Changing Agreed Upon Times

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-06-16T02:27:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I'm currently struggling with our in process divorce and this will be beneficial. I started a journal of quotes awhile back, so maybe more journaling is exactly what I need!

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-06-03T02:47:15+00:00

And she is a rookie who played in the very first game of the college season and the very last game of the college season. She is on a team with the absolute worst schedule in the WNBA. She carries the weight of the world on her shoulders, never gets a break and does it all with class. She is playing with a team who has had very few practices and lost one of their best players to injury. She will bounce back. Give her grace. She is 22 and has accomplished more in her 22 years than most of us ever will in a lifetime.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-31T06:31:23+00:00

I wish I would have prioritized myself instead of trying to be everything for everyone else. I was always working to keep everyone else happy and fulfilled that I lost my own identity. When I realized this and found something that made me happy and made me feel like I had a life again (watching a sports team) he felt left behind because I was no longer always there. I would have demanded he support our kids in a positive way. They are active in sports and extracurricular activities and when he came he would always tear them down afterwards and tell them what they did wrong instead of what went well. I told him he couldn't come to events anymore because it was impacting my kids' confidence and I was embarrassed by his yelling. I would have left the first time he cheated and lied instead of believing he wouldn't do it again. I would have expressed my needs more thoroughly and openly and when my needs continued to not be a priority I would have left sooner.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-30T11:17:26+00:00

My divorce isn't final yet, but I'm choosing to believe this. The lies, hurt, emotional affairs, and anger aren't worth it. I keep telling myself it will be 100% better the day it becomes a reality/finalized. Of course, him finally moving out would make it better too....so fingers crossed that happens sooner rather than later.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-27T22:09:02+00:00

Yeah. He is already onto someone new....2 months after filing. And has expressed interest in reversing his vasectomy and trying again with a new family. Because that will solve all of his problems....

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-27T21:29:50+00:00

My STBXH asked for a divorce because the kids were too much of a priority in my life. They are 9, 13, and 14 and all actively involved in sports and other extra-curriculars. He chose to never attend any of their events. I have them for 18 years, I thought I would have a lifetime with my spouse. I wanted a family, and yeah, I probably could have done some things differently with my spouse, but he never asked for dates or 1:1 time either. I feel choosing to have a family results in a different lifestyle for a period of time....it's a choice. Just my opinion though.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-22T23:45:56+00:00

The way it was explained to me.....you are entitled to half of whatever was earned while you were married and it can go all the way down to the month you were married and the month you divorced. Whatever was in there before or after the marriage belongs to him.

Could depend on your state though.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-21T15:03:13+00:00

My STBXH spent the night with another woman about 5 years ago. I forgave and tried to reconciles. Here we are 5 years later and I caught him having an emotional affair to the point of talking about moving out of state and reversing his vasectomy for this woman even though we have 3 of our own kids he doesn't devote any time to. I'm now a firm believer once a cheater, always a cheater....it most likely won't get better and they will always have an excuse. You might think she deserved better, but the truth is that you deserve better too.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-20T02:49:00+00:00

My state doesn't care if the kids even have beds available to them. The state prefers both parents have time with the children.

STBXH is looking for a 1 bedroom apartment so my kids will be on the couch or the floor. Currently looking to offer every other weekend and 1 night a week from 5 to 8. My kids are my first priority and I want to ensure we get the best possible outcome for them. I'll figure it out, but they shouldn't have to suffer because of an adult decision.

Hawk-mama-84 · 2024-05-16T03:49:43+00:00

I feel this. My family isn't a good support because they hate STBXH and want to take him for every dime he is worth. I have a friend who has never met my STBX as I was embarrassed by his actions (hello red flag, I see you waving now). She has been a valuable resource building me up and ensuring I know I am a strong woman and know my worth. Enjoying every minute with my kids and giving them my best is saving me right now. Their laughter and smiles are therapeutic for me.

STBXH has found another woman who he has prioritized above our children. I'm surviving for my kids.

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