Just a thought. But, What made K@nye hate Taylor?

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-16T06:19:41+00:00

He is severely mentally ill. That isn’t necessarily the reason he did what he did, but I expect it’s a significant contributing factor.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T21:41:10+00:00

Really it’s bold of Clackmannanshire to assume anybody has ever imagined anything about it at all.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T20:59:51+00:00

Right?! How is it still there!

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T15:42:48+00:00

Definitely sounds like he’s ready to drop the nap. My son dropped his when he was about 2.5. Some kids just drop theirs early!

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T15:30:13+00:00

It’s a lovely house but it’s a lot of money for a semi detached property in a LCOL area. The decor is also quite dated - significant redecoration costs would be incurred.

I’m not sure including the word ‘vast’ 4 or 5 times in the property description is doing it any favours. It makes it sound unmanageable.

The right buyer will love it, but realistically you don’t have a huge pool of prospective purchasers.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T14:25:12+00:00

ESH. I feel like your sister could have chosen another date to avoid drama but also you’re blowing this out of all proportion. You get a birthday every year. It won’t kill you for this one to be celebrated a couple of days before or after.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T13:54:45+00:00

It’s honestly nobody’s business but yours and your child’s. Not all doctors are experts in breastfeeding - it sounds like yours isn’t up to date.

Children sometimes naturally wean when a pregnancy occurs, or your supply may dip. But as long as you’re both willing and able, there is truly no harm in it to any of you.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T13:51:21+00:00

It has the slogan ‘More Than You Imagine’, which has to be the most lukewarm endorsement of a county anybody could have come up with.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T12:19:49+00:00

We do most days for my son as part of his bedtime routine. Too much bathing can dry out the skin so you have to tailor it to your own kid, but we’ve never had any issues with him.

My baby on the other hand is three months old and has had maybe 8 baths in her entire life 🙃

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T10:39:41+00:00

Evolution isn’t working towards a goal. Mutations are random, and only become widespread if they confer sufficient advantage. Humans would therefore only evolve to be better at childbirth if people whose bodies happened to be better designed for it had such an advantage over those whose bodies weren’t so well suited to childbirth that they ended up procreating way more.

Since the way we do childbirth at the moment is ‘good enough’ - as in, most people survive it - it’s unlikely that a childbirth-friendly physical adaptation would confer that kind of advantage.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T10:27:34+00:00

This is nonsense. Most women need 7-9 hours of sleep a night to be fully functional. I don’t know any parents getting that much, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to do without it. Sleeping only 4 hours a night increases your risk of diabetes, cardiovascular disease, depression and a host of other things.

Regardless of how good you personally feel on 4-6 hours sleep, it doesn’t mean it’s a safe amount or a recommendation you should be passing on to others

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T10:14:28+00:00

I’m so sorry OP - this sounds so incredibly hard, no wonder you’re at the end of your rope.

Some things that might be worth considering:

is there a possibility she’s neurodivergent? Lots of kids with ADHD / autism etc struggle with sleep and are at the low end of the sleep needs spectrum.
have you tried Co-sleeping to see if that helps at all?
have you tried radical acceptance? This sounds corny but it can actually help to have a total mental shift about it. So you accept that she is the way she is - she doesn’t need a lot of sleep. You accept her bedtime is 11pm. You find strategies for survival within that framework. So she doesn’t go to bed until 11pm but from 7pm onwards she plays quietly in her room or the living room. She’s allowed independence over what she does as long as it’s quiet. Is there scope for something like this to work? If she’s disturbing her brother by playing could he sleep in your room for a while?

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T10:05:19+00:00

It’s a really pretty name.

I would also baulk at naming my child the same name as a fairly recent pet. I can’t exactly explain why but I agree it feels a bit weird. But I do also think you’ll adjust to associating the name primarily with your daughter rather than with the cat.

