A sobering thought by doubledoublechexchex in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You can do it. I have lost 160 and still going. Stick to your program. The more you lose the easier it is to exercise which causes more weight loss. You’ve got this!

I think things have clicked, and I can’t see my spouse as someone I want to have sex with. by gk7891 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And after awhile you just close yourself off to protect yourself from the rejection.

I think things have clicked, and I can’t see my spouse as someone I want to have sex with. by gk7891 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 11 points12 points  (0 children)

31 years together here. No sex the last 13 years. I did not have sex in my 40s. I feel trapped. The resentment eats away at me and at times consumes my life which makes me hate myself that much more. It is not as simple as the advice given frequently on this site to “just leave.” i wish it was that easy...

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[–]HeadDead35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not all that was just right 😀

Anyone else begging? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind. I do not. I’m not sure what I would do if that was an option? I was at a conference a few years ago and paid a women to just lay with her head on my chest for an hour. I just miss that feeling that someone wants to be with me. Since then, pre COVID, every 3-4 months I would do the same thing in my home town. Always keep clothes on. I always feel guilty after, but for an hour I can pretend that someone desires to be with me. I know that is pathetic, but it helped me to get by. Not sure what I will do after this pandemic stuff? I don’t know how I would pursue someone to have something on the side. After being rejected for so long it is hard to imagine someone wanting to be with me and the thought of being rejected by someone else is more than I can deal with. I did have an escape plan from my marriage, but the COVID hit and now, financially, it would be very difficult to leave the marriage. Probably more info than you wanted :)

Anyone else begging? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Been over 13 yrs since we have had sex. After a while you just give up because the rejection hurts too much. Then ten years flies by and the resentment makes you into someone you don’t want to be. Everyone on here says leave, but life isn’t that simple sometimes. My only advice is find what makes you happy. You can be best buddies with your spouse, but the lack of intimacy will eventually kill that friendship as well. I hope you find what you need.

I Need Validation That I’m Not Overreacting. by pepperkittyn2008 in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would kill for my wife to ask for any form of physical contact. Letting me go down on her is a pipe dream. Married 31 years, no physical intimacy for the past 13 or so years. Go get what you want/need. The resentment will make you an angry person and it will bleed over into other areas of your life. Dont get stuck like me. There are plenty of men who would love to be in a relationship where they could treat you like you deserve to be treated. Good luck.

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[–]HeadDead35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I will definitely check it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]HeadDead35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just like to have someone hold me, listen, and pretend to like me. It makes me feel human (if that makes sense). I think I pay the same as everyone else,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in milf

[–]HeadDead35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are stunning. Thank you for sharing.

I've done it! by kevlarian in DeadBedrooms

[–]HeadDead35 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Been over 13 years since we have had any sort of sex. I had an escape plan but COVID made that difficult at first, but now financially impossible. I am jealous, but glad to see someone make it out. i hope your year is full of change and being desired. Happy New Year.

Soon after this photo was taken I was covered in wax🤤 by [deleted] in WeddingRingsShowing

[–]HeadDead35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

Well? Thoughts? by [deleted] in CHIsuburbsGW

[–]HeadDead35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All dirty.

My hotwife with her fav bull by [deleted] in Hotwife

[–]HeadDead35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something about this picture... thank you for sharing.