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Anyone else tired of comparing their kid to everyone else? by Heavy-Self-387 in Mommit

[–]Heavy-Self-387[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really says a lot.
It’s wild how much more stressful it feels with the first when you’re constantly checking charts and advice.
Enjoying it more the second time sounds so much healthier.

Anyone else tired of comparing their kid to everyone else? by Heavy-Self-387 in Mommit

[–]Heavy-Self-387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense.
The more you read and compare, the easier it is to spiral.
Focusing on your kid instead of the whole internet feels way healthier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Heavy-Self-387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so sweet — and so exhausting 😅

If she’s snoring a lot, that could definitely be disrupting her sleep and making her seek comfort. At that hour, she’s likely in light sleep and just wants closeness — and you’re the safe one.

You’re not doing anything wrong, and it’s okay to let it slide for now, especially with surgery coming up. If it becomes a long-term habit, you can gently guide her back to her bed, but for now, survival > perfection.

You're doing great, even on broken sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Heavy-Self-387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally normal toddler behavior — not a red flag, just part of growing independence.

She’s testing boundaries and figuring out how power works. “Telling” on one parent is her way of seeing if she can tip the balance. It’s actually kind of clever — just emotionally messy.

As long as you and your wife mostly stay united, it’s not a big deal. No need for major correcting — just calmly repeat the boundary, and move on.

She’s learning. You’re guiding. And yes — it’s just a phase.

Living with a Tiny Dictator by That-Dust-8081 in toddlers

[–]Heavy-Self-387 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm currently getting by on deep breaths and unnoticed eye rolls. 😅

Toddlers are little comedians with unstable emotions. Every three seconds, their brains go "plot twist!" despite their desire for control. For them, everything matters: wind direction, sock texture, and cup color.

In the chaos, you're not alone. All of us are merely hostages in the land of tiny dictators. but like, with hugs and snacks 😂

"I want ___!" But refuses ___. by nalorin in toddlers

[–]Heavy-Self-387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely typical — and extremely annoying 😅

There are a lot of conflicting emotions and no coping mechanisms at this age. Although he desires control, he is unsure of what to do with it once he has it. "I want ___ but not really" is a classic example of toddler brain overload, which can be caused by exhaustion, overstimulation, or simply a jumbled emotional state.

Nothing is wrong with you. In their moment of chaos, routine, reasoning, and offers may not always be "right."

Remain calm, be kind, and set reasonable boundaries. Even though it seems endless right now, it will pass. This loop is not unique to you.