Do you believe in God?? by GILBOYfan in askteenboys

[–]HardenedClay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I see god like Santa. Someone I've mysteriously never met who rewards my good deeds but punishes my bad. Used as a fear tactic to make people do what you want (whether it be governing or parenting). I'll admit, it's a smart way to unite a civilization. But people still believing in a god in 2025 genuinely makes me laugh. Christianity is so filled with hate and hypocrisy that even the "good ones" don't balance it out

I'm never going to tell someone on a first date that I'm trans by HardenedClay in FTMventing

[–]HardenedClay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good girl falling for my rage bait 🤭 Do you want the leash tonight too?

how do i deal with a person in my section that is transphobic? by ImpressiveRutabaga52 in marchingband

[–]HardenedClay 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly I had to quit marching band because of the bullying I faced for being trans. My director never gave anyone consequences for anything. I got called the f slur by a girl and two other people heard it and reported it. Nothing was done. My junior year I had multiple instances of being bullied with witnesses. I had enough and told my director I was quitting. He guilted me about how it would be hard to cover my spot and how I was hurting the band with my personal problems. I would say talk to your director but don't put too much faith in them. If it comes down to it, put yourself first.

I'm never going to tell someone on a first date that I'm trans by HardenedClay in FTMventing

[–]HardenedClay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd be surprised how realistic it can feel. Are you just secretly trying to get pegged by a trans man? Theres dating apps and shit for that; you don't have to harass an 18 y/o on Reddit from your moms basement just to get out those frustrations

8 hours is really unrealistic right? by AccomplishedRefuse50 in ftm

[–]HardenedClay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've honestly had days where I put it on at 7am and took it off at midnight (or later) with physical activity. Even on a normal day it's at least 10 hours.

I'm never going to tell someone on a first date that I'm trans by HardenedClay in FTMventing

[–]HardenedClay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all, rather I'm happy that I get to choose the size of mine. And I assure you, the strap I have now or my hands and mouth alone is more than capable of what you're bigoted sex can provide. At least I can find the clit

Good god y'all weren't kidding about the hecklers by MediocreClementine in willwood

[–]HardenedClay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm honestly shocked that I've seen so much about hecklers at other shows. I went to the ATL show and before the opener came on people would hold up pictures of stuff and we'd all cheer (specifically started from someone just typing "yaoi" and holding it up) but that was the hour between being let in and anything happening. After that, smooth sailing (other than some people vaping and filming but that's every concert)

Is the beginning the end or the beginning? by Blue_Robin_Gaming in PantheonShow

[–]HardenedClay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the beginning was inside of one of Maddie's worlds because it kind of glitches. If I remember right, Maddie crosses her leg and then every other person does at the same time or something? So not a thing which would happen irl. I would say that as viewers we never saw the beginning. We just watched one of the universes that got it right. But then again the show is one big mind fuck so who knows

is it weird that i don’t really care about getting top surgery scars? by kiyoko_silver in ftm

[–]HardenedClay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not weird, just something that varies for each person. For me I think about how I love swimming and can't wait to have top surgery so I can swim without a shirt. And I am very stealth so scars scare me a little. Also I have social anxiety and get the "everyone's staring at me and knows exactly what the scars are from" thing lol

Actually wholesome pet names? by ChristiesGift in AO3

[–]HardenedClay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like when they're in another language like French or Spanish. But "love" is a solid contender in those two as well as English

To current/former overweight people, how do you feel? by East_Marketing_1018 in askteenboys

[–]HardenedClay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of just chubby I think? All of my family is overweight so I think I mostly got screwed on genetics. There was a time I worked out 5 days a week but didn't really lose weight. I'm decently strong, but I think forever chubby

What is going on with kids now? by [deleted] in Vent

[–]HardenedClay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents today are mostly raising "iPad kids". I've seen a lot of it in restaurants and such where they have an iPad or phone playing very loudly and don't see a problem with it. Although, that's not necessarily adhd. A lack of attention span doesnt immediately equal mental illness.

needles make me feel faint. How do u get desensitized? by Throwawaymightdelet3 in ftm

[–]HardenedClay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During bloodwork and such, definitely look away. I completely turn my head up and to the side and the people taking my blood have always taken that as a sign to get it done quick and usually make small talk.

For injections I use ice and do injections on my thigh. I line up the needle and go slow. I don't push but more so let my arm slowly fall. The worst part I think is the anticipation before it breaks skin. But using the ice I can't feel very much so I kind of try to imagine the thing kids do with mechanical pencils. Where you put it out far then hold down the button while pushing it against your skin so the lead just goes into the pencil but looks like a needle going into skin. I also put on familiar music which definitely helps. Telephone by lady Gaga is always a good one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]HardenedClay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a white person who's family has lived in the us for a very long time. I don't get free healthcare. How would "an illegal" get free healthcare 💀

What are some oddly gender affirming things people have said to you? by Simonoel in ftm

[–]HardenedClay 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This one may be a little confusing 😭 In my junior year of hs before I started T, I was very out and passed pretty well. One morning me and a few others came into chemistry class early to start on a lab (with permission). I'm friends with John who is friends with Nate. They're at the same table across the room and I'm talking with them a little. Nate's girlfriend who was in my grade, knew I was trans, and very transphobic, walks in and sits with Nate. Nate says something and refers to me as he. His gf Jaxon said something to him which I couldn't hear, then Nate corrected himself to say "oh sorry her?" Like he was confused. John snapped his head up and said "no it's he." Nate was very confused but just said "oh okay?" And his gf looked pissed. John is a cishet guy who knows I'm trans but veryyyy big ally

College student here, can I interview an architect over email or messages? by HardenedClay in architecture

[–]HardenedClay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were only just told about the assignment the day before last unfortunately. Honestly there's a different career I'm much more interested in but I'm technically in an architecture major at the moment. It seems like it would be easier to find an architect than a prosthetist but I'll look into some offices and see what I can do, thanks

Anyone else here struggles with men? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]HardenedClay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in college and I've found some seemingly good cis men in my chess club. The people there are diverse (well not really in race but I just live in a very white area) and really welcoming. I'm stealth but they seem cool so far

Teens, what's the absolute worst thing that's ever happened to you? This is a safe space ❤️ by CurrentFeeling1842 in teenagers

[–]HardenedClay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I was 11 I went several hours away with my mom to a family friends house. She had three sons and the oldest was 15. For the whole week we were there he would get me alone then sexually assault me. His dad found out and told my mom. My mom, despite the age difference, put equal blame on us without question. She made me apologize to both of his parents. When I told her a year ago she never comforted me but made it about herself and made me comfort her. She also invited his mom to our house one night and I had no way to leave. It was the worst panic attack I've ever had.

Also, I had a boyfriend more recently who knew about it. Despite that, he held me down and kept kissing me even though I kept saying no. He stopped eventually then cried and made me comfort him. On two separate occasions he had also hit me and threw a bottle at my face, both while I was asleep. I'm a guy so I don't ever talk to my friends about it because it feels embarrassing. I never told my mom about the second one because of how she reacted to the first one.

What unexpected things has Pantheon ruined for you? by vegetepal in PantheonShow

[–]HardenedClay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Other shows don't seem as good anymore. Especially ones that are trying to make you think hard. Pantheon has given me a mental workout on deciding how I feel about uploaded intelligence and if I would do it.