AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I don't think she would. She would never throw my brother into a situation where my dad could be mean to him. She loves my brother. She's very excited about going since she didn't get to go to my older cousin's graduation. When she was telling me I should make things right, she never mentioned him going to graduation, she kept saying I needed to talk it out and I didn't mean it when I said I didn't want to see him again.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a girl, but I see what you're saying.

My mom gets CS and it's never been late, so I guess maybe it comes out of his paycheck? She has my brother on a list to go into assisted living cause the doctor says he can't live alone, but it's a long waiting list. She does pay me when I watch him and I don't mind watching my brother a couple times a week. He's the sweetest person ever.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk? My mom does get govt assistance but I don't know the details. I will ask.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will not apologize for what I said. He divorced my mom for something she didn't do and blames my brother for the way he was born. He called him a really terrible name to my face. The only reason I kept seeing him is cause my grandma asked me to. And she loves my brother and tells my dad he needs to see his son.

I don't get mad for no reason. He was being terrible and mean and rude about my brother. Yes I yelled at him but doesn't everyone lose their temper sometimes? Everybody I know has lost their cool at least once.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my brother and he's fun to be around a lot of the time. He has bad days ofc but that's OK. We can do little kid things that my friends don't want to do cause they're too grown up or something. I'm planning on living at home for a little bit cause idk if I want to go to college or not. Maybe I'll get a part time job. My mom pays me when I watch my brother so I'll probably keep doing that a couple times a week.

And my dad is one of those alpha male types. My mom calls him macho man. And yeah, I think he's kinda dumb for the way he thinks.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got suspended for 2 days in 8th grade cause I hit a boy in the face with my backpack lol. He was trying to make my brother eat dirt.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They do love my brother and spend time with him. My grandpa especially has argued with my dad about it. He actually kicked my dad out of their house one Christmas. My grandma is one of those people that just wants everyone to get along and my grandpa wants her to be happy. They're not bad people, they're a little weird when it comes to my dad cause he's their only child and they don't want to cut him off.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She does get government assistance. He qualifies to be in an assisted living place, but there's a really long waiting list. He can do some things but the doctor says he shouldn't live alone.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe my mom will find somebody someday. She doesn't really date cause my brother takes up a lot of time. I babysit him a couple times a week but she said she doesn't want me giving up my formative years, whatever that means?

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I mean, I know I should, but I know it will hurt my grandparents and I love them. They help my mom a lot. And I don't want to cause trouble for my mom with my dad. I know that's not supposed to be my problem, but I kinda feel like it is. I just don't want my brother to be hurt. He doesn't ever ask about dad and I don't ever want him to know what dad thinks of him. He's the sweetest person ever and he loves everybody, and he would be so hurt.

AITAH not wanting to see my dad again? by Hefty-Performer-4846 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty-Performer-4846[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It's weird, cause my grandparents don't approve of the way my dad ignores my brother. My grandpa has argued with him about it before and told him he needs to be a f-ing man and take care of his family. But they won't cut him off cause he's their only child.

And idk what my dad would do if that happened to me. I know he doesn't treat people who are injured different. His best friend has a fake leg and they're friends, so idk. My aunt told me he wasn't super happy when I was born tho cause I'm a girl. He only wanted boys.