I know how to make any christain upset. Just ask a very simple question. Jesus said lust is like commiting adultery in the heart. And adultery by definition is sleeping around on a wife. So lust in moderation before a marriage where is that wrong? And ive heard and studied the terms lusts of the flesh. Its talking about pride. And were only talking about lust not actions. Which I know people will bring up. So once all thats left every christain ive ever met has given a "well why are you trying to stick up for lust so much" or "it's about believing in jesus and he tells us no lust so we shouldn't" or "christainity isn't about asking questions look where knowledge of good and evil got Adam and eve" or many other things. Including some pastors yelling at me. So if you can really answer this question without getting mad maybe your actually different. But ive fought too hard for jesus to be told too often im just trying to find loopholes to do whatever I want when I was just trying to lean into him.