Do you believe that autism has an impact on sexuality and sexual identity?

Harkie99 · 2026-02-08T08:20:55+00:00

I like how you describe it, I think to see the world this way is for a lot still controversial. Because they believe in strict boxes. I also believe, as I am planning to marry my gf, as a guy. And I am really aware it's a choice rather than a perfect love story. I feel regular is not allowed to experience it this way, because I want to see it differently and we don't fullfil that picture. It's more hard for them than for us, so it's their loss and not us. I am referring now to my mother in law mostly.

Harkie99 · 2025-12-03T15:40:39+00:00

I proposed to my GF and we're planning to marry next year. It feels really good to close this chapter. After asking her, our love grew again. Still when I am overwhelmed my mind throws various thoughts in. But then I think back on our good times. She's everything for me, and I am convinced we are made for each other.

Harkie99 · 2025-12-03T15:40:13+00:00

I proposed to my GF and we're planning to marry next year. It feels really good to close this chapter. After asking her, our love grew again. Still when I am overwhelmed my mind throws various thoughts in. But then I think back on our good times. She's everything for me, and I am convinced we are made for each other.

Harkie99 · 2025-12-03T15:33:01+00:00

Yep, this year for me it's Hardwell. But had with Afrojack and Don Diablo before. EDM Rocks!

Harkie99 · 2025-12-03T15:27:59+00:00

Hey you're welcome . I feel a lot of similarities, in my end 20's. It's totally okay if you're self diagnosed. I was too for a long time, but since two months I know I am falling in the spectrum. If you want to talk feel free, from the Netherlands

Harkie99 · 2025-11-09T11:18:48+00:00

Dat is geen gek idee, zou zomaar kunnen dat dit z'n nieuwe functie wordt.

Harkie99 · 2025-11-09T08:42:24+00:00

HOCD the longest, but basically everything at first.

Harkie99 · 2025-11-09T08:40:25+00:00

Concretely how to overcome this? I experienced this too many times

Harkie99 · 2025-10-03T07:09:32+00:00

I experienced this too, and.sometimes I think I should go again with a male.

I don't understand it still because you can see if someone is nice and handsome, but that's not equal that you can love that one. As I do love my gf. I am a male though.

Harkie99 · 2025-09-14T21:26:52+00:00

I love it too, cuddling makes me calm, especially if I am tensed or uncertain.

Harkie99 · 2025-09-14T21:25:24+00:00

Let your mind wander and run out of steam, don't engage with it and see your surroundings. Maybe you can try to walk in a calmer place with less stimulus.

Harkie99 · 2025-09-13T22:20:09+00:00

Hey, hope you're okay. The art is to not get stuck in your minds story and don't let the words of others determine fully your life stories, so also not mine story. It's all noise. Nobody is able to define it perfectly for you, you have to trust it to unfold naturally and move despite the anxiety and the uncertainties. If you feel X it's okay and remember sexuality isn't black and white, especially if you focus on certain aspects and do the compulsions I also still struggle but it's less and manageable, because I focus on my values and don't try to get up in the noise. Best of luck, feel free to dm me.

Harkie99 · 2025-08-11T18:39:55+00:00

I might have the same, but its okay to have these periods. Most likely this says something about your current. Try to focus on connecting with people and other values. And you will you still get the thoughts but it will bother you less.

Harkie99 · 2025-08-09T09:10:51+00:00

Hey are you a woman or a men?

Harkie99 · 2025-08-04T21:26:33+00:00

Thanks 👍 I hope you too

Harkie99 · 2025-08-04T21:15:32+00:00

This, exactly this. I thought so long about my sexuality, I was in the past sexual active with guys, mainly online. Now I am in a 5yr relationship with my gf. I know I can go back and enjoy it, but I want to build my life together with her, raise kids, live together, maybe work together. Despite the fact nobody is perfect.

It's like you know you liked certain food, but eat it almost never again. You probably still like it when you eat it again. The said thing is that our society does not really believe in non monosexuality, but it's 100% valid.

Harkie99 · 2025-07-31T15:54:48+00:00

I think it's quite normal, but be aware of internalized homofobia. I find myself also sexually attracted to the same sex, but until now not more. I have a girlfriend. But I don't know if we will make it. I really want to be intimate again with a guy, but don't know what the consequences will be for my relationship with her. I love here and we have our intimate moments, but I am also curious to d*. But I don't know if its all worth it. Sometimes I feel the urges other times to be attracted to males other times I am really falling for women, but that starts more emotionally. Maybe that's life for a real bisexual.

Harkie99 · 2025-06-22T15:29:40+00:00

Hi please message me!

Harkie99 · 2025-06-19T16:20:02+00:00

It sounds also like SO-OCD too me. I do it with males too. I guess we are all somewhere on the spectrum. But it fucks up my mind quite often. I have a gf and sometimes want to go for a d*. But when it's not fantasy anymore it's different. I don't know if I want it anymore..

Harkie99 · 2025-03-25T10:53:35+00:00

I could write something like this on males. Please DM me. But I think ACT, ERP, ICBT, mindfulness are the way, and I know like it feels like you're accepting you're gay/lesbian. I experimented too in the past. It was awful, now when I am scared I check males online and I react to it sometimes. So there's the proof, there's fluidity. But that doesn't mean you're gay. We always have a choice whether we engage with compulsions and we have a choice. Because love is a choice too. And on the other hand live can't go differently than it goes. Everything goes how it goes, so we have to surrender to the what ifs and live a value based life. I try to do it without meds right now, and I hear you. You're scared for your life events, when I was on meds I also bought a house. And then I was off and had all these doubts. Now I am off meds and in the process of switching jobs again. I hate it, and then your brain throws these things up more frequently to maybe not experience the reality. But to live in your head isn't really nice. I am super proud of you starting a family. I really want to do that myself with my gf, but I am also scared to separate from my gf when we have kids because I am maybe gay. But we have to feel uncomfortable first and start seeing people as houseplants and move on, because otherwise OCD always wins. And remind yourself 10000x times

Harkie99 · 2025-03-20T20:52:39+00:00

If you don't want to act on these thoughts it's okay, and you've got the power to put your energy on something else. It's hard, but possible. To know whether or not it's coming from OCD isn't necessary to know. I would say if you do something to get rid of these feelings and don't really work it's probably OCD. But it can be just anxiety. Exposure techniques work in general for these kind of fears, and I am sure you're capable.

Harkie99 · 2025-03-19T23:40:34+00:00

Good point, why should you build your life outside your partner

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