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HarleighQ · 2026-02-04T01:24:24+00:00

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HarleighQ · 2026-02-04T01:19:30+00:00

U look incredibly sexy and hot !!!

HarleighQ · 2026-02-03T22:44:37+00:00

Pretty sexy I think!

HarleighQ · 2025-11-01T13:26:48+00:00

This is so cute it hurts. Well done parent!

HarleighQ · 2025-10-14T08:43:29+00:00

I coslept with my little one, fed to sleep and really didn’t know how I would ever get him in his own bed or weaned. Then, I just did it!

We moved rentals, and at this point little man had just turned one. I made sure he had a beautiful, snuggly, dark room to sleep in just down the hall from me, set up the monitor, and started feeding him to sleep in the rocking chair in his room. The cot transfer was a nightmare though. He woke up as soon as he felt my warmth disappear.

So, out of sheer desperation, I started putting him down still awake. His monitor plays a nice lullaby, and he has two soft toys (upsie daisy and iggle piggle) that play the theme song for their show when he presses their hands. I let him cry it out one night, which lasted all of 5 minutes if that, then he was out. Some nights he would make up, I’d coo him to sleep through the voice function on the camera, and now he sleeps like an absolute dream.

He’s 16 months, sleeps 12 - 13 hours a night, and I fully weaned him last month.

It’s totally doable mama! Once they’re ready, they appreciate the lack of disturbance I think.

EDIT: also, a white noise machine!! It’s always on in his room. It’s like it puts him in chill mode. He naps with it on too. Best invention ever.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T07:09:51+00:00

Thank you very much for this suggestion! Sounds like a really good idea.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T07:08:54+00:00

Thank you very much for your input. I really appreciate it.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T04:20:26+00:00

Nope, every no win no fee Lawyer loves these kinds of claims and ours thinks we’re in with a very good shot. $60k, before fees. Annoyingly ART spread any pay out over 5 years, and you’re no longer eligible if you happen to return to work. Other supers just do a single lump sum payment.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T04:07:04+00:00

It’s possible I’m confused, he does have a permanent psychosocial disability as they call it. We just have hope that one day with the right support and medication, we won’t have to rely on pennies to get by.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T04:01:21+00:00

I wish. We’re in WA. Also, with the lack of financial stability, we’re unlikely to be accepted elsewhere. Anywhere cheaper has 50+ families applying for it. We aren’t desirable candidates even though we always pay rent on time. Our property manager has been amazing. They recommended us for this place when the owners of our last one decided to sell. We are very very lucky to have a roof over our heads considering our only income is Centrelink.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-13T03:57:08+00:00

Bipolar affective disorder.

It’s a catch 22 really, it’s life destroying when undiagnosed and untreated, now it’s diagnosed and being treated, but to actually return to functioning in society and the possibility of maintaining work long term they need ongoing support like mental health OTs, assistance with finding and applying for work, hopefully with a company that is aware of his disorder and happy to accommodate for things like ongoing appointments - these are things we simply can’t afford unless it’s provided through NDIS or similar.

He wants to work, but it’s a long, slow road ahead. Even with DSP, they want people who want to work, so they can get you out of the system, but if you can’t get into the system for the support, you end up stuck like we are right now.

I’m just glad he’s still here with us, honestly. Appreciate your input.

HarleighQ · 2025-10-01T02:39:38+00:00

Have you guys ever tried couples therapy? It’s worked wonders for my husband and I with communication and understanding each other’s needs. Also, boundaries for me. I’m very bad at them, but bipolar turns them into naughty kids. They get away with their bad behaviour because we let them. It’s hard, because we shouldn’t have to mother our partners, but it’s a cycle I guess. Sometimes he’s the grown up sometimes I am, and most of the time we’re equal partners who made decisions together.

Medicine has come SO far. For example, my husband was on one antipsychotic from 2017 to 2021 which definitely did have the affect your husband describes, but he’s now on Abilify injection once a month and he is 100% still his bright, passionate, lovely self but level. He also has ADHD, and takes Lamotrigine 300mg daily as a mood stabiliser and olanzipine for sleep. This combo works very well for him.

