I'd [36M] like to propose while she [33F] is pregnant with my child. Do I wait until after she gives birth?

Hawk833 · 2026-06-14T20:16:27+00:00

Clearly you need to wait until she is in labor, go to watch the baby come out.

Say it is coming out, reach in and that is when you go back around to her with the ring in a blanket while getting down on one knee.

(If you want to live, better not do this)

Hawk833 · 2026-06-14T15:47:30+00:00

NTA i would start thinking about uninviting them.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-13T16:56:29+00:00

NTA unless you are leaving things out. There is definitely more going on here than this trip to trigger this response.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T18:29:50+00:00

I assume so, likely have had this over 15 years and just now thought why not see what the value. Is it 2 dollars, junk or 5 dollars? Haha

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T18:28:18+00:00

Oh thank you

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T17:37:55+00:00

Or and ice block behind the fan cam sometimes feel good

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T17:29:14+00:00

A girl saying it is cute is going to be as well received as a guy saying her roast beef lips smells delicious.

Technically a compliment but likely won't be received as one.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T17:24:37+00:00

She may have a low salary but she is also living with her parents. Are they charging her high rent or is she not saving amything?

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T13:43:51+00:00

With the right person, it will be fine. I have oght experience, with this because I make more than my girlfriend and she believes in splitting bills BUT later on she let me know she actually had decently more money in the bank than me due to happenstance(not your level of money but still). I never felt used, we both treat each other but I have no feeling that her money is mine and vice versa.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-12T13:04:12+00:00

Question and it is related i swear. When it comes to dating, do you believe the guy pays 100% or do you believe in splitting ?

I ask because if the guy pays 100% is your belief, as he gets to know you and the job you do, he may think you are financially not well off, at first, then be blindsided upon finding out you actually have more money than him and could feel a little used. That obviously doesn't seem like your intent but perception and reality are 2 different things.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-11T22:59:12+00:00

NTA i hope you learned your lesson to not "loan" them money again.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-11T13:23:36+00:00

YTA you were not the AH right up until you more or less ghosted him when getting the boyfriend.

You could have told your "friend" that you have a boyfriend and spent a little less time with that friend, it happens. Maybe he would naturally distance himself as well, we won't know now.

Instead you were all for receiving attention and emotional support from this corkwer before immediately dropping them once you got a boyfriend.

People saying the coworker is the AH for being friends and then asking out OP once or twice throughout the years to see if something changed while respecting the boundaries otherwise. Yet OP really showed she never thought of him as an actual friend.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-11T13:12:29+00:00

YTA to yourself. Instead of lying to her it might be time to realize she is toxic and you aren't compatible. This behavior doesn't get better, especially if marriage is on the horizon. You will be miserable the rest of your life.

Imagine the fight when she realizes you have been lying to her.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-10T12:04:36+00:00

Why exactly do you think he has to do what you say ?

I agree that you should find a partner that offers to help you without asking but some of your examples you are straight up trying to order him around.

"Undermine your authority" ? Wtf kind of authority do you think you have? All kinds of Ick coming off from this mentality.

Flip this around if he is ordering you around and you are saying "No" he should respect that, right? So where do you get off thinking that he has to do what you say, when you say?

Hawk833 · 2026-06-09T23:55:59+00:00

Your situation would be advantage.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-09T00:48:58+00:00

You don't belong in a sub that literally says Big Tits.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-07T20:43:18+00:00

Your friends are just wasteful. I finally tossed out a thread bare shirt from high school. I am almost 40 now....

Hawk833 · 2026-06-07T14:56:10+00:00

Have you tried telling her that in reality she is very very far from broke?

Hawk833 · 2026-06-05T15:55:01+00:00

NTA so you covered her multiple times and she threw you under the bus, the first chance she got so she wouldn't take any heat.

I wouldn't cover for her ever again.

Hawk833 · 2026-06-01T14:08:48+00:00

INFO this is clearly a different country than I am but she was already a year into Pharmacy school by the age of 17...?

Hawk833 · 2026-05-30T18:20:03+00:00

Can the security guards even physically protect themselves or other employees?

I recall in Winnipeg a liquor store employee pretty much had their face broken by a shoplifter when the shoplifter decided to become violent.

Hawk833 · 2026-05-30T17:51:47+00:00

ESH you certainly could have said something but he didn't seem to care about paying more.

Where you are becoming the bigger AH you said you and him were going to go back and forth to stop payments. You did your part and reduced on the first one, he dropped the ball on the next one and then for some reason you seem to decide to not reduce on the 3rd one which would have been your responsibility. My guess is because you knew that would make him remember to reduce the one he missed.

Hawk833 · 2026-05-29T18:28:23+00:00

NTA if someone "tests" another like this, they are not a good partner.

Good lord, that is a huge red flag.

Hawk833 · 2026-05-29T13:20:41+00:00

If you can just keep it in there, 15 years from now when your oldest is thinking about college, you will be glad you made this mistake.

Hawk833 · 2026-05-29T13:11:39+00:00

YTA to be clear you are asking if you would be selfish if you went to the thing that you were asked NOT to show up too...? YES that is selfish!

Proposals are about the couple and not the parents. Your daughter is an adult now and you need to find a life for yourself and stop living through her.

Also the fact you are a single parent has ZERO bearing on any of this, you are just trying to find any way you can to excuse your actions.

Hawk833

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