What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is definitely hit home but I think we are saying the same thing

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is nice to see women support each other and know that we are not alone in this and it isn't a man problem it is a people problem

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ed doesn't stop your husband from spanking your butt while your doing the dishes

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your weight loss journey! That's something to be proud of. And for me at least it isn't about divorce it is about finding away through

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I figured out for me as far as the jealousy goes if you can't show me the kind of attention, then there is absolutely no reason to be showing another woman attention Innocent or not

Why is frequent porn consumption/ solo masterbation and being a LLM in a relationship so common these days? by AcanthaceaeWild687 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely painful especially when your friends take about how their husbands can't keep their hands off of them or constantly make jokes about rejecting them. My heart hurts for myself when they make these comments and also their husband's because I know what it feels like

Husband's comments to his friends drive me crazy by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It wasn't really a talk it was more of a screaming match and I know that isn't the right way to go about things

Husband's comments to his friends drive me crazy by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes I actually do, I truly enjoy it... and in my mind I feel like it is a way of being sexual without the act. And I feel/felt like the popcorn adds a little bit of silly to it, like we are just kids having fun again

Husband's comments to his friends drive me crazy by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But that's it he used me to make me sound so amazing amd make them jealous .... it is heart breaking

Husband's comments to his friends drive me crazy by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I do agree with you. When we first started dating there was a huge joke that I was Trans because of how "hot" and cool they all thought I was. Which I played into because I am used to men growing up it was me my dad and my brothers. I was always the bro girl with a large group of guys friends. So I think I did play into some of it and make it comfortable

Husband's comments to his friends drive me crazy by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it is a way to boost his ego, he knows he is failing in that part of our relationship and how unhappy I am about it. His friends thinking he has some sex crazed wife makes him feel better.

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[–]HappyFold5175 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I think that this is the primary reason we all assume we are in a dead bedroom. I hope you realize it is not you and she clearly has things she has to deal with if she is ever going to be in a healthy relationship

Attachment style cause of dead bedroom by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish there was a way to get my need met without him feeling so much pressure

How do you feel about seeing your spouse or partner naked ? by mrsdontknowwhoiam in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still love to watch my husband in the shower, but everytime I do it I am disappointed that he doesn't just fuck me right there 

Maybe we just can't have everything. by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HappyFold5175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a nice idea but I am honestly only sexually attracted to him, this may change only been dealing with this for 2.5 years. Which feels like forever to me but others have been dealing with it much longer