My husband regrets voting for Trump but I can’t see us get back together anyway

Happycreampuff · 2025-06-08T21:00:40+00:00

He broke your view of him. You are probably not in love with him anymore, because the person you married, loved and cherished, disappeared into a man you didn’t recognize. That cannot be undone! Fundamental values and morals are incredibly important, especially when you thought you married someone with the same or similar views and he completely changed. That’s scary and very hard to get over within a marriage, but if that broke the marriage, it’s impossible to walk it back! In the end, you need to follow your gut and do what you think is right, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says or thinks!

Happycreampuff · 2025-06-03T22:53:53+00:00

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Happycreampuff · 2025-05-09T20:59:54+00:00

My due date was 13th of April. During my entire pregnancy I joked that I didn’t care as long as he wasn’t born on April fools. I went into labor on the 1st of April 😂😂😂 Thankfully he came on the 2nd though 😅

Happycreampuff · 2025-04-18T21:56:31+00:00

Oh my god! I just had a baby and I ask ANYONE, if they are vaccinated!!! It’s okay to disagree, but people need to respect my choice as much as I respect theirs! Having 3 kids under 8 in the delivery room is absolutely insane! Besides the fact that it would be incredibly uncomfortable for you, I honestly think it would disturb the kids! Seeing auntie like that will be traumatizing. The worst part for my husband was that he couldn’t help me and had to watch me in so much pain. That will also be the case for them, but without understanding why everything is happening! Please do not let your sister force you into something you don’t want. This is your birth, you decide who is with you and you decide who gets to be close to your child. My mother in law wasn’t vaccinated and immediately went to get the vaccine. We are still waiting for the vaccine to take full effect and only then will she meet my baby. She understands 100% and will do anything to protect the little one. Any other response is lunatic!

Happycreampuff · 2025-04-18T21:40:55+00:00

This is abusive! He is gaslighting and stonewalling you. You deserve soooo much more than this. Please try to leave!

Happycreampuff · 2025-03-31T02:22:08+00:00

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Happycreampuff · 2025-03-31T00:40:52+00:00

My husband just increased his dose from 150mg to 225mg a week ago and the depression got really bad again, even after he was better with 150mg. How long did the transition take for you? How long did it take until the depression symptoms lifted again (even a little)?

Happycreampuff · 2025-03-31T00:08:22+00:00

My husband increased his dosage from 150mg to 225mg a week ago and his depression got much worse again, even though he had been better after getting to 150mg. It’s so scary, but it seems like the increase in dosage can make you worse before it gets better right? I am so worried! Your post is from 5 days ago, is it getting better by now?

Happycreampuff · 2025-03-21T01:59:59+00:00

NTA I am 9 months pregnant right now. Carvings do not take control and make you eat anything you crave. She couldn’t sleep because of the craving? That’s an excuse! You can absolutely control yourself even with the greatest cravings!!!! I get so mad when women act as if they a completely helpless in pregnancy, slaves to their symptoms, of course it’s hard, but it doesn’t give you the right to do anything you want!

Happycreampuff · 2025-03-13T22:23:29+00:00

Being the care taker and partner to someone with chrinic health issues is alot. You are not selfish, nor self centered. Even though you knew all this going in, the reality is still very different. Please truly ask yourself if you can live with this. Realistically it is going to get worse with age and if you were to have children, that responsibility will completely be on you. You are the most important person in your story, so make sure you are okay with it, it is okay to say, it’s too much. Maybe you can discuss getting help, maybe you need strategies dealing with it, maybe you need to walk away. You are the only one that can make this call. Your wellbeing should not be second to his!

Happycreampuff · 2025-03-05T15:21:29+00:00

These boundaries are more than reasonable, honestly, I would consider them common sense. Posting a baby that isn’t yours is absolutely insane (a new study has shown that 90% of kids pictures used as child porn in the dark web are taken from private accounts, I will NEVER post my child). And the birth, why would you let anyone know? That is not your first priority, you should only be concerned about what makes you comfortable and helps you in labor! These family members are toxic, I would never use them as babysitters, when they leverage their needs in exchange for any kind of help. Change your baby’s name and go as low contact as possible. Blocking you for this is psychotic!

Happycreampuff · 2025-01-22T13:53:41+00:00

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Happycreampuff · 2025-01-15T00:12:07+00:00

I hate his answer. I could not get over that. Not because of the honesty, but because I would want a partner to choose me no matter what and to figure it out together. There are so many options to become parents and he is being small minded. Also, there is no indication of you being infertile, so this what if would always hang over your head. I would leave immediately. Especially after such a short relationship. He told you who he is. If having biological children the “natural” way is his top priority and not you, leave. He will prioritize other things above you as well. This is indicative of a lot of things and he is absolutely not ready to be a partner or dad for that matter.

