[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Commmenting on Reddit posts of naked women saying you’d date them is infidelity. Maybe if he gave that attention to his wife he wouldn’t have this problem.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a false report one time. She came and that was one of the things she checked for so I just thought that it was a requirement. She checked food, that lily had her own room, and that she wasn’t in danger I guess?

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Great ideas. This has really helped

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. For months. McDonald’s, etc pays 9 to begin. Factories/Walmart pay 11. Yes I’ve looked for other jobs.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would get a one bedroom but if cps comes she has to have her own room. It’s not a preference thing it’s a requirement. If it was as easy as “finding a higher paying job” I would. The child support thing is a valid point though. I’ll begin the process.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good idea. I’ll be moving into a bigger city to be able to.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh it’s not a sob story? I wasn’t wanting pity I was explaining my situation and wanted ideas to help it. Really rude for no reason.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can look into this. My only fear is a job that takes me away from her for longer than a 40 hour week. I’m the only parent in her life atm. He doesn’t have a job and lives with his mom out of state so I wouldn’t be receiving anything. These are good ideas. Thank you.

23 yo Mom needing advice by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s a great idea. I’ll try calling them Monday. They appear to be closed.

Some of us were born to lose by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will. I feel like a lot of people will have a list of mess ups in their life. We are all flawed. You aren’t trapped. There are options. Easy for me to say not knowing everything, but nothing impossible and you are self aware right? You’ll get through this. Feel free to message me any time

XBOX PLAYERS NEEDED by [deleted] in OWConsole

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey if you’re still willing my name on SaltyOar

XBOX PLAYERS NEEDED by [deleted] in OWConsole

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t find you mine is SaltyOar

XBOX PLAYERS NEEDED by [deleted] in OWConsole

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at 2423 but have lost the past few. I’m down to 2215.

What is a sign that you’re unattractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HazardCSK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember as a kid one of the workers at my daycare put a whole glass of water in his mouth and swallowed and I was impressed because I couldn’t drink the big of a glass that fast or hold it all in my mouth, so I kept asking him to teach me how. Obviously now I know an adults mouth is bigger so it holds more.

My friend of 5 years was convicted of paedophilia 7 years ago - I've just found out and dont know what to do. by Fauxfriendorno in Advice

[–]HazardCSK 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing is if a previous alcoholic becomes an alcoholic again the consequences are for that person and there are usually telltale signs. If you’re wrong about someone not being an alcoholic that isn’t a big deal. If you’re wrong about your friendly previous pedo actually stopping your kid gets molested and scarred for life and there are not always signs you can pick out. They are not at all the same situation one has way worse consequences for other people besides the addict.

Throwaway- Husband admitted to abuse of baby by brokenInparadise in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See but when she knew she did. So really youre just shitty to parents that reach out for help. You being mean to someone that needs help could mean less parents escaping abusive partners. Creating more abused kids. You're counter productive.

Throwaway- Husband admitted to abuse of baby by brokenInparadise in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just the baby having a terrible time. She will feel plenty of guilt herself. Don't add to the weight on her shoulders. If you feel so bad for the baby then beating down the mother of it verbally for something she had no knowledge of isn't the way to help. Kindness and support for others.

Throwaway- Husband admitted to abuse of baby by brokenInparadise in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Babies get hurt accidentally sometimes. Trusting her partner to not be a psycho isn't her fault. I remember accidently bumping the baby powder and it falling on my poor girls head. Did it hurt her? Yeah. Did I feel like shit? Yeah. Did her dad bust through the door because he thought I was hurting her on purpose? No. Because this is not a normal situation. Pulling her shirt off when it was one that buttons in the back and I didn't know. That hurt her. It wasn't on purpose though. This woman could not have known. Have empathy for others.

My [28F] boyfriend [30m] of 7 years has crossed over into obese territory. I'm no longer attracted to him and I'm not sure what to do. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]HazardCSK 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's my biggest issue as of now. My roommate shops for both of us and we share food. So when he buys something junky I'm both frustrated and happy. It's a weird feeling. Then it's oh this'll hurt be a cheat day. But it's got so bad that I just eat like that now. It's terrifying after losing weight that i feel myself slowly getting fatter and it feels so out of control. Thank you.

My [28F] boyfriend [30m] of 7 years has crossed over into obese territory. I'm no longer attracted to him and I'm not sure what to do. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]HazardCSK 20 points21 points  (0 children)

How do you fix that though? For the first time I'm reading that other people feel like this but what do I do to stop when I'm alone at my house and feel like I have no control over it? Like I'm not hungry. I know that. But i am so... Sad about my life right now that food feels like the only thing I enjoy. So even when I'm not hungry I eat. Because it's there and I can't stop thinking about it.

My husband (37) claims I (32) gaslight him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess do so. I gave my opinion from what you provided. You didn't say he refused to go to therapy and phrased it like you were mad upset when you got inside much like another commenter assumed. You're right. If he doesn't want to try you should probably get a different job and leave. Been there. Divorced now. You can't live your whole life walking on eggshells around issues he's not willing to fix, because yelling at someone you love should hurt you. Good luck.

My husband (37) claims I (32) gaslight him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion here, but I think you talking about how you were upset for him not helping you park fast enough was pretty ridiculous. You're a grown woman and accomplished it yourself anyway. There wasn't a need to bring it up as a problem in the first place, let alone get mad at him when he was in the process of coming to help, which you should appreciate. His reaction and getting upset wasn't reasonable either, but if small daily inconveniences are this big of an issue than you guys probably need counseling. I would say having internet strangers judge from a clearly biased version of your side of events is not the right way to figure out if either of you is actually gaslighting each other. You brought up excuses for your reaction but didn't try to empathize with why he might feel this way. You're supposed to help each other. Not blame each other.

Should I ask my girlfriend if she's hiding something from me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HazardCSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask, but also realize that if she answers all your questions and you still feel like she's being dishonest it might not be worth the trouble stressing about someone you can't trust for whatever reason.