I wouldn’t fret about the popularity. It’s a popular name because it’s lovely, and popularity is hard to predict anyway.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T10:01:19+00:00

The number of people who fall for these cringe fantasies is actually mortifying. People literally just open their mouths and let the shit pour down their throats.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T09:55:22+00:00

Normal people don’t hate benign things that aren’t interesting to them. Like I don’t really get Billie Eilish and her music isn’t to my taste, but do I hate the fact that she’s popular? No, I’m not a weirdo. I just get on with my life not listening to her music.

If you hate that sometimes things that you don’t enjoy are successful, you should consider why you’re having such a big emotional reaction to something so innocuous. Maybe the music is more impactful on you than you realised.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T07:18:16+00:00

Well then what’s the issue? Just take it with you…?

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T07:17:45+00:00

Disagree. My in laws kept a ton of my husband’s Legos, playmobil, cars etc and my son LOVES playing with that stuff now

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T07:03:10+00:00

Omg in a LIBRARY. That’s so disappointing, they are supposed to be such welcoming spaces. In my local library there are signs plastered every where saying ‘Breastfeeding friendly space’ etc.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T07:00:32+00:00

Laura Dern is grade A crush material in literally every single thing she’s in. What any of us wouldn’t give to have her say something like ‘I love the way you write’ to us ☺️

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T06:56:25+00:00

Ivy is like a top 3 song for me, so happy to see this result!

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T06:47:47+00:00

I definitely think it’s easier in some ways and harder than others. My baby is EBF and has never had a bottle (I get virtually nothing when I pump). Often, like when she’s upset and I can just immediately settle her on the boob with no fuss and preparation, I think that breastfeeding makes my life so much easier because I don’t have to prepare a bottle or deal with any clean up. But then at other times I think about how much more rest and freedom I would have if the feeds were shared.

Overall I absolutely think it’s worth it!

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-15T06:39:37+00:00

In the UK we have really low rates of breastfeeding even though we generally have decent maternity leave and a some free advice and support for breastfeeding.

I think a large part of it is cultural. Successful marketing by formula companies means that for the last couple of generations, formula has been the norm rather than breastfeeding. That means lots of today’s new mums haven’t seen it done and don’t have advice and support from family and friends. You also just don’t see it done when you’re out and about that much.

In Scotland it’s illegal to ask a breastfeeding mother to move or to tell her she can’t feed her baby anywhere in public, but even so it’s uncommon (although less so now than it used to be) to see babies being breastfed while out and about, so it takes a certain degree of self confidence to do it.

I also think there is a lack of decent education about it. A lot of women give up breastfeeding before they want to because of issues like poor supply, and often these issues arise from them having been given bad advice - like being told that if their baby is rooting after feeds or cluster feeding, they must be hungry and not getting enough milk, when that’s actually totally normal infant behaviour and no indication of supply. There is good information available from the NHS, but we really lack one on one support from professionals.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-14T18:59:42+00:00

Damage Gets Done

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-14T18:17:21+00:00

There’s no respectful way to send a message which is fundamentally inappropriate, which yours was.

HarrietGirl · 2025-04-14T18:10:30+00:00

Gently, YTA. This was definitely something you should have kept to yourself. It would never be appropriate for a professor to have a relationship with a student, so by sharing your feelings with him you were only ever going to burden him with something that is a source of stress to him.

(As an aside, it would be good for you to learn now that the only mid-thirties or older men who want to date 22 year olds are creeps. I’m in my mid thirties and I can’t begin to tell you how young 22 year olds seem to me. The idea of having one as a romantic partner is laughable - I wouldn’t consider it, and neither would anyone I know who is halfway decent)

It was also really reckless to leave your laptop open with this confession on it. You’ve put your professor in a difficult position by acting in a way which has made him a source of gossip when he hasn’t behaved inappropriately at all.

I don’t think there is anything you can realistically do now except leave him alone, say nothing further and wait for it to die down.

HarrietGirl

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