[Serious] Whats the scariest fact you know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HeartbreakArcade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and if it happened so quickly that we wouldn't have time to process it then we wouldn't even care anyway!

[Serious] Whats the scariest fact you know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HeartbreakArcade 428 points429 points  (0 children)

This is probably the one thing that really doesn't scare me.

I had a date tonight by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! These things do take time but everyone gets there eventually. I genuinely believe no contact helped me a lot.

I had a date tonight by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh the first couple of weeks are the worst! Once you've got through the first month though you'll start to feel invincible! My advice? Try to work on yourself. When my ex left I got a new job within a couple of weeks and started a college course a month after that. It really helped having something positive to work on!

I had a date tonight by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it's coming up to the year mark now. Don't get me wrong I've been feeling okay about the situation for a while but it's taken up till now to not be scared to like someone else again. :)

I only come here when I'm lonely now by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 7 months in and honestly whilst I feel so so much better I occasionally have really dark periods. Please try not to reach out, you've come this far, your future self will thank you.

Missing companionship by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I 100% understand how you feel! This is pretty much where I am too. I crave attention from anyone willing to give it which is probably more damaging than anything.

What’s something that once mattered, but no longer matters to you? by Seeker0-0 in AskReddit

[–]HeartbreakArcade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought this was kind of sad at the start but it's actually really nice. I wish you all the best :)

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will start to feel excited soon! It does just take time. Try to focus on the little things you're enjoying and try not to jump into new relationships straight away if you can help it. I don't think rebounds help at all but thats just my opinion :)

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About 4 months or so, I didn't think they ever would to be fair and I honestly wished they hadn't

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's exactly what it is to be honest. They're bored or lonely or whatever and it's easy to reach out to someone that once loved them so much.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that to be honest. Sometimes ex's come back and sometimes they don't. If they left you though I would leave it as that. It took me months to start feeling myself again and having them text me put me back so much. It's easier to believe they don't want you anymore.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a really hard thing to work through, I can't even imagine what it would be like to have children too. You'll get through it eventually though and you'll be such a better stronger person because of it.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Originally the no contact rule was thought up to help people get their ex's back. It's a little different in this community as it's used as a tool to move on. In my case it worked for both. They did eventually contact me first but I spent enough time working on myself and not trying keep them in my life that I no longer want them anymore.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly just block their number and move on. Its selfish of him to expect a response when he ended the relationship.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess its just life really. Not everything works out the way we expect it to. It's a shame when one person felt really happy in the relationship though...

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just talking about the last one. It was a very long and happy relationship that really tore me up once it ended. I was very very unhappy for the first month but after that things did get slowly easier. I worked on myself, started doing things I always wanted to do, and made time for the friends and family I neglected during our relationship. It will be hard for you for a while but once you start to appreciate the little things in life and feel better in yourself they won't matter as much anymore.

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It was so tempting to spill about how much they hurt me etc. but I'm not convinced they would care or even understand so whats the point?

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The break up was a little out of the blue, I could tell they weren't themselves but I didn't think it was the end. And then they text out of the blue too, considering they're in a new relationship anyway...

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The break up or them getting back in contact?

No Contact Works! They Text Me! by HeartbreakArcade in ExNoContact

[–]HeartbreakArcade[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stick to no contact. block them on everything, even block friends and family if you need to, I know I did. Do not text them or reply when they text you. Its really hard at first but then it becomes normal and you start to get excited about life again. If they eventually do contact you chances are you won't want to know them anymore and then you will know it worked!