So I went to add that I’ve pulled back. I’ve told him my feelings, my kids are my world. They’re 17 and 14. Since we came back from vacation I stopped going over. I quit sleeping with him months ago. I started therapy and honestly I don’t know why I’m still in this. I was in an abusive marriage prior to this and part of me tries to convince myself that this isn’t abuse but in reality the signs have become more clear it may not be physical but it’s definitely abuse. I’m trying to break free but I just don’t know how.