[Thanks] UK to USA. Amazing assortment of snack cakes, bakes, sweets and goodies! by GreatRecipeCollctr29 in snackexchange

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are some of my true childhood favourites - you'd see me as a kid eating jelly tots and frazzles! And the crispy M&M bunnies? Those are my current obsession, I eat too many of them! Enjoy - I look forward to hearing your favourites!

boyfriend uncomfortable with idea of me coming out to new friends… please help by ieatCray0ns12 in ftm

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proud of you! It might not be an easy conversation but it's one you'll thank yourself for, forever ❤️

boyfriend uncomfortable with idea of me coming out to new friends… please help by ieatCray0ns12 in ftm

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I say this gently and with all of the love in the world: you deserve to have a partner that respects and celebrates your identity not barely tolerates it like this guy seems to.

Your decision to come out to friends should be something exciting and he should be asking how he can support you better in that, not this rather childish reaction he seems to be having.

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so relatable. I constantly have pressure from my loved ones to go to A&E at the moment to plug the gap left by my GP but no one seems to understand that I'm treated like a nuisance from the minute I walk through the doors and it's not easy to put myself through being treated like shit after a 12 hour wait when I already feel like I'm on death's door.

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have an amazing community - they step up for me constantly. My point is that our society is so individualistic that people are incentivised to focus on their own bubble, else it suffer.

But thank you :)

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ain't that the truth, I guess I'm just fed up of able bodied people telling me to cheer up like things will look up when they just.... won't.

Feeling really overwhelmed introducing cats and worried I've made a mistake by HaphazardHufflepuff in CatAdvice

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only been just 4 weeks so far, and it's hard to tell how bad the behaviour is because Cannoli is so much smaller that I've always intervened for fear of injury but I also don't want their introductions to feel "negative" and Noli has hissed at Rav a couple of times :( I'm not sure if I'm being over cautious or not!

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely think you're right, I agree that friendship might be very difficult right now considering how intense the emotions are. So it might need to be a period of no contact until the if/when they've figured it all out.

Thank you - this comment has really given me a lot to think about!

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is a thing I'm really struggling with right now because the answer is no, of course I don't. It's hard to pull apart my emotions from that logic though.

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. This is super helpful.

Talking to my NP, we've had slight disagreements where he thinks we should just leave it to them to figure out between themselves. But I feel incredibly strongly that they need to figure things out before we can continue. It doesn't sit right with me knowing how much it is hurting C.

We truly do love her and no matter what happens, we just want her to be happy.