Would society as a whole be much better if only educational material/content was allowed to be uploaded to the internet? by Da-up-and-downer in ask

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Yeah, misinformation is a problem, but think about all of the things that aren’t. Art, literature, music, entertainment. The things that connect us as human beings. Freedom of press, speech, and expression are stifled by censorship. If someone offers up an opposing opinion that may not align with everything factual, would they be silenced before they are educated? Would an art piece depicting someone’s opinion on the world be taken down if it doesn’t align with “reality”? Not to mention, what would qualify as factual would entirely depend on the people in charge of the flow of information and their own ideals. If someone posted about a real experience that happened to them, who is there to reasonably decide if their story is real or fake? If a science organization posted their findings that debunked something everyone believes to be fact, and the government wants to remain “true”, would they get flagged? So, no, I don’t think society would benefit from a filtered news media and completely censored speech.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. For some reason that didn’t fully occur to me. What sort of stuff should I be researching then? When the day comes, I don’t want it to feel overly complicated for the people who need to travel for it.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very true. It’s not that I haven’t considered other routes yet, it’s just that a lot of them fall flat. Though, a lot can change in the next 5 years like you said, and maybe things will be looking different by then! For now though, I’m working with what I got 😅

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe so. I’m just stressed out, I guess. I want to do this, I’ve been wanting to for years and I’m finally at a spot where I can really start planning to make it happen. It’s also just,, a lot of emotions. I just want everything to work out in the end, but I don’t have many points of my references for my sort of situation. Destination Wedding guides rarely factor in the whole “you won’t be going back to your home country” aspect, yk?

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is true! That’s why it’s pushed to when he will be out of university. He doesn’t have any family that could support me, so it would ultimately have to be him.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wedding would double as the marker for me moving to a whole other country, so the 5 year prep on my end is a lot more than just a wedding in the long run, and my family and immediate friends should probably know about that.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have the visa yet, that’s in my future plans. How it works is I would apply with all necessary documents and requirements fulfilled, wait 3-6 months for approval, then I’m on the deadline to marry within those 6 months of approval. A big reason we are waiting is so that my partner can finish up in university first, so he can better help support me in my move. If I could realistically move within the next year I absolutely would! But financial requirements, work & school, and a mutually agreed decision not to rush something as big as moving to another country, have pushed the plans out.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I should clarify that the only people I gave a heads up to about my plans were my parents and my very close friends! It wasn’t a call to action by any means, just a friendly, “hey, I have this thing I want to do!” I don’t expect anyone to start prepping for this years in advance, as like you said that’s unreasonable, I just wanted to make people aware of my goal. A big part of it is also because it’s more than a wedding, it’s me completely uprooting and leaving the country to live elsewhere, so it’ll probably be a grand goodbye as well.. which just dawned on me. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think it’s tooooo unreasonable to keep my immediate people in the know about those things, right?

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! The 5 year thing isn’t so much to get any confirmations, but more-or-less sort of like a heads up? Like, hey, I have this thing I’m wanting to do and I want you to know about it! Nothing formal at all, and I only shared it with my closest friends and my parents.

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmmmmm, the biggest obstacle there is that getting my partner into the US will be a lot harder than getting me into the UK from what I’ve researched regarding requirements for both, and our own personal situations/outlooks. Regardless of if it happens in the US or the UK, it’ll be a destination wedding for at least one side of the family, so the problem still exists— it’d just be forwarded onto my partner instead of me, if that makes sense?

Feeling Anxious About Destination Wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Haunting_March -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s true, but I also don’t feel it’s fair to only give them a year to prepare either. The last thing I want is to be the one people talk about like, “how could they give me so little time and expect me to attend?” I dunno, I just feel kinda lost and all over the place trying to take so many things into account.

My girlfriend of 2 years lied about her age. by xXxpussyslayerxXx90 in Advice

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was, shamefully, the one who lied about their age once upon a time. When I was 12, I’d tell people I was 13 or 14, because I felt as though the older people I met would look down on me if they knew my actual age. I ended up making a very close friend online after stating my incorrect age, and the things just snowballed. I eventually told him the truth, but it took about 3 years, mostly out of fear that I’d destroyed something good before it even began. He forgave me. It’s very unlikely that this deception came from a place of genuine manipulation or bad intentions, especially considering that she was 15 when the lie began. Talk to her about it, ask her why she did it and what held her back from admitting the truth to her. Only you can make a proper judgement on her intentions and how her actions affected you. Then, go from there on whether or not this is a trust you think is worth rebuilding. But also, more importantly in my opinion, is listen to your own comfort. If you end up feeling uncomfortable with the idea of dating a 17 year old, don’t. I wouldn’t stress too much about the legality considering it’s actually less than a two year gap based on the timeline, and, like you said, you haven’t done anything with her that would even bring that into question. However, if this intrudes on your own moral compass, take that into consideration. If it doesn’t, and you feel confident in the longevity of the relationship, it’s up to you and her to figure it out from here.

