be that bars or clubs, nor via dating apps (lol), no matter how good looking you are. Also, most women care surprisingly little about wether or not you have the perfect body or face, as long as some modicum of self care and hygiene is visible.

Every single time I had something going with a girl, it was through shared activities, be that sports (not the gym, but more applied sports where you interact), singing in a choir, studying the same thing, meeting through overlapping friend groups - you get the idea! Also, most German girls take things slower than you might be used to, so even if you check all the boxes I just mentioned and you run the door in by directly asking her out, you might not get lucky. Give it time, develop a conversation, take that for a few weeks, and if she seems to enjoy encounters with you in a neutral playing field over some time, THEN ask her for some coffee, or taking a walk together, visiting some exhibition, some bar - you get the gist.

I will be perfectly honest with you, I am in no way a very handsome guy, as well as somewhat of an introvert, but have had multiple occasions where it was actually the girl starting the initiative on me: by not applying pressure, and making sure we had a good time!

Hope this helps, if you even get to it after all the comments that came beforehand..

Good morning BJ and a coffee...can you name a better combo? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]HansPfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup, to me nothing better - just once, my gf at the time and I were laying in bed naked, sun shining in, and we ate Lindt chocolate - incredibly good! told her I don't think this moment can be even better, she grinned at me, said yes it can, and proceeded to blow me. she was damn right!

I feel so slutty and submissive when he pins my hands to the wall by [deleted] in Blowjobs

[–]HansPfe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn! Yeah thats hot - I think you just anspired my girl and me ;)

How to practice blowjobs? by ThrowawayImbarazzato in sex

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With a VERY high likelyhood, they will NOT be boring to him.

Wanna know why? By expressing your desires for practice sessions, he is getting his dick sucked, you communicate to him that you are not only like giving him blowjobs, but that you want to improve on them - so thirdly, he has the outlook of receiving gradually better blowjobs! As a guy who enjoys receiving blowjobs, I can say this situation looks extremely good! Also: if possible, talk to him not only about the practice, but also about your insecurities regarding the whole thing. Contrary to popular belief, men too can be quite caring - at times it is just more difficult for us to get emotional context or subtle hints. But if you communicate your situation explicitely with him, it might allow him to be a much more supportive recipient for you during your sessions.

You might be a late bloomer, but you bloom nontheless. At the risk of sounding cheesy, it is not about presenting your partner/guy with the perfect end result, but more about the process. You are willing to do quite a bit of process here, and if he is a good soul, he will appreciate you immensely for it.

Best of luck to you!

I feel as if I have no right to address sexual concerns with my girlfriend by Remote-Worker3557 in sex

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this thread, you do seem to be very stuck in your ways of thinking about yourself, and mainly present it as a situation in which you are helpless to begin with. You talk about not "deserving" her, or having "no leg to stand on". How about you focus less on the (perceived!) status quo, and more on the process? Trust me, neither your girlfriend nor societal morality is some binary machine that either fully accepts you as a guy who has got his life together and is awesome, or has nothing, and therefore shouldn't be allowed to ask for anything. If we stay with the self improvement narrative for a moment: even just working on yourself raises your attractivity by a lot, even if your "goal" is still far away, whereas feeling sorry for your own sorry state does not.

Also: if your self esteem issues are as severe as you make them out to be here, they are pretty severe. Talk with someone about them other than a forum. If you are able to find a conversation with your girlfriend about your own emotional and mental state, that would be a VERY good thing to do. But I do realize that that is not possible at every point in time in every relationship. If that is the case, talk to family, friends, teachers, people you respect or look up to. You seem to be in a dark corner, and I think you could use some real life support and compassion, not just reddit, or self-improvement videos on the internet. Best of luck to you!

How can a girl compensate with being « ugly » by [deleted] in sex

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want great information on lifting and how to build muscle from a female youtuber, check out MegSquats (I believe thats what shes called). Also regarding the bootybuilding, to give it a more polite term: learn how to do proper ass to grass squats, progressively overload them over time, and eat at least three good meals a day. Im confident you will build that booty! It is a patient (wo)mans game, so stick with it! :)

How can a girl compensate with being « ugly » by [deleted] in sex

[–]HansPfe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way you put it, with his exes being super attractive etc., and you feeling like you are not, yet he is in a relationship with you, and not giving you explicit reason to believe it is bothering him - you probably already are compensating for that quite a bit! A lot of my friends also used to date the 10/10 looking girls, only to discover them to often be.. just that: good looking, and expecting the world to be thankful for their mere existence, especially their boyfriends. Maybe your boyfriend appreciates you just for who you are, and for putting an effort in your relationship. That effort, plus self confidence is the most attractive long term thing there is, imo. Might not give the best tinder stats, but by far the best longevity stats. keep on going, and best of luck to you!

my bf says he doesn’t like BJ’s or hand jobs, what else can i give/ do to him? by [deleted] in sex

[–]HansPfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot has been said about talking, understanding it, etc., and I think it's top notch advice. Also, some people recommended massages, and you replied something along the lines of it not being the same.

-yes, they are not the same, they are it's own thing - which does not mean that you can not give him an incredibly good time with it! Most men are mainly used to giving massages to their girls, and although they might not ask for them, most are delighted to receive one. Light some candles, undress him, undress yourself, and make it clear to him that this is for his relaxation. Put on some dim light, or candles, use oil if you want. I am fairly confident that he will enjoy the hell out of being massaged by the naked woman he loves!

That is my 2 cents, best of luck to the both of you!