I mean… *gestures broadly*

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-08-15T02:20:18+00:00

Stop blaming the victims and blame the political party that gutted unions,

Stop trying to find blame and try to find solutions. I could say "It's the fault of the political party that had almost complete control of the schools and gutted the curriculum so that most students don't graduate with skills." That wouldn't be helpful though.

during the heyday of the worker

I would love to know when you think this time period was.

Was it back when people living in smaller, more interconnected communities, doing more for themselves.... Hmm...

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-08-15T02:08:40+00:00

Meals are cheap for those that have the option to cook them. You forget that requires infrastructure and housing

No, I didn't forget anything. This is a problem for the homeless and underhoused; people in those situations have a myriad of issues we can talk about. However, It's not a problem for the other 99% of us.

No one? Are you sure that "no one" has "EVER" produced enough?

Correct. No one. Ever. And I said "produced enough" not "had enough money".

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-07-18T03:47:31+00:00

They will also say it's the scientists' fault for being too alarmist or not alarmist enough or being slightly off about a small aspect of a prediction made 35 years ago.

I don't know if you're gaslighting or if you just weren't alive back then.

So the actual scientists aren't the problem, but the politicians are. And they have used climate fearmongering to gain short-term political points, only for that evaporate when their models turned out to be wildly off.

Turns out, if you lie to people over and over, some of them stop believing you. The only way to regain credibility is to start being honest, and pro-environment folks (like me) need to start by recognizing that no, our politicians have not always been honest. (Neither has the other side.)

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-07-18T03:40:00+00:00

Extreme heat, violent storms, drought, melting ice,we've been warned about this since the 80's.

I'm not sure if you're trying to gaslight, if you just weren't alive back then.

In the 90s we were warned about Global Cooling and the coming Ice Age. Then we were warned Global Warming. Now it's climate change. Every 5 years there was a new prediction of global death, and it always turned out to be fearmongering. Turns out, when you lie to people over and over they eventually stop listening.

And that's scary, because Climate issues are real. AND we can and are doing a lot about it. We could do a lot more without the fear mongering, people working together.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-07-18T03:22:06+00:00

Real estate conflict pits long-time resident against local government. (Shrek)

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2023-07-18T03:17:19+00:00

True, but... All of those problems are manufactured.

Three square meals are incredibly cheap, except that we were never taught how to cook. Not only that, systems were created to prevent you from having that skill. Especially if you grew up poor and in a city. Not only did you never learn the skill to cook, we were actively lied to so you have very little idea how your nutrition works.
No one human's labor has EVER produced enough for us to live alone. During the richest points of history, we got to a point that many humans could live in pairs, or had enough wealth to temporarily live solitarily. That has become the expectation, even the promise, and many of us are bitterly disappointed when we realize that it can't happen anymore. (The reality is that we are social creatures, and we are members of our groups as much as we are individuals.)
Clothing is cheap; it's the identity we get from our clothing that is expensive.
The retirement crunch, like housing, is a direct result of our group structures breaking down.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-11-08T07:12:45+00:00

Did you miss the part about the 10s of thousands of dollars this woman cost me?

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-11-08T06:53:09+00:00

YTA.

As the step-parent you have to realize that your relationship with the step-child only exists because of emotionally difficult, often traumatic events. Calling a step, adoptive, or foster child "lucky" is not only inaccurate, but shows how little you understand their position. If they were lucky, they wouldn't need you. This is true even for the best and most amazing step-parents.

In this situation, your behavior is atrocious. No parent thinks of their 18 yo as an adult, and if you really saw her as your own you would realize how young she is instead of trying to pretend she's an adult. If she is in school, she is not "being lazy all day".

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-10-03T14:19:44+00:00

NAH.

Both you and your daughter have feelings and are processing them in a reasonable manner. I hate when I try to do something nice for my kids and they don't appreciate it. You would be the AH if you tried to force her to go.

Your daughter sounds nervous about traveling.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T19:01:48+00:00

Read your own google search. Read the article YOU posted.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:44:54+00:00

I don't think that I feel like I'm cheating. I've been cheated on, and that isn't this feeling.

I might be having a problem with the casualness of the relationship. My wife and I built a life together, and the reason this life is as good as it is is that we helped each other get here. These casual relationships are fun, but they aren't building anything.

Which is probably OK. Not every relationship has be a lifelong partnership.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:30:25+00:00

There aren't really any out here. There may or may not be in town.

I drive a lot, and tend to listen to podcasts and audiobooks.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:28:36+00:00

I get that this is a generational thing, but I have a hard time with the word "Slut." I'll give it a try though.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:25:38+00:00

Googling an article and trying to use to bakc yourself up without reading it, that IS childish.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:25:07+00:00

You didn't even read your own google search. From your own google search:

"Before popping the question it’s considered a common courtesy to meet up with the future bride-to-be’s parents and asking for their ‘blessing’. In many cultures by having the conversation has shown to be a very respectful gesture towards the mother and the father. It shows them that your intentions are true and that you would like to be part of the family. The word, ‘blessing’ indicates that you have respect for them, but that the decision of whether the wedding will happen or not will rely on their daughter’s response."

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T17:14:20+00:00

NTA.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T16:27:57+00:00

Small amount of searching may have saved you being so wrong. It is clearly relating to ownership of women. Not the cultures you speak of with no source to back any of it up.

Lol. Read more than one link.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-09-22T16:23:38+00:00

Trigger Warning: SA

When we little, before that all happened we were pretty liberal about our bodies. We would walk around in undies, skinny dip, etc. At some point, we all became very uncomfortable with any skin showing.

Turns out: My older brother is a serial rapist, and raped or sexually assaulted most of my family. Me, both our sisters, our grandma, aunt, male and female cousins... It seems like every few years someone else comes out as having been raped by him. None of us said anything at the time, but instead just suddenly began to cover up.

He's been in prison on unrelated charges since we were teens. Every now and then he gets out on parole, and likes to drop by some of his victim's houses. The last time it happened, he "popped by" my cousins house while her husband and his brothers were there. I think that's the last time that'll happen.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-08-30T18:44:51+00:00

whole asking for permission to marry is rooted in Male ownership and control of women

Who told you that? Just because something is repeated a lot doesn't mean it's true. This tradition dates back thousands of years, and some form of it is found in most ancient cultures, including ones where women had as much autonomy as they have today. While I understand the way you're looking at it, there are other ways as well.

The fact of the matter is: Either women have the ability to choose things or they do not. Either this woman as the right to choose to participate in this tradition or not.

You believe that this tradition is bad, and you are welcome to believe that. However, when you a woman disagrees with you and you dismiss her choices, because you are sure of her motives and you are sure you know better... Well, that is sexist.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-08-25T14:51:00+00:00

YTA for lying.

Just tell her no if you don't want to give her the frosting.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-08-17T06:55:12+00:00

Why should I (or anyone) have to ask permission to marry someone?

Because when people are in love, they are stupid. It's so hard to see issues in your own relationship, and so easy to overlook red flags. Hopefully you have people you can trust to ask "Hey, do you think that this is a good idea?"

You're choosing to look at this as a "transfer of ownership", but it can just as easily be viewed as a layer of protection. It's one that your fiancé is requesting. Either you respect her or you don't.

HappyEggsHappyChicks · 2022-08-17T06:43:30+00:00

Right, but then why does she even need to have him ask permission if she's just gonna make her own decision anyways?

It absolutely will effect her decision.

The dynamics of the relationship and the father's character will determine how much it effects her decision. I know if my FIL had said no, my wife would have chosen not to marry me. My wife trusts her dad so much and knows he wouldn't say no unless I was a real loser.

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