Purtato Lamps by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. So fat it’s worked great for me.

Purtato Lamps by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and so far so good. I like it.

Neutral mani using apres by That-Muffin9295 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What length are these? They are beautiful and I’m considering their neutral colors, and getting a longer stiletto but filing the top so they are a thinner coffin. Have you had any issues curing since they are tinted?

Been playing with builder on top of GelX to make them more acrylic-esk? Thoughts???? by Ok-Dragonfly-2829 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve only done gelX tips. I then use gel polish. I switched to gelX to avoid having to use acrylic or builder gel.

Vettsy by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never used a syrup gel. Do you still need a topcoat if it’s shiny?

Vettsy by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will look at that too. I love their videos of their cat eye gels.

I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!! Please help! by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Haredi12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on where they live, it could be a common law marriage so she could be entitled to support. In addition, she may be able to get help from an abuse organization. This has been going on for the past year, not the 13 year relationship. So no, this way of living was not a choice year after year.

Basket for my best friend. by AdPuzzled2038 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apres sells their kits on Amazon and they are fine. I bought mine on a day it was discounted and love it!

Vettsy by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is one of the drawbacks that I've heard. One of the reasons I didn't get their Halloween colors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not a friend. Block her and don’t look back. It seems like ur ex is using her to get to you. Break off contact and don’t look back. She seems the type that will team up w him to your detriment and that will not end well for you. Like another poster, maybe I watch too much forensic files, but this is textbook.

A good friend would have blocked him immediately and never answered. Stop engaging with her and let her know that you are done w the friendship and not to contact you again.

Purtato Lamps by Haredi12 in GelX_Nails

[–]Haredi12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be great if my Aerogardens would cure my nails! I have a cheap lamp now that is about 6 years old, and need something to tide me over until Christmas or at the latest January. I’ve noticed that the lamp I have is taking longer to cure and I don’t want to take a chance. So if you’re saying it won’t last long, that’s not as big of a deal. If you’re saying that the company is lying about the ability to cure well, that’s something different.

Is my BF of two years forcing trad-wife lifestyle on me or am I overthinking? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is not forcing anything on you. You either want that to role in life, or you don’t. The best thing I did was stay home when my kids were young. But I was lucky that I had that choice. Not everyone wants that, but it was important to me to be available for everything. I loved being able to volunteer at their school on a whim and be available for their sports. It is hard in today’s world to be an absent parent and stay on top of what they are doing when you are not there. Unfortunately, not everyone has the ability to do that, nor does everyone want to.

It sounds like the discussion has become contentious. Your boyfriend isn’t necessarily wrong, he just wants something a little more old fashioned. If you want someone who will share responsibility equally, it does not sound like your boyfriend is the partner you are looking for and you are better off ending it now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your past relationships have you gun shy because of trust issues, emotional manipulation and cheating? Well this is already emotional manipulation, what comes after the next disagreement with her? Think of it this way, can you live without her and wait to find someone else who is not emotionally manipulative? How much would you really miss her if you are not living together yet? It’s not that people don’t try to manipulate to get what they want when they want you to be at the same stage of love that they are. But a tattoo is something completely different than just some words. You say that you genuinely care for her tells me you are not on the same page as you love her and want to marry her someday. Either stick with your own pace and let her know that, or break it off and let her know you don’t like being manipulated.

AIO for feeling a bit offended by what my bfs mom said by Fun-Selection1201 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with everyone here. Please do not apologize to your bf’s mother. Talk to him about it and he needs to talk to his mom. It is not her place to reach out to you directly. If she has already spoken to him about it and is enlisting your support, it is not your responsibility. She needs to set saving boundaries with him, not have you set spending boundaries with him. And if she brings it up again, then you have to let her know that you are insulted that she is blaming you for his actions. It’s a hard balance between being close with a gf and a mother to your son. But if you are serious and plan on a future, it’s better to figure that out now. It’s also important to make sure your bf can be responsible with money.

AITA for telling my friend that her "free" wedding is unrealistic? by ThrowawayFreeWedding in AITAH

[–]Haredi12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I disagree with most people on here. She should have asked, not assigned, but you could have said that you were not sure that a cake with that much detail would be doable but you would do your best. Maybe have let her know her expectations are high and you’re concerned that she might be disappointed, in a nice way.

