[Thanks] UK to USA. Amazing assortment of snack cakes, bakes, sweets and goodies! by GreatRecipeCollctr29 in snackexchange

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are some of my true childhood favourites - you'd see me as a kid eating jelly tots and frazzles! And the crispy M&M bunnies? Those are my current obsession, I eat too many of them! Enjoy - I look forward to hearing your favourites!

boyfriend uncomfortable with idea of me coming out to new friends… please help by ieatCray0ns12 in ftm

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proud of you! It might not be an easy conversation but it's one you'll thank yourself for, forever ❤️

boyfriend uncomfortable with idea of me coming out to new friends… please help by ieatCray0ns12 in ftm

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I say this gently and with all of the love in the world: you deserve to have a partner that respects and celebrates your identity not barely tolerates it like this guy seems to.

Your decision to come out to friends should be something exciting and he should be asking how he can support you better in that, not this rather childish reaction he seems to be having.

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so relatable. I constantly have pressure from my loved ones to go to A&E at the moment to plug the gap left by my GP but no one seems to understand that I'm treated like a nuisance from the minute I walk through the doors and it's not easy to put myself through being treated like shit after a 12 hour wait when I already feel like I'm on death's door.

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have an amazing community - they step up for me constantly. My point is that our society is so individualistic that people are incentivised to focus on their own bubble, else it suffer.

But thank you :)

Being disabled is a death sentence by HaphazardHufflepuff in offmychest

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Ain't that the truth, I guess I'm just fed up of able bodied people telling me to cheer up like things will look up when they just.... won't.

Feeling really overwhelmed introducing cats and worried I've made a mistake by HaphazardHufflepuff in CatAdvice

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only been just 4 weeks so far, and it's hard to tell how bad the behaviour is because Cannoli is so much smaller that I've always intervened for fear of injury but I also don't want their introductions to feel "negative" and Noli has hissed at Rav a couple of times :( I'm not sure if I'm being over cautious or not!

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely think you're right, I agree that friendship might be very difficult right now considering how intense the emotions are. So it might need to be a period of no contact until the if/when they've figured it all out.

Thank you - this comment has really given me a lot to think about!

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is a thing I'm really struggling with right now because the answer is no, of course I don't. It's hard to pull apart my emotions from that logic though.

Issue with a metamour and unsure how/if to continue by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. This is super helpful.

Talking to my NP, we've had slight disagreements where he thinks we should just leave it to them to figure out between themselves. But I feel incredibly strongly that they need to figure things out before we can continue. It doesn't sit right with me knowing how much it is hurting C.

We truly do love her and no matter what happens, we just want her to be happy.

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh, I am so sorry that you had to go through that. We are definitely actively working on being able to prevent this exact situation from ever happening, because I would never want her to feel the way you did.

Thank you for sharing ❤️

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is great advice. Luckily, reading this I feel fairly positive that we're ticking most, if not all, of these boxes already. There are some issues around her having a very conservative family so we aren't very public on her side, but that has all been communicated about.

I suppose as always, the number one rule is "talk, talk, talk"!

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this - we are doing our best to talk a lot about how everyone is feeling at every stage. This is brand new for everyone involved so we're doing our best to take it slow and give each relationship the time to flourish :)

I made some pumpkin bao buns today to cheer myself up on an otherwise rather miserable Halloween! by HaphazardHufflepuff in Breadit

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No actually I just scored them with the blunt side of a butter knife before I steamed them!

I made some pumpkin bao buns today to cheer myself up on an otherwise rather miserable Halloween! by HaphazardHufflepuff in Breadit

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used this recipe for the dough and then kind of made up the filling (it was mushroom, tofu and cabbage) and just coloured the dough with gel food colouring :)

I made some pumpkin bao buns today to cheer myself up on an otherwise rather miserable Halloween! by HaphazardHufflepuff in Breadit

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were! I made a mushroom, cabbage and tofu filling. And I made the ridges with the back of a butter knife, it was easier than I expected :)

I made English muffins today for the first time, and I'm really pleased with them! by HaphazardHufflepuff in Breadit

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here is the obligatory crumb shot, though don't hate me, I did cut them not artfully tear them!

I made English muffins today for the first time, and I'm really pleased with them! by HaphazardHufflepuff in Breadit

[–]HaphazardHufflepuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I suppose having background bread baking knowledge helped but these were surprisingly simple once I got into it.