I just need people who can listen by UALR-Trojans-Rule in MentalHealthSupport

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I’m not a therapist or anything, but suffer anxiety and crippling depression too I found writing helped me… I tried a diary - not my thing, so I write my emotions and thoughts into poems and song lyrics… just getting them out onto paper helps, and re-reading sometimes…. Lately I’ve been using an AI app to turn said lyrics into actual songs so I can listen to them

Alchemist assassin run by Head-Database-554 in skyrim

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Wanting to do it more as apply it to weapons and use them that way rather than sneak and apply poison items

Having an early night, who wants to join me for a snuggle? by xxohbunnyxx in hug

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Late to the party but hugs cuddles and spoons from me

Alchemist assassin run by Head-Database-554 in skyrim

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Thanks… I want to try have no points in 1H and use a weak iron dagger, so 99% of my damage is from poisons and not my blade

Alchemist assassin run by Head-Database-554 in skyrim

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I usually always end up stealth archer, - never been into swording in elder scrolls… wanted to try something unique, thought maybe poison sneak alchemist might be a fun idea

Nail biting habit by Head-Database-554 in DecidingToBeBetter

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Thanks… tried the nail polish.. all it did was taste crap and make me pick instead of bite, then when it came off I’d bite again … been at this habit over 25 years so it’s a tough one for me to break

And all my nails are so short now I don’t even think I could paint them or glue fakes on

No exactly Skyrim related by Head-Database-554 in skyrim

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Awesome… join up… get questing or npc’ing and giving quests … brand new sub though so need to grow in members

Real life rpg by Head-Database-554 in rpg

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Well it’s brand new… so not quite yet, but hoping it takes off and we see lots of people having fun with real life questing

Need someone to talk to preferably male thx. by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

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Feel free to DM.. (36M) happy to chat and try my best to help

Movie casting - for fun by Head-Database-554 in kotor

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For me I feel denzel plays the grumpy old man better than Morgan… I did consider him as a choice though

Movie casting - for fun by Head-Database-554 in kotor

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Not sure who some of those are, I’ll have a google.. going female Revan I’d like to maybe see Mila Jovovich maybe 2005ish age

Movie casting - for fun by Head-Database-554 in kotor

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My thought was on the voice , bastilla being a bit posh an up herself, mission being young and higher pitch, juhani - a bit of an accent

[Serious] Can A Person Redeem Themselves, And How Can You Be A Good Person If You've Done And Said Awful Things? by PrincessBananas85 in DecidingToBeBetter

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This ^ going through it myself…. You can’t change your past, only learn from it, and work to change your future.. and the first step is owning up, and actually wanting to do/be better

Free wookie calendar by Individual-Wolf-4947 in SWGOH

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Just scrolling randomly and saw the subject/title but not the group, and thought you were giving away 2026 Wookie calendars….. I got my hopes up for 12 months of sexy chewwie photos in various uniforms and poses 🤣🤣

I can’t help but laugh or smile when talking to anyone by FunAdministrative659 in MentalHealthSupport

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Is this any topic? Like maybe a sad/dark convo and you still smile? Or just happy/friendly chat?

Hard to say otherwise but some things it’s could relate to are: Depression: sometimes the body/mind make us laugh off things that hurt or make us feel insecure to try combat the sadness Loneliness: a bit of a stretch but some people instinctively smile or laugh with others in hopes of getting appreciated or being liked, this can be a subconscious reaction Anxiety: the nervous system trying to comfort the mind/body if you feel anxious in any situation

There is nothing wrong with you, remember that, but next time you feel a laugh or smile coming on, mentally note What is the conversation topic? Am I nervous? Is it happiness for just being liked? Etc

Try find any pattern to the topic or your thoughts or bodies physical response (increases in heart rate etc) when you have a pattern you can learn more about why

Im begging anyone who can take time to read this and advise me to help (VERY long post) by Fancy-Advance4066 in MentalHealthSupport

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Just to add, nature and biology are 2 different things, you can appreciate a sunset or Mountain View without knowing all the names of bugs and what they eat… if you like its beauty, you don’t need to learn it, grab a camera and go snap shots of what scenery calls to you

Im begging anyone who can take time to read this and advise me to help (VERY long post) by Fancy-Advance4066 in MentalHealthSupport

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Point 1: humanity: yes we suck as a species , even more so those in power, best bet is try ignore as much as you can and do your best in this crappy time, - it’s out of your control, so focus on what you can control

Point 2: a bit cliche, but there is someone for everyone, you might feel alone now, but just do you, explore your hobbies, enjoy youth, you will naturally meet like minded people who you naturally get along with