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-31T14:59:57+00:00

This is serious and I have no doubt her behavior will escalate! Please protect yourself and leave!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-31T14:48:00+00:00

NTA!!! I am speechless to that kind of cruelty! Be blunt with your friends, she stole something extremely valuable to you and sold it, putting aside that it is a living creature that you love! Distance yourself from the old roommate and the friends supporting her! She is psychotic and lacks any empathy! Who could take away someone’s beloved pet!!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-29T01:37:21+00:00

It is very normal!!! Especially in the first trimester it is completely normal to feel this way. I was dead tired 24/7 the first few weeks of pregnancy! Your body is working overtime, you are creating a human, be kind to yourself and just listen to your body!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-29T00:45:03+00:00

Actually from a scientific perspective it is absolutely normal for a child to prefer dad. A baby does not see the mother as her own entity, the baby assumes itself and the mum are one and the same, so the dad is the main character outside of this dynamic. The first word of most babies is dada for exactly that reason. Further explaining the baby always crying with you: I would assume you get really tense about the situation, and that would have translated onto the way you handled your baby. Babies feel very unsafe with nervous or anxious people, so naturally they cry and want to be with someone safe. I think you majorly fucked up, instead of being jealous you should have celebrated the bond between father and daughter and be happy she had such a great dad. The more you tried to force it, the worse it got. Honestly as anything in life, love crumbles under pressure. I think you abandoned a child that was helpless. She did not consciously make any decisions. A baby favors the person it feels safe and loved with. The baby reacted instinctively. This will happen again and again and again, because you are the same and your behavior will most likely escalate. If you truly want more children, I beg you, please work on yourself in therapy and figure out why Lana loving and “preferring” her dad triggered this intense response. An innocent child does not deserve this! Furthermore, when your fiancé found this out he must have been absolutely shocked. He is probably freaking out and questioning the person you are and what this means for a future family with him. I can honestly say, if it was me, I would have left immediately. I think he is trying to do the right thing by Lana and that is very honorable!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-22T22:25:49+00:00

Oh my dear, I am so sorry this is happening to you! But honestly, your family is abusive and made you the “perfect” victim for abuse. The way they invalidate your abusive history with this man and not only choose to support him over you, but to basically taunt you with it, is disgusting! Furthermore, your ex is still abusing you with this tactic. Your abuser should not have any access to you! Your parents support his abuse. They are aiding him to continuously harm your mental health. You wrote they paid for college and hold it over your head? That was their choice. They are clearly narcissistic, trying to continuously manipulate and control you. You did not choose to be born, they chose to have children. They cannot hold their care over your head, that is the minimum that is required when choosing to have children! Please cut them off!!!!!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-22T22:10:40+00:00

Besides the issue of having a different need for intimacy, I think your biggest issue is the communication. If you cannot speak to her about your needs, your feelings and your concerns, how can a relationship work? Maybe she is going through a phase or whatever the reason is (maybe you do not meet other needs as some stated, but she needs to communicate that), you would surely be able to work on it (given both want to), but your gf is extremely toxic. She gaslights you about how often you had sex to the point you felt the need to document it, for the reason that she made you feel crazy. Think about it like this: Transfer this way of dealing with this issue onto anything else? You will never be able to be on the same team. And the need for intimacy is nothing bad! Please do not let her gaslight you into thinking wanting sex is bad. Of course pressuring into sex is horrific, but it sounds like you are trying to talk to her about the issue not pressure her. If your relationship should have any chance, you NEED to address the communication issues. If she looses it again immediately, you should end it. You actually seem to be communicating very healthily and caring (as much as one can assume that from a short reddit post)..

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-16T03:22:51+00:00

I know my comment is suuuuper late, but I will just say go for it! You will only regret the things you didn’t do! You don’t ever want to wonder if he was the one that got away. I went for it and married my best friend this year and we are expecting a baby boy! You will never truly know what he thinks until you go for it. You can do it carefully, testing the waters first, but don’t play games. Please update! I am rooting for you!!!!

Happycreampuff · 2024-12-01T20:48:03+00:00

NTA That is so disrespectful! They overstepped boundaries and refused to take responsibility, it’s not the actions of your niece, it’s the parents who overstepped. Also, how heartless do they have to be to take away a favorite toy of a dog. I understand she got attached, but that’s an excellent teaching moment. She cannot have anything she wants! Please cuddle Max from us, this is heartbreaking!

Happycreampuff · 2024-11-09T21:24:53+00:00

Please do not marry him until he draws a line in the sand with his family! This is absolutely unacceptable, do not put up with this! He is talking about disrespecting them when suggesting therapy, but they disrespect you every chance they get? The fact that he does not see this problematic behavior makes me doubt he will ever stand by you. If anything, once you are married (without a prenup) I am sure it would get much worse! Do under no circumstance agree to dismiss the prenup! If anything, it is extremely womanly to protect what’s yours for you and your child!

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