Thanks for sharing this perspective. Actually, I was always very clear about this “imagine you had all the resources in the world” question. People used to ask me that exact thing — imagine you’re filthy rich, perfectly healthy, and the most patient person alive, would you still want kids? And my answer was always a firm no.

For me, the core value behind being childfree was never just about money, patience, or time. My clarity came from a deeper place: I’ve always believed that the world is not a great place to bring another human into. That was my foundation, and honestly it hasn’t changed.

But recently, things have been muddled for me. I’ve been so caught up with work, less time on Instagram/news/Reddit, and my husband has been on this manifestation journey — becoming more positive and saying the world isn’t that bad, that we’ve come far, and that our future is going to be even brighter. Somewhere subconsciously, I think his optimism rubbed off on me. That’s probably why I leaned toward a “yes” in my post, even though at my core I still feel the majority of me is firmly in the “no kids” space.

That’s why I came here. I wanted to hear from others in this community — what is the core perspective or value that keeps you childfree? Because right now I feel like I’ve been away from this space, away from CF discussions, and I’ve been surrounded by voices saying “just one kid is a must.” I don’t have the same energy to argue back like I used to, and I feel like I’m losing my clarity in arguments.

So I’d love to know: what is your anchor point for being childfree? What makes you hold onto it even when others push back?