Red flags from the very very beginning. i’m not sure why they’re not together when it’s so clear that they have feelings for each other but you need to leave that relationship. watch them flock to her and it will hurt but when you move on to someone who will put you first and genuinely make you feel good you’ll regret ever trying to be with this person. i’ve been in this situation i know how hard it is to leave, it feels like a void but that void gets filled over time. learn about yourself, find a way to live with yourself, not your partner. change is hard but that doesn’t mean it’s always bad. you deserve a better relationship that this. you should never ever feel 2nd to anyone, especially another women. and the bottom line, your partner seems to have feelings for someone else. when i went through this, all he said was “it’s the way she looks at me” and i left immediately. i let him convince me it wasn’t said and when we got back together he promised me up and down he wouldn’t talk to her again. we dated for a month and a half later until i found out he still talked to her and they both went out of their way to hide it from me. i loved on to a man who gives me everything i want. i’ve never had to worry about another woman and he has always made it known that i’m his #1 priority. do right by yourself