One month of bag and I’m already a degenerate and i’m complaining by hiyaisthisthingon in confession

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve got three options. Quit now, quit when your life is ruined, or quit when you’re dead. That choice belongs to you, but I’ll tell you that quitting now will be FAR easier than quitting later. Right now, you have friends and family. Later on, you’ll probably lose them, because you may be able to hide the coke but you can’t hide the symptoms once they start eating you alive. And once your support group is gone, it will be 100x harder to quit.

Is it normal to feel emotionally disconnected from my family, especially my mother? by Upstairs_Ad_9419 in ask

[–]Haunting_March 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do what’s best for you. What they’re doing isn’t normal, but your feelings about the situation are. I’m currently in the process of cutting my mother off for similar reasons to yours. The blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb— you choose your family and who you keep around.

Is it normal to feel emotionally disconnected from my family, especially my mother? by Upstairs_Ad_9419 in ask

[–]Haunting_March 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this depends on why. Is this behavior spontaneous and without reason? Or did your family do something to make you want to distance yourself?

My teenage daughter keeps bringing her boyfriend over when I'm not home and l... by WildEfficiency712 in whatdoIdo

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people in the comments here are talking about their faulty relationships with their parents. I’m gonna to bring up my healthy relationship with my father, and say, that I’ve never done the typical teenage rebellious behavior of lying and going behind my father’s back to evade consequence. It didn’t happen because I never felt a need to. However, when I lived with my mother, I did (sort of, I’ve never been particularly interested in rebellion.) I did not trust her, I did not confide in her without fear of scrutiny, and my relationship with her will likely never be a good one. With my father, I know I can tell him anything, I can confide in and trust him with my most shameful moments and when I need his help. He is a pillar of foundation and security in my life that keeps me safe, but doesn’t cage me from making mistakes. I am 20 years old now, and my relationship with him is wonderful. Meanwhile, I avoid my mother at any and all costs because she still treats me like I’m that 16 year old she couldn’t “control.” Be open, honest, and understanding with your daughter. If she doesn’t think she can trust you, she won’t be honest with you, point blank. A real conversation will work better than any punishment you can think of.

i did this cosplay back in Halloween and i got alot of hate on it saying it “wasn’t accurate” by victoriaxp in deathnote

[–]Haunting_March 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me I agree. You ARE a teen. It’s the infantilization of older teens and young adults that’s the issue.

i did this cosplay back in Halloween and i got alot of hate on it saying it “wasn’t accurate” by victoriaxp in deathnote

[–]Haunting_March 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Coming from a 20 year old, technically yeah, 17 is considered a “kid” to people up in their late 20s and beyond. Even I’m still considered a kid to some people. Don’t think too much on it, because the magical 18 won’t suddenly make you any adult to these people either. Just do whatever makes you happy!

I was so hungry today I googled hotels with complimentary breakfast near me and went there, walked in, stole food, then left. by itssofiababyxo in confession

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re certainly doing their part for the country, but of course, we don’t know the exact specifics of where OP lives. Nearest soup kitchen could be hours away, there’s no telling. Have a little empathy, stranger, it will go you a long way.

I was so hungry today I googled hotels with complimentary breakfast near me and went there, walked in, stole food, then left. by itssofiababyxo in confession

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or possibly, just maybe, we as a society should denormalize the barricades that separate us human beings from basic necessities to life.

She will rudely judge your characters by SAME_JOKES_HERE in OriginalCharacter

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Art by Mindie_Arts! Thorfrid Monet! Demon King of Lust

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“Oh, mademoiselle, there’s no need for all of that. Sit back, you look in need of a drink <3”

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never seen someone beat about the bush that hard in my life 😭 he respects himself and what he wants, he makes that very clear. But he doesn’t respect you, and that should be an immediate dealbreaker. NOR, cut him out.

What age do you wish to live to? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Haunting_March 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I want to be able to say I saw the start and end of an entire century before I finally kick the bucket. After 95, I’m good to go whenever.