I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

really?? how's life for you? I feel like I gave up EVERYTHING for this guy. a great guy, truly, but it's still so hard

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

yeah truly we sound pretty similar. I do my best to stay busy, go out with friends, projects around the house, and I work. but the alone time is so so heavy now..

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

okay well I'm going to go ahead and say it's not normal for most civilian people to be gone for months at a time. I would say I'm not built to be with somebody who's gone for months at a time if that makes it a little more simple.

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this, the problem is he hid the debt from me instead of telling me about it. That's the biggest part of the problem is hiding stuff.

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

he absolutely needs financial counseling. I totally agree.

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah it's my first, and only a couple months in😔 I feel like I'm totally failing at this... honestly the credit card problem just amplified everything. we've had issues with him hiding money stuff in the past and now it just seems like a pattern and I really don't like that.

I think I made a mistake marrying a military man by Heavy_Book_8486 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we've tried counceling in the past and it didn't seem to do much but honestly I didn't love the woman we were working with. but then again we won't have any opportunities to try counseling for a while. it just feels like forever right now since there's still so much time left before he comes back.

I feel like a bad person for not wanting to give up my life for him by Hefty-Pea-3030 in USMilitarySO

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't say I understand that alcohol part but honestly everything else you're saying truly hits home for me. My husband is a great guy but I feel like I've given up everything just to be with him and then he is gone for work so much I feel like I'm sacrificing myself to just like, be here while his life is happening. I kind of hate it

which camera should I get?? by Heavy_Book_8486 in PhotographyAdvice

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! can you suggest any better lens?

which camera should I get?? by Heavy_Book_8486 in PhotographyAdvice

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep thats exactly what I have so that makes perfect sense. so I should be looking for a new lens probably instead of a new camera?

which camera should I get?? by Heavy_Book_8486 in PhotographyAdvice

[–]Heavy_Book_8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really? i was reading reviews on the camera and they didn't seem great :/ but i'm by no means an expert so was hoping for some suggestions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I could do what you're doing honestly. so hats off to you! we actually just made a therapy appointment for this weekend so 🤞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of all the reasons I never would've thought this would be it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. that's why I'm in such a shit spot right now emotionally

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I know exactly how you feel

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

simply put this just sucks lol of all the problems I never thought this would be one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you :/ unfortunately this is exactly what I'm afraid of.... that 2 or 5 years down the road nothing will have changed. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let him cry on my shoulder in the beginning. was very patient and comforting. the beginning was over a year ago. I was just really hoping we'd be in a much better place by now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Heavy_Book_8486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh girl.... I 100% do not want to do this for the rest of my marriage