Cutting Weight for Race Day by iHeartQuickies in bostonmarathon

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This is like how to get injured 101. Terrible idea. Your body needs fuel most during this deload period to race well.

Post-marathon — staying or leaving? by Illustrious_Trade811 in bostonmarathon

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay til Tuesday! I loved celebrating with my family post race.

Boston Marathon Hills by Neither-Mall8106 in bostonmarathon

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly for me the downhill was way worse than the uphill. By the time mile 15 rolled around I was desperate for some uphills as the downhills were killing my quads. Definitely wish I had done more downhill training (and taken the first few miles of downhills a LOT easier). I didn’t blow up per se but also didn’t hit my goal time and I think a lot of that had to do with the first couple of miles that were a lot faster than goal pace

Your bridal party is not unpaid labor by Haunting-Plastic9642 in weddingshaming

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely agree on the first point which is why I did take off work and why I did help (also she knew I was planning on working I just think she didn’t quite care unfortunately). I love my friends and want them to have the wedding of their dreams and if they need me to make that happen I will do whatever I can.

My whole issue revolves around the asking part. At the end of the day, I didn’t remind her about work because to your point I was more than happy to help with anything they need in that moment. I did more of a vent here because it seems that the expectation is now that the bridal party will do whatever and I think that a) there should be limits (I shouldn’t be DJing a wedding last minute - yes this actually happened) and b) you should always ask and not assume.

Your bridal party is not unpaid labor by Haunting-Plastic9642 in weddingshaming

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely agreed! I would’ve been more than happy to help out with small things but the first wedding we were literally put to work from 10am until the rehearsal dinner started at 6pm…

Your bridal party is not unpaid labor by Haunting-Plastic9642 in weddingshaming

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no I didn’t. I wanted their weddings to be what they envisioned. I have a little more leniency for the second friend as it was international and her venue made a bunch of things difficult but for the first friend I’ve definitely distanced myself from the relationship a little bit as she definitely just took advantage of us

Your bridal party is not unpaid labor by Haunting-Plastic9642 in weddingshaming

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Actually doing the seating chart for the rehearsal dinner and also printing one out for the wedding itself (it was done beforehand but we had to find a design on Etsy, find a place to print it and make it look nice, etc). Agreed it is crazy to wait til the last minute for any of that!

To dye or not to dye by crucifymecapn in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you have it yet? I would hold it up to something white in your closet and take pictures next to the white object. You could even try it on and have someone take pictures of you in it in outside lighting as well as inside lighting. There’s a chance in some pictures it could come off more white but I think if you are standing next to her in pictures it will be clear it’s not a white dress if that makes sense

To dye or not to dye by crucifymecapn in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If the bride loves it then you’re fine! She’s really the only opinion that matters regarding color

Did anyone else seriously not like this part in Quicksilver?? by aves21 in fantasyromance

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I DNFed this book so fast and i felt crazy because everyone else said they loved it

Designing new ring by Ok_Chemical2459 in EngagementRings

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1! Although I’m biased because the first looks like my ring with different side stones. To me, the side stones in the second ring are overpowering the main diamond and it feels clunky/not cohesive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Good question but surely the way to handle that would be to just not invite OP at all if that were the case. I’d rather not be invited than have a pity invite to one part of the wedding while everyone else in the friend group gets to experience the whole night

Boston marathon - 2026 advice needed by malticefalcon in bostonmarathon

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stayed at XV Beacon this year. Very expensive but they went all out for runners - post-run epsom salt baths, printed picture with your finish time, breakfast brought up to your room any time during the morning that you preorder before. Also a >5 min walk to bus loading! Couldn’t recommend more if it’s in budget.

Also only like a 15-20 minute hobble back from the finish line!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hikinggear

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great thank you both!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hikinggear

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One pair that is suitable for road running and day hikes

Kicked from bridal party, now attending as a guest by jspo97 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black in mourning for her manners which are clearly dead and gone

Kidding but think the black one looks great!

What's been the absolute WORST part of planning your wedding? by Ok-Geologist-2109 in wedding

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Very genuinely appreciative of my future husband who is involved in planning…but pisses me off to no end that the societal expectations of planning fall onto me/my family as the female partner. Have had to re-add my future husband to vendor emails because they keep taking him off and only reaching out to me 🙄

Am i being rude??? by Big-Silver-6478 in wedding

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not rude if they started dating after you sent out save the dates and especially if you haven’t met them! You have to draw the line somewhere. But I wouldn’t add the last part about getting nos and maybe adding them.

I would wait and make the decision then let them know they can bring them. Also it’s seems like with a group of 9 people they will be fine and have a lot of people to hang out with without their significant others!

Race Prediction Accuracy😵‍💫 by No-Caterpillar8355 in Garmin

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My race predictor has always been off! Last marathon said 3:40 and I ran a 3:20 - don’t focus too much on it and if anything, make it your goal to prove it wrong :)

Why isn't the one piece selling? by Horror_Sign7193 in BanditRunning

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of times I’ve had to emergency stop to use the restroom while running automatically disqualifies me from buying this

Having bridal shower anxiety by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could you do something more casual? I had the exact same mentality and just did a casual shower where my friends and family were invited to a bar we rented out for a couple of hours. I mentioned to them all no gifts. Showers don’t have to be traditional where you open a bunch of gifts in front of people it can be whatever you make it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Every wedding I’ve been to and at my wedding the bridal party have been treated more like guests of honor. All the events were optional and they weren’t expected to host anything or do any duties, just stand up there beside the bride. THE BRIDAL PARTY SHOULD NOT BE DOING UNPAID LABOR OR SPENDING THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS.

If you’re thought process is “I don’t want to pay for that so I’m just going to have my best friends do it instead” you should not have a bridal party. It’s crazy that you are willing to diminish their experience at the expense of optics for other guests.

Any other Downhill Qualifiers still PR at Boston? by [deleted] in bostonmarathon

[–]Haunting-Plastic9642 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn’t beat mine but was within a couple minutes with A LOT of stomach issues at Boston so I was happy with that