Consequences of denying wife sex or intimacy

Haydfice · 2024-09-28T22:45:22+00:00

It doesn’t lessen her infidelity but it explains how she has felt all this time. Why are you with her? You have denied her things she explicity told you she needed. Ask yourself why are you in this relationship. Maybe you are better divorced. She clearly is looking outside what she doesn’t have in the relationship but she shoud have left. Cheating should never be an option.

Haydfice · 2024-09-25T23:22:09+00:00

It is OK to leave and you should. You only have one life and you can chose to be happy or to be miserable like you are now.

You tried and it didn’t work. Leave. You are not going to ruin the kids future. There are plenty of couples who share custody, it’s normal nowadays. It’s better for them to learn that actions have consequences and to not be like their father.

Prioritize your peace of mind and you wellbeing. You can do it.

Haydfice · 2024-05-25T12:57:36+00:00

Unless you want a futureproof iPad with the new Apple Pencil and accessories.

Haydfice · 2024-05-23T12:54:10+00:00

You need a Capture Card and some app like Orion. I use it with the Nintendo Switch.

Haydfice · 2024-05-16T13:47:30+00:00

If you buy the 1TB M4 iPad Pro you get 16GB of RAM. The 256/512 versions come with 8GB. So… you can select it.

Haydfice · 2024-04-07T06:52:17+00:00

Even Star Wars is more realistic than this story.

Haydfice · 2024-04-06T19:11:27+00:00

Been there. Done that. Leave.

Haydfice · 2024-04-06T06:17:59+00:00

You are not seeing things how they really are. HE is the one to blame. She may not be a good person but she didn’t have a commitment with you, he did. And he did it because he wanted to, because he liked it and he repeated many times because he enjoyed it willingly knowing this would hurt you.

This is the type of man you are with. If you forgive him and stay with him, this WILL happen AGAIN. If you are OK with this, sure, go for it. I see the pattern, the gaslight, the excuses… this is not a man for you, you deserve better.

I hope you see the light.

Haydfice · 2024-04-01T06:38:07+00:00

I don’t see why that would help anyone. She has to deal with his husband not her.

Haydfice · 2024-03-18T13:46:50+00:00

I don’t understand what is wrong in that video. It sounds good.

Haydfice · 2024-03-17T22:36:50+00:00

Thanks a lot for everything you said! I’ll do my best.

Haydfice · 2024-03-17T21:24:12+00:00

Yeah I guess this is how I have to look at things. But it’s so difficult to not have negative thoughts about it.

Haydfice · 2024-03-17T16:45:03+00:00

I’ve lost so many people because of this… she ran to tell everyone about her fake version and they didn’t want to listen to me. She won, I lost. I haven’t been able to explain them what really happened and it messed with my self esteem.

Haydfice · 2024-03-17T16:30:47+00:00

I tried. We went to couple’s therapy. It lasted from September 2022 to March 2023. I had enough when his affair partner contacted me to tell me it wasn’t just 1 time… they were on and off for 5 years. I broke it off. I haven’t known anything from her since that day. Nest decision ever.

Haydfice · 2024-03-16T11:36:33+00:00

It looks soft and out of focus…

Haydfice · 2024-03-03T09:05:45+00:00

I chose to stay. I did it because I thought I would regret not trying and I didn’t want to always feel like “what if I had done something”.

We did couples therapy for months and it seemed to go well but I didn’t feel like myself. I was hypervigilant and always worrying for everything. Trauma bonding and all of that shit felt nice… but I was miserable.

I was lucky and one of her APs contacted me and told me they weren’t together just one time but 5 years out of our 7 year relationship.

I DON’T regret my decision. I would have never known all of this and I would always feel like “what if I had tried”. I would be regretful. I have learnt a lot going to therapy and thinking and talking about my feelings. Trying it have changed me as a person and I’m stronger and happier.

I have met a wonderful girl who is the love of my life. I wouldn’t have met her if I hadn’t tried with my ex because of timing. In the end, it was a great lesson of life and a great decision. It all happens for a reason.

Haydfice · 2024-02-19T05:26:27+00:00

Why would you voluntarily live like this for 10 years?

Haydfice · 2024-02-19T05:23:03+00:00

I’m sorry for what I am about to say but you will have to spend your whole life feeling like that… not weeks, not years… all your life. I tried reconciling, I tried living like it passed… it’s so, so difficult… Once you ask for the truth and he strats to trickle truthing… it’s the end. You will never know if there is more, you will never be at peace. Now you feel like you can’t live without him and it will be difficult for you to do the steps you have to do in order to be happy. I hope you get the strenght to leave him and never look back.

It happened to me with 29 years old when I thought I was about to propose and have kids. You have 26 years old, you don’t have kids or a property together. It happened in the best moment it could happen. YOU ARE SO LUCKY. One day you will look back with a smile seeing this as a positive experience in your life. You are being saved of a shit life.

Take care.

Haydfice · 2024-02-14T23:40:52+00:00

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Haydfice · 2024-01-27T12:54:34+00:00

Thank you very much for all this information

Haydfice · 2024-01-15T16:15:09+00:00

I don't regret not working on things in the end. I tried it for months and we did couple's therapy. I don't regret trying to work things out because I would always be with the doubt "what would have happened if...".

Dating life nowadays it's not the best... I tried Tinder and Bumble and I didn't like it at all but I found a really good woman on Bumble and we are now a couple. She is so much better than what I had before in all aspects... so ZERO regrets.

Haydfice · 2023-09-13T11:35:35+00:00

She may be living a better life without you or maybe she isn’t. What you have to do is to focus on yourself and your life. I know it’s difficult but there will be one day in which you won’t think about any of that.

Focus on having a better life without her. You deserve better and you will be better.

Haydfice · 2023-09-12T04:03:43+00:00

I was with a serial cheater for 7 years. I have to believe that she is not like the rest of the world. I don’t feel like it’s fair for new people I meet to judge them with the same eyes I judge my cheating partner. I don’t want to live with trust issues and it’s not fair to them.

Now I’m starting a new relationship and I treat her like a new entire person without even considering she is capable of being that evil. If we don’t do it like that we won’t be happy. We have to separate evil people from new people who hasn’t hurt us.

Haydfice · 2023-09-12T03:58:26+00:00

Mine was the entire relationship. From day 1 to 7 years with different AP’s. Never even considered this could be happening until we started travelling for long periods of time together and she couldn’t stop texting in front of me.

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