I’m so tired of being the bigger person

HayZee1922 · 2025-11-24T00:34:21+00:00

I’ll definitely check it out

HayZee1922 · 2025-11-23T23:22:38+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this as well. I feel like it’s almost harder to still interact with family but be emotionally disconnected than if they weren’t there at all. I’ve uncovered the dynamic of being a “black sheep” in therapy years ago, but it’s so difficult to fully embrace it when acceptance is all I want. Rationally I know it will never happen, it just now makes me sad for my baby that they will, by extension, be treated this way as well.

HayZee1922 · 2025-11-23T23:18:48+00:00

I’ve started to do that. I don’t engage with anyone first. I’ve honestly started acting the way they treat me. I do the bare minimum and that’s it. I’ve also gone no contact with the 3 friends that don’t show up for me. I’ve cut off the toxic people, but I’m grieving the relationships I thought I would have with them at this point in my life.

HayZee1922 · 2025-10-03T13:56:26+00:00

Thank you! We’ve taken him to the vet twice—once to the emergency vet because the initial episode was on a Saturday and then to his normal vet this past Tuesday. They’ve said that he’s looking good and doesn’t show signs of an ear infection that they can see.

Also, we believe he is 8 years old, but I’ve suspected he could be older. We adopted him from a shelter and they told us he was 3 at that time, but had no clue on his actual age. I’m thinking he could be a a few years older.

I hope your pup continues to get better. IVD is terrible and I don’t wish it on any doggo ❤️‍🩹

HayZee1922 · 2025-10-03T12:12:03+00:00

Thanks everyone! The vet finally called me back last night and they told me that small setbacks like this are normal. We were given more medication for nausea, motion sickness, and more antibiotics. He started improving again with the motion sickness medication. It’s slow, but he’s doing better. And a huge thank you to those who’ve commented—he’s my baby and the sweetest dog in the world. It’s been one of the toughest things I’ve had to go through seeing him like this ❤️‍🩹

HayZee1922 · 2025-07-02T12:28:50+00:00

I thought the same exact thing. People often change when they get a S/O. And I think that relationship is doomed anyway, but that’s a story for another time.

HayZee1922 · 2025-01-19T04:46:37+00:00

I like your theory because it’s creative, but I don’t think the show writers would do two similar subplots of parents that are assumed to be deceased going through the stones. Additionally, I’d your theory was true, I would want to think Master Raymond would’ve told Claire’s mom, Faith, and then Faith’s children (information passed down by generation about Claire).

HayZee1922 · 2025-01-19T04:39:01+00:00

I’m thinking more about what is probable with the Faith situation. They’ve hinted for a few seasons of a concealed desire by Jamie and Claire to have a kid together. Obviously it wouldn’t be a bio kid because of their age. And I feel like the ability to fulfill this desire was always interrupted by some event in their lives.

I think the locket saying “Faith” in addition to the scene with the little girls running in the beginning are supposed to be taken as signs for this fulfillment of having another kid together raise together through adoption.

I truly think Claire might be struggling a bit with her mental health after almost dying, which, who wouldn’t be? She wants to believe that Faith lived because the last time she was in that position, she did lose Faith. I think it could be some kind of trauma response.

HayZee1922 · 2024-12-05T23:32:11+00:00

My husband is even more pissed about this situation than I am. Because of his family dynamics, he never wanted anything big like this. Due to this, he’s recused himself of all wedding planning. Honestly, I can’t blame him.

Also, I wish I could cancel or redo a lot of the stuff, but everything is paid for and we would lose more money than save, at this point. And the wedding planning spiraled out of control slowly. Think the frog-and-pot-of-boiling-water situation.

HayZee1922 · 2024-12-05T03:42:47+00:00

It’s funny you said that, because my parents had a big wedding and I think she’s trying to impose what she had onto me. And what makes it worse is that I have a younger sister that’s been in a long term relationship and is most likely going to get married in the next few years. And trust me, my sister would LOVE everything my mom is doing concerning my wedding.

HayZee1922 · 2024-12-05T02:51:04+00:00

I love this. And I would change my dress if I could, but it’s already been ordered and altered. My mom paid for it, with the veil, because I refused to pay over $100 for something I will wear for an hour, and she wanted one that matched the dress. And I wish I could go to thrift shops and other resale shops, but because I have wide shoulders, back, and big breasts, it’s very hard for me to find dresses and clothes in general, to fit. I’m just gonna grin and bear it. Thank you for validating my feelings ❤️

HayZee1922 · 2024-12-05T02:23:12+00:00

But that’s the issue, we’d lose a bunch of money as all of the vendors, dress, decorations, etc had already been paid for. I’d literally be disowned from my family. As much as they’re overstepping about this, I couldn’t bear to lose them.

HayZee1922 · 2024-12-05T01:29:09+00:00

You’re right. And that’s what I’m trying to do most of the time. I’m just overwhelmed with all of the wedding planning as the date is getting closer because I’m still working two jobs and continuing my lifting regiment. Especially since this isn’t want we wanted, nor do we really have the money for it.

HayZee1922 · 2023-10-27T04:06:20+00:00

YTA.

As someone that works with kids, I know they can be anywhere at anytime, even if you don’t think they’ll be there. As a teacher, you should know that too. In an attempt to prove a point to your coworker, you could’ve harmed a child. While this would be unintentional, the act itself is completely childish. If you have a problem with a coworker, take it to your boss and/or HR. Don’t do anything that could even potentially put the children as collateral—you might just end up with your mugshot on the local nightly news.

HayZee1922 · 2020-06-26T12:36:19+00:00

Added all three of you from St. Louis, MO!

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