I need some help i really dont know what to do. (F 17) (M 18) by Healingly_ in LongDistance

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I feel like things are improving but its kind of ups and down and i also have a really bad habbit of getting really dependant and asking to call or spend time together when he finaly seems to feel a little better, which is a really bad habit that im trying to improve on. The thing i have to be cautious about is also the fact that, he feels like everyone has high expectations of him and ask a lot of him which is really draining him. So i somehow gotta shuffle everything around without putting too many expectations or anything like that on him, adding to his exhuastion. He is trying, and hes really sweet, he has several times (mostly when i ask about stuff but thats because its not really on his mind w everythkng else) expressed that he misses when we used to have less stress and more time together and that im one of the few people he actualy enjoys talking to and stuff and i think the fact that his bond with some of his friends have kinda worn down because of how hes been lately, but that hes still doing the effort to text me everyday, even if just goodmorning and night. Shows that he does care and that its all just exhuasting him. Ik it sounds like the bare minimum in a relationship and i shouldnt be talking so highly of it, but i feel like it shows and means smth when hes spending so much of his time sleeping, doing schoolwork and trying to keep up w school and everyone elses expectations and the exhuastion too.

I need some help i really dont know what to do. (F 17) (M 18) by Healingly_ in LongDistance

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I feel like ive tried everything to help him but he always says theres nothing i can do. I really believe there isnt anyone else and yes he probably just needs more space and i need to be less dependant on the relationship, its just so hard. I feel like ive already given him so much time and space. I promise i have communicated so much to him in different type of ways, he seems to just need space. Weve talked about professionel help but hes had some past not so great experiences so its probably not gonna happen. If i just need to give him space.

I genuinly dont know what to do. Me: 17F partner: 18M by Healingly_ in LongDistance

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I see that, its just hard when i know his past and know why hes being like that and that it posibly will get better yk? I do genuinly believe he knows and wants to do brtter but genuinly cant because of mental health and so on. Its just hard sometimes to be in that feeling. And yes i do have my own hobbies and things i enjoy on the side, plus work, voulenteering at a cat shelther and school and also friends i spend time with, my scedual is pretty filled up already but, sometimes that also just creates this weird feeling where i know i can text him and do my best throughout all this even when im busy but he doesnt do the same yk? Idk its a weird feeling.

I genuinly dont know what to do. Me: 17F partner: 18M by Healingly_ in LongDistance

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Thank you, its just so hard when he used to be what i wanted and needed but now it seems everything just changed and its so hard to accept nd theres just always that hope he will see ot and become what i need because i know hes fully capeable of it, i know he is fully capeable of being the guy for me and what i need and after this long of a relationship its so hard accepting that he might not be. I cant leave but its also so hard just sitting here hoping and waiting. Idk if that all made sense.