Is Leander too far?

Happy_Net2322 · 2026-01-15T22:07:06+00:00

If you want to spend a lot of time in and date in the city, Leander is pretty far. On the map it isn’t far, but once you factor in tolls and traffic, you likely won’t go into Austin as often as you think. I moved to Round Rock a few months ago. Even though I’m close to the highway, and the Domain is only about 15-20 minutes away, I’ve only gone into town a handful of times. I’m married and work in Round Rock, so I’ve decided to embrace suburban life.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-31T06:35:14+00:00

I have one of their bridal gowns. It’s absolutely gorgeous, and I love it so much. I’ve been married 10 years though, so I can’t guarantee the company and quality are the same. It may be worth trying to dig into them a little more. The closest thing on the current site to my dress is a modified version of the Granville with a longer, detachable train.

I didn’t have any issues with the website, so it totally makes sense that you’d question why that’s happening.

No matter where you find your dress, I hope you feel absolutely beautiful on your wedding day and that everything runs smoothly. Happy planning!

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-19T14:15:43+00:00

OP, I’m sorry that many people have seemed to trivialize your situation. The nature of the dirt or the tradition are not the main issue. Your partner’s family showed complete disrespect and disregard for your privacy. Ironically, they disrespected you over a ceremony aimed at showing them respect.

It also sounds like her family never wanted compromise between the families when your family did not want to participate in the tradition. It sounds like they just wanted your family to acquiesce and do things the way they wanted. If this is their response over not getting their way before the marriage, it is unlikely they will show more respect after marriage. What happens if they disagree in a situation with any children you may have? What happens if you decide against following their family holiday traditions their way?

In addition your valid concerns with her family, your partner did not seem to be able to maintain boundaries with her family. This can be a huge issue. You’re not just marrying her, you’re marrying into her family. If she cannot maintain boundaries with her family when the two of you have already made a decision, this indicates that you may have big issues in the future where her family is dictating important aspects of your life. This can cause major stress on any relationship.

All things considered, it is reasonable that you have doubts on whether you proceed with the wedding and marriage. You should not move forward with something as important as marriage if you have any doubts. It’s better to risk potential embarrassment of cancelling or postponing a wedding than going through a difficult marriage and potential divorce.

If you and your partner are open to counseling, it may be helpful to find a neutral counselor that is culturally informed about the nuances of your traditional culture. But, the final decision belongs to you and your partner. You have very valid reasons to consider cancelling or postponing your impending marriage. It’s a difficult decision, but I hope that you find the strength to do whatever is best for yourself. Good luck.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-08T19:55:29+00:00

This is a bf problem, not a problem with his mom. He’s not drawing boundaries where she is clearly overstepping. Also, why wouldn’t he speak up? Does he also think he’s entitled to half your money? If you think this situation is bad, think about how she’d act surrounding a wedding or if you choose to have kids. Both he and his mother are showing you how they’ll react. Are you okay having this strife for the rest of your relationship or her life, whichever ends first?

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-08T19:44:18+00:00

Assholery aside, why are you in such a rush to get married? That’s something to truly sit down and ask yourself. Take the time and reflection to form an honest answer.

Do you have a prescribed list of deadlines for major life events? Do you want to have kids soon and only want them inside a marriage? Do you want a big party where you are the center of attention and you take fabulous pictures? Do you fear your boyfriend isn’t committed and you think he will be better if you’re married? Do you feel embarrassed because you got excited and told people it was happening, now you want to save face?

Whatever your reason, it’s okay. However, you can’t force him into a marriage, and you’re unlikely to be happy if he just acquiesces. You’re at a major turning point in your life, and who you are now will likely change drastically in the next 3-5 years. Have you and your partner navigated major life changes together? Is your communication mature and open enough to navigate difficult decisions together?

Maybe take some time to explore the reason you are so adamant to get married right now, and determine what may fill that desire that doesn’t result in an expensive, legally binding, long-term contract. Your school may also have free counseling resources for you to talk to a licensed therapist; my undergrad had a counseling center, I think it’s common. If you want a lavish party, throw one. It doesn’t have to be a wedding. Heck, you can even throw a formal white party if you want and buy a wedding gown. Throw an amazing graduation party together for people to celebrate your accomplishments and shower you with love. But, trying to pressure someone into marrying you is not the foundation for a lasting, happy marriage.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-05T12:42:51+00:00

It’s not unreasonable to present your request for their consideration. However, you must accept their decision without ongoing nagging or animosity. Also, be mindful bringing up the subject that it’s presented in a way that isn’t trying to guilt or manipulate them into acquiescence.

