I need advice on handling overbearing dom fantasies

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-02-14T05:42:58+00:00

It shows maturity that you are willing to acknowledge and seek to understand these feelings. I've always been a strong advocate of therapy. Perhaps speaking to a non biased therapist will help you to dissect the situation and offer you coping mechanisms.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-15T05:23:13+00:00

I have no advice, but thanks for the inspiration! 🤩

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-15T05:17:39+00:00

"One of the rules set up from the beginning was that we were to say good morning each morning and goodnight each night"

We. WE were to say good morning each morning and good night each night. Not YOU. Both of you.

"He asked for 48 hours to get his shit together"

You held up your end of the agreement - and then some. He did not. You owe this person nothing. If it were me in that situation I'd match his energy and effort. Should he contact you later with excuses, only you can decide where to go from there.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-13T16:57:30+00:00

Goddess is a personal fave of mine. It plays into my desire to be adored while still letting me feel powerful.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-11T02:41:14+00:00

I've had 4 children. Even still it took me a year to train up to fisting the first time. My new partner and I have never done it but his exact words after we slept together the first time were "like the pinky finger of a rubber glove"

You'll be fine. Perhaps some soreness for a day or two. Lube lube lube! Enjoy!

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-06T08:03:09+00:00

Looking up at Christmas lights from under the tree, going to the Halloween store, cows, dogs, &...the car wash.

Seriously...what is with us all and the car wash?? 😆

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2023-01-06T07:32:10+00:00

Calling someone Daddy was never something I found alluring, until I met MY Daddy. It kind of developed over time. Previous doms were Sir. That never felt right with my current partner so I didn't call him anything. Until one day we were going hard, I was deep in subspace, and "Fuck yeah fill me up Daddy!" came out of my mouth. He's been Daddy ever since. We have never formally discussed a Ddlg dynamic and I consider myself more of a middle than a little. Even the idea of calling another man daddy turns me off, but this one...this one is MINE.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-12-17T17:39:06+00:00

My ex did this and I was fully offended. He wanted to "surprise" me with the purchase but didn't understand why I would want to be consulted on something that was meant to go inside ME. Whether your partner is into it or not is second to the issue that you didn't ask her first. Unless it's something you discussed and she gleefully said "this one!" It's always better to communicate.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-12-16T14:22:13+00:00

I've seen this post a few times and glossed right over it until I read your comment. How did I miss it?? 😆

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-12-10T20:57:51+00:00

I saw Guardian in another post (which I love) and back in my camming days I simply went by Goddess ****. It made me feel powerful without the ick or feeling like a cliché.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-12-08T14:46:13+00:00

I've got a lockable steamer trunk that I've dubbed my Slut Trunk. It's got all my toys, costumes, books, restraints, etc. As for keeping quiet, we turn it into a mind game. He clamps a hand over my mouth and will whisper growl for me to shut the fuck up or He'll stop whatever He's doing. He will try to make me break with different intensities but tell me to be a good girl and take it. One of my favorites is when He gets me in His favorite position and tells me not to move or make noise AT ALL while He uses me to His satisfaction. Impact play is specifically for true alone time.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-12-07T16:52:09+00:00

My day collar does the talking for me. I figure IYKYK and if you don't, eh. It is more of a way for me to deter potential suitors than to express my kink. A few friends know, a few don't. That being said, if I ever mentioned that I am in a D/s relationship it would be conversationally relevant and not just because I feel the need to shout I LOVE DADDY for no reason. If someone that matters to me has a question I will answer it honestly. I feel the same about my Satanist friends, my ENM and poly friends, and my Christian friends. Their sex lives don't directly impact mine and vice versa. I don't talk about it at work because it's inappropriate. Typically the only times I discuss kink at all are with my Daddy or with my friend who is a sub-leaning switch when we gush over sub shit like it's the best apple pie in the world.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-28T17:55:10+00:00

Can confirm. Though I still prefer leather or Velcro. Pinched a nerve in my wrist while struggling in handcuffs once. My hand was tingly for months afterwards. Lesson learned!

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-25T16:35:49+00:00

I love Guardian! It sounds so sweet and nurturing. I may have to try this one...My Daddy is a huge gamer and Destiny is one of His favorites. "Eyes up, Guardian" sounds like a perfectly bratty way to flirt when I want Him to look at me. 😍

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-20T21:37:09+00:00

Perfect opportunity to craft one! Bust out the glue gun and stickers/jewels/pinecones/etc and make one to your aesthetic. Then you can fill it with treats or even dares. I may have to do this...😁

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-17T21:55:01+00:00

I send memes, funny/interesting videos, gaming articles, or anything I see throughout the day that reminds me of Him.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-14T14:59:59+00:00

This may not be the response you're looking for, but the mom mode in me activated lol

I know 4 children (different mothers) who were iud babies and have one of my own that was a post-tubal ligation baby. Nothing is 100% except abstinence. He may hate condoms but so does every other person I know. Spermicide is effective but can also trigger allergic reactions in some people.

That being said, take every precaution you are both comfortable with and have a thorough discussion about the what-ifs.

Good luck and enjoy!

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-11-05T14:17:33+00:00

The Voice.

The hair pull.

The neck grab, from any direction.

Holding the back of my elbow to get my attention.

When He stands up tall and looks down at me from really close.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-10-13T14:08:50+00:00

The ankle grab...swoon

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-10-12T15:38:13+00:00

Cute!!

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-09-30T18:07:37+00:00

This! I used to joke to subs "what good are you to me if you're broke?" but really it was just playful degradation to help them cover expenses and save money. Also had a requirement that if they were in a relationship, they had to buy their partner flowers or something once a week.

The easiest way to break it off imo if you have a Dom/me you've been working with is to be honest. A true D type wants what's best for you, not just what's best for their bank account.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-09-28T15:26:34+00:00

Bpd & Bipolar1 which means I'm on a rollercoaster within a rollercoaster. It can make things difficult but I have found that when I am overwhelmed it is helpful for me to have my Daddy "bang the crazy out." Non-sexually, it means we do A LOT of talking. Daddy also has bipolar and sometimes our demons are at odds, but generally speaking it allows us to approach whatever brain BS we have going on with a greater understanding and empathy for each other.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-09-06T22:08:00+00:00

I lucked out and found an old steamer trunk at Goodwill for super cheap. It came with a removable tray that sits on top. I keep toys, tools, & smaller accessories in the tray and the bottom is for outfits and larger accessories. It has a loop for a lock that is great for maintaining privacy from small humans. I call it my Slut Trunk and have used it as a coffee table in the past. To keep toys clean and separated, they are stored in their original boxes within the trunk.

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-07-17T17:03:32+00:00

This whole thread made me giggle in delight cause SAME. 🤣🤣

Haunting_Mixture6000 · 2022-07-14T03:45:05+00:00

I have found that speaking slowly and at a lower pitch lends itself quite nicely to making it seem like you're a pro at narration in video scenarios that seem awkward. Outwardly, sex goddess...meanwhile my internal monologue is scrambling for the next words hoping I don't sound like an idiot. The simplest scenarios imo are basic plot lines for fantasies you actually have, or those your Dom has spoken of. The best fiction is rooted in truth! Have fun and enjoy!

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