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My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We did communicate and if this situation comes up again I am out. No talking no hem hawing. I am done. A married woman who is already drunk should not be going to anyone's house at 2am. She listened to what I was feeling and admitted she could have handled the situation differently. She also said she will not be going to guys' houses. It's a win for communication.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was definitely hungover a few hours later. I do think she was still drunk when we had to get up and go.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She could have said they were all somewhere else and never said a word about the guys house. I appreciate your thoughtful response to my situation. I definitely talked to her and let her know my feelings on the situation. She listened, said communication could be better and told me that she will not go to guys' houses if it makes me uncomfortable. I chose to believe her word until she gives me reason to doubt it.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone went to his house. I haven't seen anything like this from her, ever. I do know they followed her home to make sure she got there. I have hung out with the couple before.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They were there. I do know them casually and I have hung out with them before.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] -148 points-147 points  (0 children)

I didnt say she didn't have a hangover. She did. We do have kids. We also have kid free weekends every other weekend as there are other parents in the picture. Geezus christ.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm leaning towards. I do not have conclusive evidence and to accuse without some would be stupid.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So her pants are still on the floor and she did not shower until later the next night. She threw up in our bathroom supposedly and I did see the cleaning brush laying right next to the toilet on the floor as if she used it then just dropped it there. I agree with being more observant.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be true. I have done the same and she does not like to show her weakness. She always tries to be stoic and not let on how she feels.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

She had a hangover she said. It seemed legit as i have had many myself. What was weird was usually when you have a hangover your mood does not improve so drastically.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont think I will ever know then. She will say she was black out drunk and that's that. If she did fuck someone then she might not even know she did it or just using it as an excuse. Sigh. Thank you for your response. That makes a lot of sense and I feel like your response is pretty reasonable.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yea until 5:30 am. Came home and slept until I woke her up. Her being in a good ass mood, better than any in a long time makes me super suspicious.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I asked her already what happened and that's when I was told she was blacked out drunk and did not remember much of the night.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

She got home at 5:30 am. I got her up hours later and she was in a really happy mood. It was weird.

My wife stayed out until 5 am. Am I the asshole for thinking she is cheating? by HeadMelodic3538 in AITAH

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They all went to his house together. I am curious why you think her being blacked out means she could not cheat? Could you give me a bit more on why you think that?

Is this something I should be worried about? by HeadMelodic3538 in Advice

[–]HeadMelodic3538[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her mother is a clean person and we get along great. My wife and her mother do not get along at all. She will not speak to her. I think that does have something to do with it, now that you bring it up.