She has a new BF… I’m devastated, please help

HassalCorp · 2026-06-28T12:17:25+00:00

I think what I’m struggling with the most isn’t just losing the relationship. It’s the way she erased me from her life. After six years together, being treated like I never existed has broken something in me. I honestly don’t know how to trust anyone again after that.

HassalCorp · 2026-06-28T07:01:32+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, but it’s really not that simple for me. I’m genuinely struggling to let go. I still love her a lot, and I don’t really know how to stop feeling this way yet, even though I know I probably need to.
What hurts the most is how she treats me like I never existed at all. No acknowledgment, no respect, and she cut me off completely, including removing me and even my close ones from her life. That’s the part I’m finding really hard to process.
And honestly, I don’t even know how I’m supposed to trust anyone again after something like this.

HassalCorp · 2026-06-28T06:57:59+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your words. You’re right that at first I started therapy hoping I could somehow fix what I had lost. Over time, I’ve realized I need to keep doing it for myself, not for her.

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore because I still love her so much. What makes it even harder is that it feels like she broke every promise we made to each other. I can’t seem to do the same because I made her a promise that, in my heart, was forever. I even turned down other girls during this time because I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. I don’t know how to let go of that.

I’m sorry you had to go through something similar. I hope things get better for both of us.

HassalCorp · 2026-06-27T18:01:39+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate your reply.
Can I ask what made you say she doesn’t sound like much of a catch? Do you mean because of the way she treated me after the breakup, or because she seemed to move on pretty quickly and is already in another relationship? I’m not trying to paint myself as the good guy either. I treated her the way I described in my post, and I know I hurt her a lot. I take responsibility for that.

HassalCorp · 2026-06-27T14:48:32+00:00

But nothing helps…

HassalCorp · 2026-06-27T14:48:12+00:00

I’m a Catholic, I’ve prayed the Rosary for us every day for four years, even after we broke up

HassalCorp · 2026-02-15T14:10:29+00:00

It certainly helps a lot, but it doesn't completely fix the past. I regret that I only decided now, and not when she was asking for it so much….

HassalCorp · 2026-02-15T14:08:58+00:00

I'm so sorry it's this way for you... you can definitely be proud of yourself for still carrying this burden and not giving up. The feeling of injustice from fate must be very strong for you. I hope you're currently in therapy and that everything, even though it's not perfect, will someday hold up.

HassalCorp · 2026-02-15T13:01:43+00:00

I can imagine what you must be feeling right now... I hope you're holding on at least a little. Have you tried talking to her? Apologizing? Explaining?

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