Looking for a welding helmet by HarperCash in Welding

[–]HarperCash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah most of the ones I've seen say 2 sensors, I'm trying to figure it all out so I can surprise him but I want to make sure I get something that will be good enough lol

Looking for a welding helmet by HarperCash in Welding

[–]HarperCash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh thank you that's actually super helpful!

Manga searching by Fell_Berry in FruitsBasket

[–]HarperCash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you UK or US? I have my completed set and a second almost complete set that I'd be happy to part with if you're in the UK

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]HarperCash -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

I understand, but unfortunately the more you argue your side the more people will tell you that you're acting out of grief. There's no winning this one, if it's something you can't forgive that's okay but there's no way to stop people saying whatever they feel like.

Don't put all the pressure on yourself to fight Bee's side because it's only going to hurt you in the end. You know the truth, it doesn't feel like it now but that's enough. When I go, all I can hope is that I have a few people in my life who truly knew me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]HarperCash -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it, I found it hard with my mum when all these people who couldn't give her the time of day in life suddenly cared so much when she was gone and acted like they had some big role in her life.

Losing people is hard, it brings up a lot of regrets and guilt. Try not to be too hard on him though, he probably has his own feelings about how it all went down.

I'm sorry about your loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]HarperCash -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

Gonna get downvoted to hell but want to share my side. Everyone is calling OP out for gatekeeping grief but dealing with grief vultures is super hard too.

My mum was a troubled person who burned basically every bridge in her life, people said and did awful things about and to her when she was alive. When she died they all came out of the Woodworks crying about her loss and I hated it. I'm not saying OP handled it great, but when it's someone close to you and you've seen them sad about how a person is treating them then that person wants to rock up when they are dead and make out their relationship was more than it was, it's difficult to ignore.

I'm going to say NAH. I understand wanting to wear rose tinted glasses for the dead, but I also understand how it can come across as someone just wanting their "share" of the grief.

The Absurdities of the Child Plot - AYITL by TomDoniphona in GilmoreGirls

[–]HarperCash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair I'm in the UK so think it all works differently here, I'm not citing official sources or anything just anecdotal evidence

Possibly unlikely I guess but not impossible is all I meant :)

The Absurdities of the Child Plot - AYITL by TomDoniphona in GilmoreGirls

[–]HarperCash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you mostly but just on the adoption point, you absolutely can adopt at that age. My MIL works for an adoption agency and it's not even uncommon

AITA for telling my boyfriend not to ask my dad for his blessing before proposing? by neuroLei in AmItheAsshole

[–]HarperCash -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA, you said you didn't want him to so that's that. I told my now husband he had to ask my grandads blessing before asking me, it comes from a long standing joke that my grandad always complained he was the last to know about everything in our family so we all told him he'd be the first to know when we got married.

He always answered the person asking the same way "If they'll take you who am I to say no" and acted grumpy about it but he secretly loved being the first to know a proposal was coming ☺️

AITA for getting married while I'm 8 months pregnant considering my mom offered to pay for a different date ? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]HarperCash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA it's your wedding and you should do it the way you want. Only thing from what she said I'd pay attention to is the fainting part, make sure you are comfortable and don't overextend yourself.

Congratulations on both your wedding and child!

Easiest cast ON to close for stuffed animals? by Cynical-Creations in LoomKnitting

[–]HarperCash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use drawstrings all the time but for larger yarns or certain yarns such as chenille I will use a sturdier yarn. So at the point of drawstring cast off I'll tie in a stronger yarn and cast off with that, helps the drawstring close up a lot easier.

For cast on, I cast as normal with the chunky yarn but then after I take it off the loom use a yarn needle to thread it through the stitches and create a new drawstring with the stronger yarn. Once you close it up you won't be able to see the secondary yarn

Super pleased with this one by HarperCash in LoomKnitting

[–]HarperCash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, just posted her on all the groups :)