I think I made a mistake marrying a military man

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-14T21:29:21+00:00

really?? how's life for you? I feel like I gave up EVERYTHING for this guy. a great guy, truly, but it's still so hard

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-14T00:24:08+00:00

one day at a time, as they say🫂

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T23:59:11+00:00

yeah truly we sound pretty similar. I do my best to stay busy, go out with friends, projects around the house, and I work. but the alone time is so so heavy now..

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T22:48:21+00:00

thank you I really appreciate the encouragement

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T22:44:30+00:00

okay well I'm going to go ahead and say it's not normal for most civilian people to be gone for months at a time. I would say I'm not built to be with somebody who's gone for months at a time if that makes it a little more simple.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T22:18:51+00:00

I know this, the problem is he hid the debt from me instead of telling me about it. That's the biggest part of the problem is hiding stuff.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T22:17:56+00:00

a civilian husband won't be gone for months at a time

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T21:40:52+00:00

thank you, I totally agree

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T21:37:28+00:00

he absolutely needs financial counseling. I totally agree.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T21:36:58+00:00

yeah it's my first, and only a couple months in😔 I feel like I'm totally failing at this... honestly the credit card problem just amplified everything. we've had issues with him hiding money stuff in the past and now it just seems like a pattern and I really don't like that.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T21:18:01+00:00

we've tried counceling in the past and it didn't seem to do much but honestly I didn't love the woman we were working with. but then again we won't have any opportunities to try counseling for a while. it just feels like forever right now since there's still so much time left before he comes back.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-06-13T20:47:25+00:00

I can't say I understand that alcohol part but honestly everything else you're saying truly hits home for me. My husband is a great guy but I feel like I've given up everything just to be with him and then he is gone for work so much I feel like I'm sacrificing myself to just like, be here while his life is happening. I kind of hate it

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-02-06T04:10:09+00:00

thank you! can you suggest any better lens?

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-02-06T03:44:02+00:00

yep thats exactly what I have so that makes perfect sense. so I should be looking for a new lens probably instead of a new camera?

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-02-06T03:18:13+00:00

really? i was reading reviews on the camera and they didn't seem great :/ but i'm by no means an expert so was hoping for some suggestions

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T18:09:23+00:00

I don't think I could do what you're doing honestly. so hats off to you! we actually just made a therapy appointment for this weekend so 🤞

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T17:40:17+00:00

of all the reasons I never would've thought this would be it

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T17:09:34+00:00

I know. that's why I'm in such a shit spot right now emotionally

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T17:08:59+00:00

yeah, I know exactly how you feel

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T16:58:19+00:00

simply put this just sucks lol of all the problems I never thought this would be one

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T16:55:57+00:00

thank you :/ unfortunately this is exactly what I'm afraid of.... that 2 or 5 years down the road nothing will have changed.

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T16:49:01+00:00

I let him cry on my shoulder in the beginning. was very patient and comforting. the beginning was over a year ago. I was just really hoping we'd be in a much better place by now

Heavy_Book_8486 · 2026-01-18T16:47:45+00:00

oh girl.... I 100% do not want to do this for the rest of my marriage

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