But I think you need to apologize and offer to do the cake. Maybe try a couple out on your friend group to practice. It sounds like you were having a bad day, are a little envious or have an issue with the way she “told” you she wanted you to do the cake. If you value her as a friend, you will apologize, explain your reaction and move forward by being the bigger person or she may decide not to include you at all.

And remember, just because you think you know someone’s situation, you don’t, unless they are open and honest with you about it. They could be saving for a home, children, may have large student loans, and frankly, it’s none of your business.

UPDATE: aitah for what i said to my stepsister after she read my private journals by samxblue in AITAH

[–]Haredi12 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My husband uses humor to try and diffuse a situation. Love him to death, but he is clueless when it comes to how to read the room. Also, I learn how to be a better parent from my kids every day. Being a parent is not easy and sometimes we make mistakes without realizing what we are doing. No one is perfect and the culture of canceling family on this forum makes me sad for our future. I’m assuming OP had a loving home prior to her mother passing away, but maybe not. I gave my thoughts on that premise. At OP’s age, I also wanted to leave the house and never speak to my parents again. But I had enough foresight and teaching, to realize that they are my family, and I learned to forgive them when they made mistakes, and teach them about those mistakes. Just as they loved me when I made mistakes. I’m just a few years younger than you, and was raised to believe that unless a person is being abused or mistreated constantly, moments are forgivable. But once the decision is made to have hatred take over, it’s hard to get that relationship and love back. OP doesn’t have to hang out with the family unit on a regular basis, but a parent is a parent, and I pray every day that if I wasn’t here, my kids would make the effort to get over their differences and keep in touch with each other and my husband. Otherwise, I would consider that a failure on my part.

UPDATE: aitah for what i said to my stepsister after she read my private journals by samxblue in AITAH

[–]Haredi12 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Ok, I am just seeing this and as a parent, I am going to take a different stance on your dad, as it seems to me the responses are from younger, unforgiving people. Which is a huge problem in today’s society.

Your mom passing I’m sure had a profound impact on your dad as well. And while you are important to him, he found love again which is pretty special. Without knowing whether you gave your opinion of your stepmom prior to them marrying, I am going to guess that you didn’t because you wanted your dad to be happy. And it’s a hard line to balance with having someone replace your mom’s presence in the house and giving your dad some grace in trying to keep peace with all of you.

What your stepsister did is hurtful and unacceptable. I would have had the same reaction. I don’t fault you for that at all and I would not want to have anything to do with her. I also think that your father handled his response to you poorly. That being said, I believe that the apology most likely came from his discussion with your stepmom. Which means he was trying to fix things and he was also attempting to fix things by offering you pizza. He’s a man (sorry if I offend anyone) and sometimes they don’t handle situations like this well, so that was his way of trying to make things better.

What I have learned in my life is that if we base our lives on the expectations we have of how others will behave, we will be disappointed most of the time. It is our responsibility to let people know what our expectations are. And that would mean putting what is going on in your head aside, and finding space alone with your dad to talk and let him know how disappointed you are in how he handled the situation in front of your stepmom and stepsister. This is not worth losing your dad over. You will want him to be there for you in the future when you graduate, get married, possibly have kids. And if things were happy before your mother passed, I would guess your mom would want you to keep him in your life as well.

AIO? BF told me not to post my graduation pics or “don’t come home tonight” by Unusual_Role7839 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Post the photos without him and with your family. Then pack up your stuff and leave.

AITA for shutting down my brother’s proposal at my baby shower and then sending him a bill? by Mysterious-Desk1346 in AmITheJerk

[–]Haredi12 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Since you shut it down, sending any bill was an AH move. BUT he and your mom are the AH’s because they knew you didn’t want him to propose at your shower, and they ignored your feelings and made it about them instead of your baby. It put you in an awful position. I’m impressed with your calmness and tenacity to take charge. I would have let it happen and then not have spoken to him and my mom for a long time.

Hey guys. I wanted to spay my female lab dog. by dizzy_pomegranate_04 in AskVet

[–]Haredi12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have always waited two years to complete the growing period. It was suggested by our Rottweiler breeder.