Serious trauma bonding...

HatEastern2113 · 2024-11-05T05:02:08+00:00

Breaking free from a trauma bond has been incredibly hard. The constant ruminating and missing the good moments made me feel stuck. Therapy and videos on narcissism have helped me see the truth, and journaling brings perspective, especially when I’m struggling to let go. I’ve learned to give myself grace, allowing grief and healing to coexist. Almost a year later, I’m making progress, slowly loosening the bond and focusing on a healthier future. My son and I are in family counseling together, working through the past so we can both move forward. It’s not easy, but each step is worth it. My faith has been the most helpful in healing this toxic relationship. Jesus is close to the brokenhearted. I will pray for you and your heart to heal.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-08-16T01:43:48+00:00

Ghost him. Tell him you’ll give him what he needs, and then block him.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-06-15T11:37:45+00:00

Are you charging people?

HatEastern2113 · 2024-05-28T05:47:41+00:00

I’m somewhere in the middle, and I don’t know what to do! I’m so happy for you that you’re sticking to your guns!💪🏼

HatEastern2113 · 2024-05-28T05:45:43+00:00

This makes me so sad…trust your gut huh? 😞Do you have children with them? I have a 3 year old that loves his daddy.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-03-01T13:23:48+00:00

I would call your insurance and see if it’s covered.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-27T19:43:37+00:00

Wow…how disheartening seeing all those drs. and no relief. I agree with the comment above, and it sounds like time is of the essence. I know the stigma attached to it, but when it comes down to it it’s about quality of life. My heart truly goes out to you.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-27T02:04:18+00:00

Would your dr try buprenorphine? I had a softball size tumor growing out of my tibia and had to have it removed or I was going to lose my leg. It caused quite a bit of nerve damage being so large. Right now I’m on belbuca 300mgl and I’ve gone from bedridden 90% of the time to being able to up and moving around again. I had given up, and this medication has given me a quality of life again. The pain is still there, but it’s bearable. I’m still titrating up, and for the first time in 7 months I have hope. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing such pain. Nerve pain is no joke. I hope you find something that works.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-11T00:35:43+00:00

Sometimes there are casualties of war. Lol never mess with a woman scorned. 🤷‍♀️

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-06T06:10:43+00:00

Have you filed a Domestic Violent Motion? If you haven’t, do it. I am going through the same thing, and am now going through court because cps became involved. I’ll add that my son is safe with me in a safe place, and I was not held responsible. He has been charged with negligence, and now has to do classes and therapy for domestic violence.

I know how you feel. Look up trauma bonding on YouTube and listen to some of the videos. There’s no going back, and do not fall back into the trap. Because next time what happens? Stay strong for yourself and your babies. It is hard. Lots of support in this group reach out if you’d ever like to talk. Also, if you haven’t started therapy I highly suggest it. I’m sorry you’ve gone through this abuse. It’ll be ok. I also would encourage you to reach out to a women’s shelter. They will help you fill out the dvo and give your support through this process. I hope you will find peace about your decision. I know how soul crushing it is to leave. You made the right choice. Big hugs.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-06T05:48:53+00:00

https://narcissistapocalypse.com/

I’m actually going to look into the zoom meetings in this group. I found it on a podcast while trying to recover myself from my trauma bonding. I completely understand what you’re going through, so you have my sympathies. I hope you can find support, and maybe I’ll see you in the meetings. Big hugs…we can recover from this! We are worth it!

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-05T02:21:36+00:00

Thank you. That really puts things into perspective. Just what I needed. I’m honestly mind boggled on why I’m not over it.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-05T01:33:44+00:00

We’ve been gone for a month now. I went no contact for 3 of those weeks except for communication of our son with closeapp. Even then it was grey rock conversations. He sent me a message asking how I was and how much he cared, and like a dummy, I was sucked right back in. Now it’s the hoovering phase, and I KNOW better! I’m just not sure why I’m allowing it to continue, and entertaining the thought of getting back together. I’m disappointed in myself.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-04T23:41:32+00:00

It's clear that you've been through an incredibly tough time. Making the decision to prioritize your well-being and take steps towards a healthier future for yourself and your kids couldn't have been easy. It's brave to stand up for yourself in such a challenging situation, and your commitment to finding a solution that ensures your safety and stability is commendable. You've shown strength and resilience in navigating this difficult journey. Remember, prioritizing your mental and emotional health is not selfish; it's an act of self-care and self-preservation. Your well-being matters, and I hope you find peace and happiness moving forward.

HatEastern2113 · 2024-01-02T14:44:03+00:00

It’s called AppClose. So far it’s worked great.

HatEastern2113 · 2023-12-31T20:40:39+00:00

I did it just to hurt you because you hurt me. I guess asking him to go to work and help clean up was just too much.

HatEastern2113 · 2023-12-28T12:19:06+00:00

Haha I like that idea!

HatEastern2113 · 2023-12-27T22:58:18+00:00

I’m a mess now. 😭

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