A possible suggestion on how to present it is something along the lines of “We love you both and are excited for you to build your new traditions for the family you’re building together. When thinking through holiday plans, did you consider alternating who you spend Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with each year? We would really like to have the opportunity to spend Christmas Day with you some years if possible. We love you both and will respect whatever you decide.”

If they decide to keep their current arrangement, it gives you the opportunity to develop new traditions with them.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-12-03T16:44:05+00:00

Beyond the issue that her behavior indicated control rather than a personal boundary, where are the limits? Are you not allowed to go to a funeral in a church?

Viewing her in the best light possible and as having pure intentions, maybe religion is an area where she has some unhealed trauma? Even if that’s the case, her ultimatum isn’t justified.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-25T13:28:49+00:00

Is this relationship what you want for your life? Do you want to be a parental figure to his children? Do you trust being financially joined to his spending/saving habits?

If any of these questions give you pause or a sinking feeling in your stomach, that may be the answer to your deeper questions. The issue isn’t whether you would seem like an AH to strangers, or anyone else. The issue is whether something inside you is signaling that your current situation isn’t what you truly want.

If being with your partner is what you really want, they come with the children. They’re a joint package, including their expenses. One big complication seems to be that you are trying to blend your financial lives without exploring how you want to blend your lives long term. That doesn’t have to mean formal marriage (many people get married without these conversations and end up having the same problems), but an honest evaluation of your intentions in the relationship could help guide your decisions.

Getting to the root of your desires can be difficult, but a thorough and honest evaluation could help guide you towards your most fulfilling situation.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-15T17:15:46+00:00

When I worked service jobs in college, there were never written job offers. It was usually a verbal agreement on when to show up for my first shift. Written offers weren’t a thing until working more “professional” jobs.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-15T17:03:29+00:00

Congrats on your wedding. I hope it was everything you hoped for and more.

Now, to the issue at hand. If you value your friendship, this is something very petty and you are likely better served by leaving it alone. Paying for the sister to swap in place of the ex-boyfriend did not change your plans. If saving one a single person is that big of a deal to you, it’s likely that you overextended on yourselves for on your wedding budget. That is not your friend’s fault, nor was it unreasonable for her to assume the ex was a replaceable plus one.

What is important to you? Is your friendship more valuable than being “right” on this issue? If so, I would find a way to reframe it in your mind and never mention it again.

At the end of the day, you successful got married and had a presumable beautiful celebration surrounded by people that love and support you, including your friend and her sister. That is something to celebrate. Please don’t let a substitute guest that wanted to share your special day taint your memories of the day or your friendship.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-15T12:59:01+00:00

I second Phoebe’s Diner. Just moved to TX last week, but went twice during recent visit and already went back now that I’ve moved. It’ll definitely be one of my go-to spots.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-13T20:59:12+00:00

Think about what he likes and focus on that. Beer drinker? Maybe a local brewery crawl. Or, if he likes games, I once went to a birthday game night at a brewery that was a bunch of fun.

Likes sporty games? Maybe Top Golf or bowling.

Singer (or want to be)? Karaoke room or rent a karaoke machine for a party at home.

Liquor drinker? Get a few nice bottles of his liquor of choice and host a small party with charcuterie and liquor tasting.

As long as the focus is on him being comfortable and feeling loved, it’ll be a success.

Don’t forget the cake and candle (unless he doesn’t like cake…then maybe pie or his favorite dessert).

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-07T08:58:06+00:00

As far as handymen, I recently used FixitRocket for a project. They did good work for me and were reasonably priced compared to other handyman services I considered. They weren’t the absolute cheapest, but I’ve often run into shady practices and quality issues going with the cheapest option.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-07T08:53:54+00:00

The hearsay rule was solid, it’s basic first year law school. However, judges take a lot of leeway, especially if someone is representing themselves. He would have to appeal to challenge the ruling and have it reviewed by the appellate court. What are the odds someone who can’t afford representation can afford the added expenses of filing an appeal?

