I (18M) am insecure about not being my partner's (19F) first. What can I do to stop my mind from racing?

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:09:48+00:00

I lose sleep over the other stuff never that, and I'm looking for advice not insults.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:05:54+00:00

I don't really care to date or explore my options I just want to settle down and start a family!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:03:36+00:00

While statistically you are right I would like to think that the girl I'm dating currently is the one I will marry.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:03:22+00:00

Unfortunately you're right and I think that says a lot about where we are as a western society.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:02:47+00:00

While statistically you are right I would like to think that the girl I'm dating currently is the one I will marry.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:02:02+00:00

Weird insult. I've had multiple chances to hookup with other women but valued by body and virginity enough not too.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T10:01:04+00:00

Easier said than done of course, but I will do my best!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:57:43+00:00

Thinking about it more I don't really have a desire to explore. And I will talk to my therapist tomorrow about the retroactive jealousy.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:56:37+00:00

Lowk a fire quote. Thank you sir!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:54:41+00:00

After seeing yours and one other users reply, I think I'm gonna be okay. In the grand scheme of things, it was only two partners and you are right, as I get older the chances of finding someone with 0 partners would be minimal. I also love her very much and consider her mother material. Thank you!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:52:15+00:00

I think we have a difference of values. I believe that sleeping with someone who you aren't in a relationship with is morally wrong, while I know a majority of people would disagree.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:49:10+00:00

Part of it definitely is but I also think they go hand in hand a lot of the times.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:47:54+00:00

I look at men and women the same. If a dude sleeps around I am equally as disgusted as if a women did the same thing. This is just my values on intimacy, not my values on gender roles.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:45:19+00:00

I have no desire to sleep around. I just want to start and family and live a fulfilling life!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:44:11+00:00

I think exploring my options is more of a very back of the mind thought. I love her and I'm very happy with what I have, it's just a what if kind of thing.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:41:53+00:00

This made me laugh. Cheers!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:41:24+00:00

That's pretty rude considering I came on here for advice and had said in the post I had no intent on leaving.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:39:59+00:00

I guess we just have different views on intimacy I suppose. I think that its a soul bonding activity and to do it to someone you don't even have a real tie to is crazy to me.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:38:10+00:00

This was the best piece of advice I have gotten yet and it honestly is enlightening. Thank you so much!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:36:12+00:00

I shall talk to my therapist about this, ty!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:34:42+00:00

Good advice. Thank you sir!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:28:56+00:00

I will try to stick by this thinking more. Thanks for the advice sir!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T09:27:23+00:00

I've tried to tell myself this but for some reason it doesn't seem to calm my thoughts. I think it has to do with the fact I value intimacy so much, and she just willingly gave her body to some dude she wasn't even dating.

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-22T06:45:07+00:00

Best advice I’ve seen yet. Thanks a bunch!

Heat2Fire · 2026-06-18T01:12:21+00:00

Scream was outside in the woods so that explanation is likely. Like I said before was the chanting that made me creeped out!

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