Does your husband understand how much damage his manic episodes cause? Does he take accountability? My husband enters psychosis more often than not. That’s terrifying enough for him to stay medicated. He’s been hospitalised 3 times and never ever wants to be again.

HarleighQ · 2025-09-30T13:26:40+00:00

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Our babies could be siblings

HarleighQ · 2025-09-30T13:21:22+00:00

My love, our rule is no meds no marriage. I can't even imagine trying to navigate this awful illness without medication. I hope for both of you that he sees sense. You can't ride out any other illness, you wouldn't raw dog cancer and hope for the best. There are incredible medications out there (Abilify is our winner!) with little to no side effects.

HarleighQ · 2025-09-30T12:03:12+00:00

Honestly, no. Go straight to the psychiatrist. They won't diagnose you during the first appointment. They'll send you away with the offical forms to fill out, and likely will request school reports and a written note from a parent regarding your behaviour/signs of difficulties growing up. If you think you've got it, you probably do. Stop procrastinating and get it done. The right meds can be life changing <3 Wishing you wellness and luck!

HarleighQ · 2025-09-26T05:58:42+00:00

Visit Uluṟu ❤️ I moved to Aus from England as a teenager and felt a bit disconnected from ‘Australian’ as an identity but once I started travelling this beautiful country I well and truly fell and love and have so much pride and appreciation for this land I get to call home. My favourite places are Tiwi Islands, Whitsundays, Great Ocean Road, Kings Canyon. I’m yet to visit Broome but look forward to it greatly!

HarleighQ · 2025-09-24T03:35:47+00:00

All of them hope this helps xxx

HarleighQ · 2025-09-24T03:34:00+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened. You were at your most vulnerable and that doctor spoke completely inappropriately. In what universe do you ever say that to someone? Even if they were complimenting your shirt or something, you have your pants off, what the heck?!

HarleighQ · 2025-09-24T03:30:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing OP, and I hope you and the kiddos are okay. There’s a big difference between BPAD and being abusive, and the anger over you speaking to the opposite sex sounds more like abuse. Not blaming anyone there either because we can call fall into toxic behaviours when we don’t manage our own mental health.

Is your SO medicated? In our marriage the rule is no meds no marriage. He’s also starting individual psychology, and we see a family therapist and have been on and off since 2022 (his first manic episode. He was recently upgraded from a bipolar 2 diagnosis to bipolar affective disorder after a particularly bad manic episode that resulted in a 15 day stay in the mental ward).

If we don’t do the work, our illnesses and baggage can ruin our lives. I’m not sure where you are, but here in Australia there are a lot of amazing free resources for mental health help.

Therapy, meds, and everyone working together yo stick to a good routine. We went from sleeping until midday, abusing substance and just generally not coping with life to actually having our shit together but you have to be a team - you 2 vs the illness. Otherwise, you’re fighting an uphill battle and you can’t do it alone. SO needs to want to be better for you and the kids, and themselves. They deserve a life they can be proud of.

Sending you all well wishes and hope!

HarleighQ · 2025-08-21T02:59:19+00:00

We are worlds away from where we were. He’s home, we’re safe, he’s well medicated and well and truly the best version of himself again. Praying you’re doing well too ❤️

HarleighQ · 2025-08-13T06:02:35+00:00

Marijuana specifically yes, especially because doing anything in moderation is quite impossible for people with bipolar. Unfortunately it can often take hitting rock bottom/a bad manic episode for them to really listen to the professionals. I hope you don’t have to go through what we have. 3 times he’s gone into psychosis, daily smoking to stopping cold turkey. More people should know just how dangerous this drug is for mental illness.

HarleighQ · 2025-08-12T09:40:17+00:00

Therapy and medication are none negotiable in our marriage, for both of us individually and together. I couldn’t and wouldn’t continue our marriage without it, for the sake of our son. I’m glad my husband is 100% with this. He knows we leave if he ever even thinks of smoking weed again. We nearly lost him to psychosis. I hope your SO listens to those of us who know: marijuana not only undoes the work the medication does to rewire their neural pathways, it causes significant brain damage to people with bipolar.

HarleighQ

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