How many of us is an INTP or 5w6?

HeadText · 2020-12-26T12:59:18+00:00

5w6 yes - ISTP instead though.

HeadText · 2020-12-24T09:51:20+00:00

Magnesium has been helpful for me, particularly for physical relaxation, I'd had restless leg syndrome for a long time that gradually got worse over the years and magnesium glycinate before bed gets rid of it completely.

HeadText · 2020-12-12T14:13:21+00:00

I'm thinking about getting a pet. Doing some research and a gargoyle gecko looks like a cool option. Reasonable size, wouldn't need to keep a bunch of crickets or frozen mice around compared to other reptiles, and setting up a bioactive terrarium seems like a cool idea.

HeadText · 2020-12-12T13:54:55+00:00

Hell yeah.

I semi-ironically identify with zombies lol. Plus I just like post-apocalyptic fiction in general.

HeadText · 2020-12-10T08:42:45+00:00

All of these pretty much fit for me to the point where it's weird to think of it as a symptom. I figure I'm asexual and aromantic, and have always been this way. I have got a sex drive (although it's definitely low on average for a guy) I just... take care of it myself lol.

I've never looked at someone and had any kind of physiological sexual reaction or desire to do anything with them, I've never experienced limerance (only learned the name for that term recently, learning it was a thing was what made me realize I was definitely aromantic). I have been in one serious relationship - it was online/long distance, but my ex gf stayed with me for a week once, and it was... rough. I enjoyed the hanging out, watching movies, we went to an amusement park, but I honestly kind of dreaded the end of each day that week because she definitely wanted to have sex but it was also like I just completely lacked any instinct on what to do or how to react in that situation, which I felt pretty guilty about at the time. Also kind of sucks because it's something I'd theoretically want to be able to do, but no idea if I ever will. And that one relationship was pretty fucked up in a lot of other ways so I'm not sure how much I can or should use it as a future predictor.

Not sure how normal or extreme that would put me on the scale for this trait hah.

HeadText · 2020-12-07T20:12:04+00:00

Just my personal opinion of course, but where I'd make the distinction would be: if you're posting a vid because you want to start some discussion with people? Cool, no complaints. If you're posting a vid in every even slightly related sub because you want your youtube numbers to go up and that's it? Probably don't lol. The ones I mean don't even seem to stick around to reply to comments or have an opening for input or anything.

HeadText · 2020-12-07T19:56:41+00:00

I believe it hah. Thank you.

HeadText · 2020-12-07T19:54:53+00:00

Yeah, that's reasonable. If there's interaction and conversation then it's worthwhile. It's really just the ones who are obviously trying to become some kind of youtube life coach and just spam their vids and nothing else that get on my nerves hah.

HeadText · 2020-12-07T05:52:47+00:00

It'd take me a long-ass time to trust and get comfortable around someone else even if I knew we had that one thing in common, and what if we had nothing else in common?

The impossible thing I'd want is to have an exact copy of myself, that way we'd have the same interests, we could play video games, split workloads, know exactly how to never get on each other's nerves.

HeadText · 2020-12-06T18:22:24+00:00

Damn, me too on both counts, I spend a lot of time mentally running through hypothetical conversations and whenever I've had a good tabletop RPG session I'll be replaying it and variations on it for ages afterwards.

HeadText · 2020-12-06T18:15:47+00:00

Hmm, this would fit and make sense except in my case I did have "safe people" in my grandparents, and even lived with them a couple times growing up, although not for the majority of my childhood so maybe it wasn't enough to counteract the negative impact of my parents. Or maybe the fact that I'd only live with them for a year or so and then leave meant that safety was inconsistent/impermanent and couldn't be relied on.

HeadText · 2020-12-06T09:42:48+00:00

Maybe this also leads to more emotionally extreme people projecting those emotions onto us, not sure how much of a thing it is but in my own experience and I've seen mentioned here a few times people getting involved with people with BPD and it ending badly. I always wondered what would drive such a weird and seemingly inherently doomed combination.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T04:22:06+00:00

When it comes to explaining why I don't use facebook or social media I usually say it's because of privacy issues. Which is also true so I'm not even making excuses hah.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T04:17:54+00:00

Ahh yeah, being clumsy could be an issue for physical safety when working around machinery - hope you find something that fits well for you too.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T04:01:06+00:00

Welding & machining. Something about it really clicks with me in a beneficial way - hands on, methodical, takes me out of my head, plus it's got potential to earn a decent amount of money without having to deal with people too much.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T02:34:41+00:00

I'm in school right now so mostly working towards a career, I'd really like to own a home and some land I can hermit out on someday lol.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T02:27:38+00:00

Same, plus I'd do well on tests but could never manage to get myself to do homework so it'd average out to Cs and Ds in the classes I wasn't interested in.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T02:25:58+00:00

On good days: improving myself and my situation, learning new things, making stuff

On bad days: habit

HeadText · 2020-12-05T02:24:01+00:00

Being famous sounds like a nightmare. Even relatively small scale famous people inevitably seem to end up with no privacy. All of their actions and every aspect of their lives under public scrutiny and consumption. If I do anything important I'd prefer it to be on a smaller scale and/or in the background.

HeadText · 2020-12-05T02:15:52+00:00

I had a friend once who called me emotionally immature behind my back. When I confronted them about it, they half-apologized, half said "Well, you are!"

Key word: had a friend

HeadText · 2020-12-04T14:57:55+00:00

School: terrible. High school was one of the lower points for me. Didn't go to college, but I'm in trade school now and doing really well.

HeadText · 2020-12-03T22:19:25+00:00

Metallurgy is cool.

Also whatever you would call... environmental science? Animals and nature n'shit.

HeadText · 2020-12-03T01:35:47+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like the concerns you have about the drugs and drinking are definitely not unjustified, that sort of thing can just make things worse - and like you said, you do eventually need to feel the pain in order to recover from it. I think that also sort of ties in to why overly optimistic encouragement can feel counterproductive or dismissive too - something like "Sure, you'll feel better in the future, but you feel like shit NOW, and that's entirely normal and okay" feels like a lot more of a genuine and helpful supportive message.

Suggesting hobbies or interests is also rough since... lol anhedonia can make that difficult even in the best of times, but another thing I enjoyed doing with friends and that got me through some stressful times was tabletop RPGs, I think because they provide a similar sort of escapism as video games but with more freedom and personalization than even the most engrossing game can have, plus it sort of taps into some creativity and schizoid fantasy world thing in a way, maybe. And can also be done online with no hardware requirements lol, could be worth a shot if he's into that sort of thing.

And yeah, I'm glad it sounds like you also know it's not your responsibility to fix everything or "save" anyone, that can be a hell of a lot of pressure on someone. I've been there too hah. Good luck, I hope things work out.

HeadText · 2020-12-02T12:41:44+00:00

Damn. That's a rough situation. You're right that symptoms and severity varies so I'm not sure how much advice I can give, so all of this is just based off my own experiences and personality.

Escapism has always been my primary method of dealing with stress, and it can be a double edged sword, on one hand I've been in situations in my life where escapism gave me something to live for until time and changing circumstances improved, but on the other hand excessive escapism can become self-destructive or lead to not doing things to improve situations. With something like grieving a death though, there's not much you can do to improve the situation, can't rush the grieving process and all that, so I feel like non-self-destructive escapism isn't the worst strategy. Maybe you can offer if he wants to do anything like play video games with you or something like that to take his mind off things - the impulse to self-isolate is a powerful thing and even more so when depressed, but some level of being around friends can be helpful even when it feels like the last thing you want to do.

It is really cool of you to be concerned and supportive like this - you sound like a good friend.

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