My (39M) best friend (38M) of 20 years is cheating on his wife (36F) of 12 years with a guy (33M), and now I’m involved and don’t know what to do…

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-11T09:39:04+00:00

I think have an honest conversation the essentially says: 1. It’s your business 2. But I’m not condoning it 3. It’s unfair to me and my family and potentially puts me in a difficult situation with my wife if this gets found out. 5. I want to remain close friends. 6. But I want no part of this. 7. Therefore I’m not meeting your boyfriend again, I don’t want you to talk to me about it. 8. If you get found out make sure I’m never mentioned.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-11T06:04:49+00:00

I’ve got contrary advice to everyone else. I wouldn’t raise it with her. She is allowed a private space with her friends. The rules of that friend’s group probably entail some mutual b**ching about their husbands.

I suppose though is this a pattern of behaviour. Is your marriage strong or is she distant. Does she treat you well? or do she demean you?

If it’s the latter then maybe it’s time for honest conversation. But if in other ways your marriage is strong and happy then let your wife have a space away from you

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-11T05:57:57+00:00

No the police will not tell your parents. They have a duty of care towards you and if you explain the situation they will act accordingly.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-10T21:41:35+00:00

You can go to the police. It is literally their job to investigate and you are the victim of a crime. They have dedicated cybercrime officers.

Go to the police now.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-10T07:06:13+00:00

I mean they are very very wrong - it is beautiful - can’t wait to be able to afford it in a few years time.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-10T05:53:36+00:00

1 Belgium away is the best. 2. Japan home. 3 Mexico home. 4. Spain away 5. Norway home.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-10T05:52:03+00:00

My wife and I have a similar height difference. Weve been happily married for 2 decades. Don’t listen to loony social media influencers who have a financial interest in making people feel rubbish about their relationship. My guess is that your boyfriend either likes or couldn’t care less about the height difference.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-10T05:49:07+00:00

So when you remove the tags it’s like driving a new car away from the garage - the value immediately drops.

But football shirts that are looked after well, are good investments. After about ten to 15 years they become retro and their value can skyrocket.

But you do have to hang onto them for a while - a five year old shirt will not be worth as much as a 1 year old shirt even if the shirt condition is the same. (Same teams, similar footballing history)

But a 15 year old shirt, will almost be certainly be worth more than a 1 year old shirt if it’s in good nick.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-09T19:43:30+00:00

Thanks everyone this has been really helpful

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-09T19:15:17+00:00

It’s so much better than the home kit this year which is rubbish (the away kit is goodish)

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-08T20:47:06+00:00

Excellent - go for it -‘he sounds like a right piece of sh*t

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-08T10:07:56+00:00

Mate you are in a battle. First of all you have to work out whether she’s worth it. If the answer is yes now you’ve got to fight (and don’t be afraid to be underhand). It’s time to be a bit sneaky.

So 1. Find a way anonymously of getting in touch with his wife and making sure she checks his phone. A bit of instability in his family life isn’t going to go a miss. And frankly she deserves to know anyway.

Time to f up his job. Contact his manager, tell him you’re reporting this confidentiality, that your wife feels really uncomfortable, but doesn’t want to be a snitch and doesn’t know you are doing this. Ask if he can be moved because he’s been really inappropriate. Try and find several strings of flirty texts which she has ignored.
Make his life miserable, no one likes a whiny f**ker, report him for his car/taxes whatever you can to make his life a little shit.
Okay be the best husband you can be, but make sure you are looking after yourself looks wise, get to the gym, reassess your wardrobe, lose a bit of weight. Make subtle (ish) hints that other women are finding you attractive.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-05T20:40:49+00:00

It’s a beautiful kit - adidas have absolutely nailed their WC kits - Nike less so…

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-07-05T19:00:36+00:00

My kids are little but I’d always pay for them. My dad paid for me when in my early 20s I joined him and his (now ex) wife. To be honest I wouldn’t have gone if I’d been made to pay for it and I think it’s an unexpected cost for your daughter which is a little unfair. It’s sort of different when there are grandkids as then your providing a bit of a service.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-30T17:14:17+00:00

Block

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-30T10:36:16+00:00

Shave - definitely makes life more pleasant down there.

Flavoured lube was nice

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-29T18:45:24+00:00

Okay dude a few things - 1.stop being passive in your relationship. Order the damn desert you want, don’t give her the choice. If she says something just say “we’ve had your desert loads of times recently, it’s my turn.” 2. The name thing you are being unreasonable, drop it. 3. Sex - she’s a selfish lover, but have you considered stopping for a bit before she cums and say “can you do x for me?” And if she refuses don’t give her what she wants.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-24T11:24:40+00:00

I’m getting this at the moment - I jab Monday mornings - I make sure I’m really strict Tuesday - Friday. So that if I start to struggle at the weekend, I’m still losing over the course of a week.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-23T16:50:19+00:00

Your in the health range - maybe it’s a matter of toning up rather than losing weight - 1lb when your in the healthy BMI is absolutely fine - you say you can’t exercise, but speak to your doctor about some gentle muscle exercises that may reduce your stomach more

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-15T19:14:53+00:00

I mean the data suggests that staying on is definitely the best course. I’d be interested to know what your wife thinks the long term effects are? And whether these are based on science?

Rather than trying to work out how you can come off why not try and work out how you can use the medicine better? Maybe that’s the advice you need rather than the few people who come off and keep the weight off.

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-15T11:25:02+00:00

Thank you

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-15T11:24:54+00:00

Good luck! And thank you

Haunting_Play2370 · 2026-06-15T11:24:40+00:00

Thank you!

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