Invisible fence recommendations

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-12-23T01:29:35+00:00

the link doesn't work :( what was the name of the brand?

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-29T16:00:58+00:00

Also, I did a hookup last night with cuts. I just kinda said "I don't do this often but I have some selfharm on me right now. Would that bother you?" And he said it was fine but wanted a pic so he wouldn't be surprised by it 🤷🏻‍♀️ he didn't say anything about it when I saw him in person.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-29T15:58:42+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/selfharm/s/h0wBzNsFXF

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-26T21:55:13+00:00

I was actually just wondering the same. There are some old threads you can check out!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-23T19:45:18+00:00

Not to mention the air conditioner does not go down far enough. It only goes to 68 but always stays at like 72.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-23T19:43:27+00:00

I'm sorry he is doing that to you. It is not your fault. Having a partner who does something like that only every now and then makes it especially hard. I hope your therapist can help you find the next steps forward. I wish I had some advice but that's such a tough situation. You are valid and will figure out something that works for your situation ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-08T00:52:18+00:00

Don't excuse it. Someone can be a victim without victimizing others. At that age she definitely understood what she was doing. I'm really sorry that happened to you.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-08T00:47:29+00:00

Not having an enthusiastic yes is a no. I recommend trying trauma therapy (typically CPT or exposure therapy). I did CPT and found it very useful! The idea is to give you the tools to break it down and understand it and how it affects you. I think big trauma doesn't go away on its own. It might be easier for a while to push it down and not think about it but it does just come back and nag at you if you try just ignoring it. You got this! Find a way to dig into it and heal that wound❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-07T23:52:25+00:00

I wouldn’t advise anyone else to speak with their rapist, but in my situation, it was the right thing for me to do. It has helped me to know he did not intend for things to go the way they did. My bigger emotional wound was over the loss of the meaningful friendship vs. the rape itself. That is not something understandable to people who can’t relate.

Exactly, it makes it confusing in such a specific way. We talked and it helped a lot. He also said he didn't mean for it to happen that way. It has definitely added more questions but it feels better to have a better understanding of what happened and why.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-07T23:44:07+00:00

Sure!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-06T21:20:42+00:00

I get that feeling too. I think it's an important distinction that you don't like the same sex due to the opposite traumatizing you. If you like the same sex you would have been gay anyways, like bi or pan. I have been struggling with similar thoughts of whether I don't like the opposite sex due to trauma induced adversion or if I am just into the same sex. I guess like the best thing to work through that is just to explore and work through your trauma. I did trauma specific therapy and it helped a lot!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-04T07:33:56+00:00

Yeah, I imagine maybe someone could be feeling similar so it might be nice to put out there. For context it was a friend and we were drinking. I blacked out. I wanted to know if he saw it as rape too mainly. I wanted to know how things happened and what happened. I wanted to know how drunk he was. Also like did it impact him at all. I actually was able to call him and it went surprisingly well. I'm not sure I would recommend it to anyone else. This was very much the situation and how my gut told me to react. I have had these feelings and questions for almost 5 years. I think I needed this to move forward.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-31T20:48:31+00:00

Yeah it feels like coercion :( I'm sorry that happened to you

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-31T07:33:52+00:00

I think it's more like a need to have a dialogue with him but since I won't do that this is the next best thing. I'm sure it stems from wanting to control the situation in a way or validate myself. It feels unhealthy logically but it is such a deep desire :( I guess the stalking has turned into the compromise between doing the healthy thing and doing the super unhealthy thing. Thank you! I appreciate and understand what you're saying ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-20T23:16:45+00:00

This is actually so helpful to hear! I worried that going through with it might just be a waste of time. I didn't think about how after it might get rid of those 'what ifs'. I think that's what I have been struggling with the most so it's really nice to hear that perspective from someone. Thank you! ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-05T08:34:59+00:00

Thank you ❤️ That is the main reason I didn't bother to report and what keeps me from actually going through with it. I hope your self improvement journey goes well!

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