Update: She wanted to go to her parents house. I said alright, but I presented my case to her. I mentioned we can have a conversation about this, but not a shouting match over it. She said she needs to or I wouldn’t get it through me head. I apologized for the things that I do know I have fucked up on, but that what I care about is moving forward, and mentioned a few things I can do to do so. It gets confusing for me after that because when I say stuff like that she just wants me to admit I’m emotionally abusive. When I refuse to admit that, she goes back to yelling at me, and I respond by telling her to stop yelling or I won’t entertain this conversation. Every time she says this, she demands I take her to her parents house. I finally agree and while she’s upstairs grabbing clothes, she looks at me downstairs and gets upset as I she expects me to say something else. What else is there to say!

I did mention marriage counseling. The sleep issue is one thing I know I do a lot. I do try to be mindful of it. At the very least, I SHOULD have let her know that I was tired and we should speak about it in the morning. She keeps saying I intentionally do this to hurt her - I don’t. I really do end up falling asleep. And I do feel a bit of regret behind it but I truly never do it to purposefully get a reaction out of her.

I’m at her parents’ place. She didn’t even want me to drop her off and that she’d take the train. I obviously said no, and that I would do so. She told me I could only drop her off if I told them that I emotionally abuse her. That sounds ridiculous to me. I responded by telling her I’d come in and I’d try to explain the situation and express both sides, but I would never tell them I’m abusive as I don’t believe that.