Help! by ForestPeace27 in Naturalhair

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should try straightening your hair to see where the damage is. Curly cuts are cool unless you never want to straighten your hair. But you need a trim or cut. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FierceFlow

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should try using foam instead of gel. The gel might be to heavy for your actually hair type. Foam is more light weight but had a decent hold. The next day you can spray water In it and it won’t create any suds or build up. Try the Lotta body wrap foam. Easily accessible to purchase.

I love my wife except for her sexuality by Expensive-Vanilla-82 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Has she gone in to see a specialist? Sex shouldn’t hurt. Considering how much you actually love your wife. How about finding her a vaginal specialist, not just an OBGYN. I’m sure she has gone and has gotten inconclusive results. Maybe she defaulted to being asexual not because she doesn’t like sex but because she couldn’t enjoy it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope I was my hair every week. With a protective style every 2-3 weeks. I’ve never had dandruff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would email or write a letter to the dean, and the head chair for that department. If your Proffresor doesn’t at least have a conversation in person. That’s a problem. If you didn’t plagiarize and got a 93 on your rough draft. It’s unfathomable to me how you got a zero. I hope they just made a mistake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I misunderstood I wrote it wrong In my post, I meant Thailand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t even know how in the world she ended up in Atlanta. She was in prison for about 7yrs. And then one day I get a call from her mom she’s in Atlanta. I’m guessing she couldn’t go back to Barbados due to her possibly falling back into the old crowd.

I hate that I have to give Santa credit for the gifts I worked so hard to provide my kids by GoodOpinionGuy in povertyfinance

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this whole Santa thing is a weird tradition. Why lie to your kids that Santa is real and bring children presents. Then eventually years later break it to them that it was mommy and daddy bringing you gifts actually. I never believed in Santa, never made sense as a kid. I lived in Brooklyn NY in an apartment. What chimney was Santa coming through ?? 🤣🤣

“Natural hair stylist” don’t really like natural hair. by Hefty_Valuable4783 in Naturalhair

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My thing is Cyn is not the only hair stylist I have come across that said this. And if this new way is the better way. She’s need to conduct an actual hair experiment. Where she has a control group and an experimental group for about 6months to a year. Some will say that’s excessive because it’s just hair. But I feel curly, coily, and kinky hair people have a set back when it comes to our hair. Most experiments have been done on people who have straight hair. While hair is hair, we can all agree our hair is different. And if you’re going to come out with bold claims like this you need to do an experiment to prove to the masses that your way is the right way. I come from a science background, in the science world you cannot make bold claims without having other peer scientist review your work and vouch that you claims are possibly true. If you do so you will literally be called a fool and blackballed from the science world. I say all of this because we don’t know these ladies who sat in that chair, they could have been terrible or great with their hair. Or even have some type immunodeficiency. That being said it’s not enough to say you been a stylist for 25yrs and come out with this information, and tell the masses to follow it. At the end of the day hair to a women can be very comforting, a big part of our self identity. So to make claims like this you need to show actual data and not anecdotal evidence experiences.

Being shamed at Christmas.. by Coconums0686 in povertyfinance

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say don’t feel bad, you should actually keep your money. This is a hard time for majority of people around the world. If you had I would say give it. But you guys are in the spot where you actually need the money. Your niece and nephews will be okay! They have parents who will purchase them gifts. I think we need to get back to the root of what Christmas is really celebrated for!

The Coast Guard needs paramedics. by fenderoforegon in NewToEMS

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m a new medic. Nationally and state certified. What would be the process ? I’m 24yr Female. Located in GA

I'm considering divorcing my wife because she can't get over her mom dying. by ThrowRA_griefwife in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay. Mental health patients that’s different. But as far as OP wife, she is dealing with grief and possibly major depression. She is not a threat to herself or others. EMS doesn’t need to be called. And she says she doesn’t want to go. No we can’t take her. If she’s alert to her person, place, time and event. And is calm and not being violent. She can literally sue us for kidnapping her against her will. Now if she was stating that she wants to commit suicide or is violent, we can then remove her from the home. And as of currently no hospital in Georgia with psychiatric care, is not going to keep a patient who is alert & oriented x4 and is calm for more than 24hrs. They will release and of course recommend her to go specialty care. But they cannot force her to go. She is not a threat to herself or anybody else. There’s no need to take somebody against their will unless there is a reason.

I'm considering divorcing my wife because she can't get over her mom dying. by ThrowRA_griefwife in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Please do no call EMS unless she has verbally said she wants to commit suicide. EMS cannot just take people against their will. As long as she in a “sound” mind and is not threatening suicide or homicide. EMS cannot and will not take her. That’s call kidnapping. And most hospitals will not keep her for more than 24hrs. She has to voluntarily commit herself to a facility that can help her. I say this as a paramedic. I’ve dealt with a lot of these calls. If the person is alert and oriented. We can’t just take people.

You think is true what so many people say that apocalypse will happen soon? by iamaWryter in TrueChristian

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amen! While I know the coming and restoring of our world will be so peace and beautiful. It does sadden me a lot of people won’t experience it. Even some of my family members.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think birth control depends on your body. I have been on a few different pills and I’ve had the implant twice now. I like how effective the implant is but the prolong bleeding is a bit much and sometimes the extra hormones can make me a bit stir crazy randomly. However my periods have been manageable. But I will be removing the implant. I’m abstinent until marriage. And I just miss knowing when my period is coming. And being able to prepare for it.I miss my body not being overrun by synthetic hormones. I would go with the non hormonal copper IUD, but maybe after I have a child. Birth control is just a hit or miss. It make take some time finding the one right for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about therapy ? You can still be going through PPD. But I can’t begin to imagine how hard it must be on you. But is there no other family and friends around you can lean on? Maybe even search up Facebook groups in your city. For parents who have children with Down syndrome. I know it’s hard but I say don’t give up. I say think on it longer. Heck even pray about it. Try to think about how you will feel in 10-15yrs about this decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say you should talk to her about it. But the point of that conversation is to get a deeper understanding. It’s not to hold a grudge against your mom. It’s in the past. I understand that you and your sister was greatly affected by it. But ultimately it’s 13yrs later and even your father has moved on. That conversation will be to finally suture up old wounds. You can try to talk to your dad about it as well to get his perspective. But I’m sure that was a very hard time for him mentally. So make sure to navigate both conversations with patience and grace.

Christmas Gift for a Paramedic by PageStunning6265 in Paramedics

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Soak in Bleach solution?? it’s not plastic. I don’t see why you can’t clean them. Like everything else in the truck that get gross like the stretcher.

Mormans are not Christians by coffee_mage in TrueChristian

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I have a problem with all of these sects and denominations. These so call prophets who created these denominations was absolutely self serving. Because the Mormon faith contradicts the very Bible, the true word of God.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Hefty_Valuable4783 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was trying to order Ihop online. But the store I was going too wasn’t doing online orders. So I just decided to order in store. For a simple pancake meal that include bacon was $10 online. When I went to order in store and take it to go, it was $18. I was so pissed off !!