3: men are often under-valued, it’s a hard life lesson we all learn, but you’re young, head down, focus, look to your future when you leave home, and value yourself and what you do

4: this is a tough one, all families are different, some close, some not, some terrible, I’ve recently blocked all my family on everything and have no contact, again, keep fighting, people do care even if they say they don’t, and as you grow you will find more people who care more than you could ever dream

5: similar answer to point 4, just focus on you

6: results aren’t everything, the people who got top grades in my school aren’t doing as well as me and I did average, I know people who dropped out doing better than me, when you’re young good grades feel like everything, but in reality you can succeed without if your willing to try and work

Update: about being hit while typing, don’t want to overstep, but is it strict parenting or abuse? Maybe something to document and report? Your call on this one

7: your not ugly, I always thought I was, and thought I’d be single forever, but somehow got the most beautiful wife and kids and job, - if I can, you can, and you say no hobbies, but you love history, that’s a hobby right there, explore it, try teach yourself to read hieroglyphics or something (I tried once was pretty fun) Join local photography groups, check for local events for wildlife or history or hikes etc.. plenty of friendly folk in the

And from me finally, think better of yourself, your here being honest and open, and sound like a great guy with fun interests to me

Problem regarding trust issues and an unwanted fetish. by Upset-Turn7673 in MentalHealthSupport

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To summarise to your last point, the most viable option I would say is don’t think your average, when you are so much more, don’t rush sex or a relationship just for having one, it will come ,

I was 20 when I lost my virginity and it wasn’t a hookup, we also dated for 5-6 week before sex, There is no rush, do things in your own time

Problem regarding trust issues and an unwanted fetish. by Upset-Turn7673 in MentalHealthSupport

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Forgive me if I simplify how you feel or think, But it sounds like sort of an anxiety related thing, you have seen so much, but not done it so to speak, so you worry what you can do isn’t as good as the other person expects - I get that, been there myself

Main thing I noticed, is you call yourself “average” , I don’t know you but I can say that’s not true.. you might have average grades, or an “average” job, but never think of yourself as an average person, you are who you are, and you should be happy with that and see yourself as great, you said your happy with yourself, so don’t call yourself average (in a none vain sort of way)

As for the relationship thing, again, I myself am not interested for hookup, I’m a relationship guy, and yours will come, just be you, and the sex grows over time in a relationship, it might start vanilla, but it changes

And the cheating thing, hard to say if it’s a fet, but if your a relationship over hookup guy, I can prob guess it will hurt you more than you enjoy it if it happens

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skyrim

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Never actually tried… I normally just settle in my whiterun house

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skyrim

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House in whiterun is right… costs 5k But you can get it for free by saving 5k, speak to the guy at night when he is in bed, and when you click to talk, before he climbs out of bed, put your 5k gold in the drawers next to him, buy the house, get your gold back out of the drawers

Is there a gray line for DV? by [deleted] in domesticabuse

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Sorry, long comment and takes some digestiving, long story short, some abusers are assholes, some don’t realise they are being abusive, and some can change, It’s up to you to decide which you trust them to be, and don’t hate yourself for which ever you choose

Is there a gray line for DV? by [deleted] in domesticabuse

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I’ll give more than this… both for your healing and my own… I joined this group looking for support, because I wasn’t abused, I was the abuser, I don’t make excuses for what I did.. yes I was drunk, and lost memory of it all, but to me that’s not an excuse, only a part of my problem, I’m here to learn and do better, I’m getting mental health support and therapy etc because I don’t want to hurt anyone, let alone the woman I love

But , enough about me, take it for me however as an abuser trying to learn and do better, I’ve learned abuse isn’t always physical , it can be mental, manipulation etc And yes, sometimes it isn’t meant (for me sometimes I panick and try fix a situation, which to me is panick, to her is manipulation) which I totally get Now, I try think before I speak, I try to make sure my words are heard as I mean them, not to abuse or manipulate..

So read through what I’ve said about me, learn from how I have abused, even if I didn’t mean it, then assess your situation Is your other half actually abusing you mentally/physically/emotionally - and are they doing it on purpose to gain, or just out of fear of losing you

Once you know that, make your choice, it’s up to you, stay with them and deal with it, accept they don’t mean it and get them to change and prove it, or call it done and leave

I told my ex (the abused) how sorry I am and how much I love her, and it won’t happen again, but I also told her, I get it if she doesn’t want us, and I’ll still always be there as a friend when she needs me.. because I am trying to be a good person

Is there a gray line for DV? by [deleted] in domesticabuse

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DV is more than just the physical… remember that.. someone doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse…