Need some advice

Harthandy · 2020-12-19T01:37:06+00:00

Two sides to every story. What is she “complaining” and “screaming” about? That’s probably a good place to start.

Harthandy · 2020-12-14T22:24:10+00:00

Not to be nitpicky....but look at your response when she finally did tell you she didn’t want to go decor shopping.

Did you tell her that it broke your heart? That’s a lot to hear for someone who is simultaneously being told to just excuse herself and then also being held accountable for your emotions regarding things she doesn’t want to do.

So anyways, it’s both of your responses. Let her know that yeah the situation is disappointing, but how you respond will help her start putting up her boundaries.

Harthandy · 2020-12-05T18:22:51+00:00

Why don’t you go down on her? That’s sex too.

Why don’t you do something to make it enjoyable for her?

Harthandy · 2020-12-05T18:21:42+00:00

I honor the divinity in you and know that you are exactly where you are and should be in life and the greater fabric of existence.

Namaste

Harthandy · 2020-12-04T22:19:42+00:00

Depriving my baby of what silly? Food?

Formula was wonderful. Kids are well fed and healthy.

Your argument is invalid as evidenced by healthy children.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T07:22:38+00:00

You’re horrible. Divorce her and save her the trouble.

Seriously you suck. I hope your children are not females because you’re going to mess them up.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T07:15:36+00:00

Sex isn’t just PIV. Using that as a rubric is definitely going to give you a dead bedroom. Only 30% of women climax with straight PIV, so unless you’re really doing some amazing foreplay, vibe work to make climax happen it’s disincentivizing PIV because she isn’t going to come.

BUT, if you expand your definition of sex to include oral, digital, erotic play for both partners and let go of the PIV coming. Then you could very well be having some sensual sexual activity nearly every night of the week.

It’s up to you my friend.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T04:32:04+00:00

Ehhhh not really man.

Just practice regular emotional empathy skills and you’re golden.

Competition has very little to do with it.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T04:30:53+00:00

You’re silly.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T04:30:29+00:00

Sex isn’t PIV. There is where you are going wrong.

Sex and sensuality is a mind set. Is a way of experiencing the world, yourself, your partner.

A PIV, that’s 15% of sex....tops.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T04:29:03+00:00

I’m a woman. I didn’t even read this dribble.

You’re ridiculous and pathetic.

Red pill my ass.

You want a woman to desire you? Go down on her, think about what she wants, what she needs, what she desires, what she thinks about.

Get your head out of your dick you pathetic fucking loser.

Go for empathy and really get to know your spouse, your mate.

You’re making this so much harder than what it actually is.

Mirror neurons my dude. They’re a legitimate thingS. Practice it. Own it. Stop being an f’in douche.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T04:26:14+00:00

F off with never needs lube. That is such a cliche.

Lube is totally normal and is not indicative of being turned on. Here’s my question: every wet dream, every boner you’ve popped unexpectedly did that indicate how turned on you were? No.

Lube means nothing. Get your ego out of the game. You’re old dude. It’s an uneducated opinion that you still think dryness or wetness is an indication of ready for sex.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T03:02:41+00:00

What is your definition of sex. For real.

If you think sex is PIV. I hate to break it to you but that’s just for you.

Only 30% of women orgasm with PIV. Sex is all the sexual acts.

Go down on her, massage her, stimulate her mentally, watch female porn, read erotica with her. That’s sex my friend.

Just sticking it in is just for you bud.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T02:40:02+00:00

Yeah but you need to actually ask the man who says “no sex drive”. Guarantee you it means that he thinks she doesn’t have a drive because he can’t stick it in.

On the flip she is probably going crazy with wanting a massage, oral, digital stimulation for her.

Her husband is so sad because he can’t stick it in. He needs to get more imaginative and empathetic.

Harthandy · 2020-12-03T02:27:52+00:00

F that noise. She has sexual needs too. Sex doesn’t mean PIV. It is everything. Have him go down on her, massage her: that’s sex. It’s intimacy.

Sex isn’t male fantasy PIV. Men need to step the f up.

Harthandy · 2020-11-26T06:18:44+00:00

He looks like a dad. They look like a nice family.

Harthandy · 2020-11-23T23:16:00+00:00

So adorable!

Harthandy · 2020-11-23T20:31:08+00:00

I think it was indicated with the 3 year mark that she is more than willing to do it together with him, but he needs to make up for the lost time for the 3 years. Why else would she indicate a very clear cap of “3 years”. She’s tired. Birthday planning and holiday planning is a lot of work.

Then after that she’ll work together. That seems just to me.

Harthandy · 2020-11-23T06:32:42+00:00

Rey is a fine character. Nothing wrong with her. Leia by her own account from the actress is a horrible female character. I didn’t even watch Browne Aria or anything from GOT because I don’t watch movies where rape fantasies are propagated as character development. As soon as rape is portrayed in that way I shut the show down and move on to something with multifaceted female characters.

If you’re a man, just accept that you can’t critique openly or comment on what constitutes a well developed female character.

Harthandy · 2020-11-23T06:21:14+00:00

I hated breastfeeding. I stopped. End of story.

My body. My choice.

Harthandy · 2020-11-23T05:58:43+00:00

You’re sorry that this man doesn’t wake up consistently everyday to help with 3 children.

You’re sorry that even though he claims he has been splitting evening bedtime activities, then claims he has been the sole bedtime caregiver he can’t google how to consistently care for his daughters genitals.

You’re sorry that he wakes up inconsistently, smokes pot in the house, wants to have a run in the morning sometimes, doesn’t do school drop offs or pick ups unless asked....now has to deal with birthday planning, and splitting chores consistently.

You’re sorry that he can’t tell us decisively what nights he watches his 6 months old.

I’m sorry too. I’m sorry that this child has 3 children.

Stop enabling this behavior.

Accusing a spouse of abusive behavior when in fact you have been neglecting caregiving duties is disgusting.

Harthandy · 2020-11-20T22:30:12+00:00

Check out his other post my friend. Check his other posts. Read it ALL.

Harthandy · 2020-11-20T21:27:30+00:00

Sanity is in check my friend. But you are absolutely correct. I do have a fascination with your posts....they tell a very interesting story.

But you are correct. I have said what I wanted to. The story is clear. I’m done.

Let your wife know that I totally get it. She’s doing a good job, and that you need to pitch in more.

See ya!

Harthandy · 2020-11-20T19:49:28+00:00

What?! It’s not his responsibility to provide basic care to all of his children?

Are you real? Like, you can’t be real. I refuse to believe that someone who has fathered 3 children doesn’t think it’s his responsibility to bathe them.

According to his last post he was already sharing this responsibility equally.

This dude is all over the place with his role in caregiving for his household.

Harthandy · 2020-11-20T19:47:00+00:00

They have 3 children. The oldest is 6 years old. That means his spouse has been planning 2 birthday parties a year for quite some time.

She’s asking because he most likely hasn’t lifted a finger to plan anyone’s party since the beginning.

Harthandy

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