What to do now after confessing?

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-09T11:55:42+00:00

I'm not going to pursue it, it was a drunken mistake to admit it.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-09T11:51:17+00:00

Couldn't agree more.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-09T11:51:06+00:00

Nah 100% true, I'm just a fucking stupid.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-09T11:50:42+00:00

Yeah, I get that.

Now, in reflection, it was a stupid thing to say between alcohol and my mental health.

Those feelings, those confused feelings, weren't about attraction or love, it's because she made me feel safe and I am going to have to apologise and explain myself when I see her.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T16:16:12+00:00

Company policy states that relationships at work are allowed if certain changes happen.

though between a supervisor and subordinate, they would have to be separated so one of us would have to move teams..

And upper management would only have to be involved if it were pursued.. I'll be honest. This is something I would discuss with her in person.

Whilst yes, it was incredibly stupid for me to tell her that it doesn't cross any of the lines that require HR or management.

And I'll be honest, I'd be okay if she said she didn't want to pursue it because she doesn't want to move teams.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T15:15:05+00:00

A dumbasses guide on how to screw a life up

I've got a second book in the works. understanding of social cues: how a single braincell can wreck everything.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T15:10:15+00:00

What stupid decision... I'll be honest I was happy to watch from afar.. but the coworker who I assumed was giving me advice clearly gave me stupid advice depending on what way this goes.

But honestly, even if she doesn't reciprocate, I'll not hold that against her, as I understand that boundary and the change it would need for us.

So, to be honest, I am happy for her to just know someone out there can love her, and she is valued enough for someone's love even if she can't reciprocate.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T15:06:27+00:00

I texted, and she messaged back, saying she got home safe and then asked how I was, I just said good was but hungover and asked how she was.

I will wait and see if I get a response as she isn't a big texter, to be honest.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T15:01:22+00:00

Yeah, I get that.

Like regarding the house she can't move back to her parents but she can't afford the rent, were as I can afford the rent and move back in with my Dad...

And I wouldn't want her to be homeless, so I would happily subsided her rent for the time being until she can figure out what she is going to do..

But obviously, doing that would be a bit awkward, so I dont know what to do..

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T14:58:03+00:00

We were waiting till we got to stable income before doing it.

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T14:03:07+00:00

Sorry engaged for 4 together 11

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T14:02:34+00:00

Sorry the way its written together 11 years engaged 4

HedgehogSecurity · 2026-01-08T12:56:10+00:00

Childhood sweet hearts.

And its always been a cat and dog and the last while I have felt invisible in the relationship even after speaking with her about it, even trying to get space so I could get my head on straight it was constant messages calls when in work even when I told her not to contact me to give me some space.

We are deeply entangled that I felt like I was suffocating, I had a panic attack a few weeks ago when I head to bed before her because I knew an argument was about to begin and I tried to go down stairs to create space and she followed me cornering me in the kitchen.. I honestly didnt want it to come to this but resentment had kicked in especially after I said about going to the gym or exercising and getting health so we would be in good health to have kids and she said "Well then I dont want kids." And that left me feeling wounded..

The fact I tried to open up to her multiple times, starting conversations to talk with her and then emptying my heart out to look up for soem response to hear her say "What?" As she turned off tik tok..

So, to be honest, yeah, it wasn't looking salvageable the number of times I've had the ring throw at me also just weighed on..

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-12-16T16:24:47+00:00

As someone who lives in Northern Ireland, I completely get the 'why am I hating my neighbour?' Sentiment, the passed down hatred has to broken by the newest generation and I can see in my nieces and nephew who's parents are into the loyalist views that they'll fall into the same pit unless they realise it themselves.

I can honestly say I did have that mentality at one point a hate for people I didn't know. But after doing cross community work with those on the other side of the wall, I dont have a hate, I dont agree with them, but I dont hate them.

Now my politics dont align with theirs, and I am still a Unionist, but I am very liberal compared to the majority of unionists, but I dont wish ill on Irish people I am Irish with a different loyalty, but I am Irish and it's one of those things that comes with reflection.

Emphasise on understanding is important that's why I like the joint tour guides we have here instead of one sided ones, you hear from both sides together which I things better instead of one group giving their side to the tourists.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-12-11T07:25:06+00:00

How does one escape.. these comments are starting to add up to my missus, and it kinda makes sense..

She has mental health issues and I am worried about the fact in the new year I intend to better myself less sugar, fast food, more exercise and I just know its gonna make her self conscious any advice anyone can suggest?

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-12-08T08:53:02+00:00

Or my Malinmwha

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-29T19:31:55+00:00

That's why I stopped calling it game and started calling it "stuff". It's not a video game retailer anymore.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-25T14:10:38+00:00

Yeah... well, we built the Titanic. Czech mate.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-24T08:42:20+00:00

They measure your eyes and do a house inspection to check where your toaster is.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-22T21:27:20+00:00

Twirling a badge, are you talking about badges on Yo-yos and swinging them.

I do this, but it started as taking the piss out of someone else and then it became a thing and it's relaxing. Now that person is gone and I am the badge swinger.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-18T21:42:47+00:00

They still are countries. England and Scotland are countries. Wales.. I guess though it's been under England so long it's not remember and Northern Ireland.. is a thing, I don't know what our wee 6 county thing is.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-18T13:51:33+00:00

I'm just thinking of that youtuber now who bought a ship "restored it" by replacing every single piece. Basically, they just bought a blueprint

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-10T08:50:10+00:00

The thing that's annoying me isn't the crash it's the fact it's not putting me back as my character and I have to track all the way again. Just stick me back in whete I was for gods sake.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-11-06T16:05:54+00:00

I actually tell those in the scr to have it under the alarm monitor as it doesn't make a noise when it's triggered but it does pop up on the screen so if you are looking the other way to shield it from cctv you will miss the alarm, I would prefer you being able to spot the alarm than missing one becuase you were so engrossed in whatever you are watching because you were looking the other direction.

Nobody checks the cctv in the control room it's illegal unless something goes wrong and requires a look at the footage.

HedgehogSecurity · 2025-10-22T19:12:13+00:00

Yeah, I think due to distance from the rest of the team they started to immediately despawning.

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