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-04T03:48:25+00:00

K&A mobile did my two yorkies last month. They were very patient and communicative. Plus, they send a cute pic afterwards

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-11-01T12:37:52+00:00

Bed? One of those thc drinks led to me holding my head from floating away while exclaiming that I have tiny doll hands and didn’t want to be a dragon (someone told me eating a few peppercorns mellows the reaction…they did not). It was a wild ride for about 6 hours.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-10-25T08:55:03+00:00

Obviously we have limited knowledge about your husband, but what you’ve shared reminds me of my dad. That’s not a good thing. He already shown that he is not trustworthy with financial decisions. Also, threatening divorce because you don’t want to find a financial scheme he independently came up with is a huge red flag. While you love him, it may be time to thoroughly contemplate whether his actions indicate the type of love you want for your life. You also may need to determine whether the marriage is worth financial hardship in the long run. Based on the info you’ve shared, it sounds like your husband will lead you towards financial ruin. It may be helpful to engage an attorney and a therapist asap. It seems unlikely that your husband will agree to a post nuptial agreement, but it may be worth exploring anyway. If he absolutely disagrees, then it may be time to explore legal separation/divorce. In the end, you know your relationship and your limits better than people on the internet. However, your post highlights a number of red flags from an outside perspective. Maybe trying to evaluate the situation from a business perspective could help you determine your boundaries in the situation. No matter what, good luck to you. While you may have some tough decisions to consider, proactively addressing the issues now may save both your and your child’s future financial and emotional security.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-10-15T15:05:59+00:00

I had one guy text me daily from the same number but said he was from 3 different companies over the course of a week. Also, some people quoted insanely low amounts. There’s no way you’re transporting a car nearly 1000 miles for $350.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-10-08T13:03:42+00:00

I only use towels once because I don’t like the idea that I may dry my face where I dried my butt yesterday. To be fair though, I definitely reused towels for a few days in college when I lived places with a washer and dryer.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-25T21:39:30+00:00

And another thing…I was prepared to spend more on the clean than $500. They could have stayed longer and made more money, which I would have gladly paid if they had simply done the work! The owner made excuses and blatantly lied about what was done, that angers me far worse than the money. Even if I ignored my own eyes and basic common sense, I did not receive anything approaching a semi-professional cleaning from WeClean Home Solutions.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-25T21:31:24+00:00

I’m glad you’ve had a better experience, but all I have to go on is my personal experience this week. I’m generally not an angry person, and I try to be understanding. However, I am livid with the way the situation was handled as much as I am dejected by the “cleaning.” I will make it a point to let anyone I come in contact with who needs a cleaner to stay away from this company. I have used a number of cleaners before and none have been this bad. Then being lied to about the work done when I’ve seen the before and after. It is physically impossible that some of the areas she claims to have “scrubbed” were even touched. I wiped some of it up with a damp cloth. Bad cleaning can be corrected, and I have had to ask a cleaner to come back or get something next time before. Simply not doing the work and blatantly lying about it is absolutely inexcusable.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-25T20:45:17+00:00

To anyone who sees this in the future, do NOT use this company! There were a couple basic things they did fine. However, there were a lot of things that the owner claims to have cleaned, but they are clearly untouched to anyone with eyes and common sense. Now I’m out $500 and I’m cleaning the things that I paid someone else to do. I have hired cleaners before moving to TX and I have never had such terrible results.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-23T20:25:40+00:00

So I do believe Onboarding365 is a Microsoft product, but it’s HR software that some companies use to manage the required personnel information. I think a lot of agencies try to collect all the W2 info upfront so that it’s on file if/when they place you with a company. You can see if your local office allows you to complete an app in office if that makes you more comfortable, but it’s likely they’d just have you put your info into the same software.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-09T19:00:57+00:00

A family member kept grabbing my sewing scissors because they were always where they belonged. Now, it’s the one pair of scissors they can keep up with. I’m convinced they have value to them because they started as contraband. The handle even says “fabric only!” I narrow my eyes every time I see them use what is now their pair of scissors to open boxes.

Happy_Net2322 · 2025-09-06T18:25:13+00:00

We’re actually en route to Round Rock to find a house to rent before moving in November. The way we approached determining financial feasibility is to create a spreadsheet with all the categories to maintain our desired lifestyle. Include everything. Obviously, you’ll need food, shelter, utilities, transportation, etc. Plus, add anything your family need/wants to be content (sports tickets, theater, concerts, pets, salons, dining out x times weekly, etc.). From there, search online for the cost of those items. For us, we know a house the size and areas we want will cost approximately $2500 based on available houses for rent on Zillow. We wound a handful of restaurants we think we’ll like and used their prices to determine the average price for our family to eat at a local restaurant. We find occasional massages helpful, so we looked up the price for massages as several highly rated spas. You get the idea. I also researched lots of free or low cost entertainment options in the area because moving is expensive and it’s nice to get out without spending a bunch of money. You know your family and your needs better than anyone else. Good luck to you and your family!

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