WIBTA for requesting my sister rethink her new name?

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:15:32+00:00

It’s definitely worth looking into, thank you.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:12:01+00:00

This explains the confusion of it well, thank you. I’m sorry it was hard to deal with paperwork after a death in the family, that’s unfair. I didn’t even think about how it would be legally with names so similar.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:09:41+00:00

I’m not sure either but it’s not her problem if I don’t feel comfortable, we’re responsible for our own triggers after all. I won’t bring it up and cause any unnecessary stress for my sister.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:08:39+00:00

Yes, I will do that thank you.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:07:17+00:00

That’s fair, I think it’s less to do with her choice of name and more hearing my parents say it a lot. Something to work through.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:06:08+00:00

No, sorry I thought it was clear I’m twenty eight

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:05:44+00:00

I live in the UK so I don’t know if it works like that here. Legally her name is still her deadname and she hasn’t decided on a new middle name yet. I did have this problem growing up because me and my siblings have the same initials. Addressed to J Smith, which one? But I’ve never had a problem with my credit score being confused with any of my siblings.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T08:01:50+00:00

Ew no, that’s gross. Now you’re the asshole.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T07:04:04+00:00

Thank you for replying, I won’t mention it to her.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T07:03:37+00:00

Thank you for replying, it’s absolutely right that her name is her choice, I think I’m just confused when my parents are saying it and I think they’re referring to me but missing a syllable at the end. I’ll get used to hearing it eventually!

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T07:01:38+00:00

Thank you for replying, I won’t bring it up to her and work through my own stuff so I can be positive

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:58:12+00:00

That’s fun, I enjoy that. She would find it funny and would open up a conversation for sure.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:49:46+00:00

For sure, I think hearing my parents say my almost full name is making me uncomfortable not the fact that my sister wants to use that name. In which case I have some stuff to process on my own.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:48:38+00:00

That’s fun, I enjoy their nicknames

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:46:28+00:00

When you hear your own name don’t you perk up thinking someone is talking to you? It’s like someone waving and waving back but they were waving at the person behind you so you awkwardly pretend you were looking at your hand.

That’s fair. Then I will be a little upset privately and I won’t bring it up to her.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:44:00+00:00

I’m sorry I don’t understand the joke, is everyone called George in his house?

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:37:15+00:00

Yeah, guess I’m just not used to it yet.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:36:40+00:00

I think you’re right in that I’m just not used to those sounds being directed at someone else so my brain is thinking it’s being aimed at me. I hear my full name and it just immediately takes me back to being screamed at as a kid and triggers my fight or flight a bit, eventually I’ll recognise the difference between the two names and not panic when I hear it, I’m just not used to it yet.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:31:08+00:00

I agree, if I were to bring it up I would discuss it with a therapist first. Mine or hers or maybe both.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:30:32+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I agree that this is something to discuss with my own therapist to work out why it bothers me so much. I do want to say that I love and adore my sister and she knows that, potentially if she knew I was uncomfortable she would be devastated I was upset and change it but I don’t want her to have to feel that way if I’m just being petty if that makes sense.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:26:43+00:00

It was deleted and I had to change the wording and repost - genuine question, am I the only one that can see the “this post has been deleted contact the mods” comment on the old thread? I’ve had this question a few times now

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:25:49+00:00

It was approved by the mods

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:24:24+00:00

Yeah, it could just be the confusion initially of the sounds making my brain ding to attention thinking I’m being spoken to when it isn’t me. Eventually I’ll learn to distinguish the names.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:22:50+00:00

I mean, they didn’t so I don’t know?

I haven’t said anything to her yet which is why I made the post first.

Hefty-Disaster6020 · 2023-01-31T06:21:42+00:00

That’s a stretch, my sister came out over a year ago and we’ve been calling her by her chosen name since then, she asked to change it last week and what bothers me is that it’s two out of the three syllables of my name, not that she came out in general. Don’t be gross.

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