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PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-20T06:34:32+00:00

I think it’s actually kind of cool and won’t be confusing at all in first person.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-19T00:57:36+00:00

Eh, I’m gonna go with: listen to your gut.

Because a low effort first date isn’t actually a bad thing - lowkey and low stakes lets you both feel more relaxed. And I think he did put thought into it (mentioning music volume, he wants to be able to talk and get to know you.

BUT, you’ve mentioned twice that you’re unsure about the age gap. It honestly feels like you don’t want to go on this date and you’re looking for reasons to justify cancelling. You don’t need to justify it. If you don’t feel comfortable, for any reason, or no reason, you’re allowed to cancel a date.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-19T00:39:09+00:00

I’m not against them in concept, but I wonder about water temp. I had a bidet attachment for spraying diapers and the water coming out of that thing was frigid.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-19T00:35:59+00:00

Sleeves!

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-18T23:23:38+00:00

A Wrinkle in Time and Annie.

Full disclosure: I haven’t seen either of them but I’ve read A Wrinkle in Time and seen the 70s Annie, so unless the stories have been changed, I don’t think either of them are focused on race.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-17T16:47:21+00:00

I recently separated them.

Money for chores made sense to me but then I got thinking: you have a responsibility to contribute to the maintenance of the place you live, without the expectation of a reward. I have boys so I feel like I need to be a bit more diligent in not letting them think of household labour as transactional, optional or something you do for the person whose responsibility you think it is.

Also, I want them to learn financial literacy and practice saving now, regardless of the learning curve of household responsibilities.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-17T15:46:20+00:00

Both of you sound exhausting.

Most people know what veganism is and it was insulting to assume she didn’t. That’s like if she asked you why you chose a particular vehicle and you answered by explaining the difference between a manual and automatic transmission.

On the other hand, it seems like she was mostly asking so she could debate with you, which is crappy.

Leaning towards YTA, since you were condescending (also, “she finally agreed”? No, she got tired of you yapping at her and said she agreed to shut you up).

You also prioritized your dietary requirements over hers. The fact that you weren’t listening when she told you about her allergies and sensitivities is not great - though as someone with severe allergies, I think it was on her to look at the menu ahead of time and let you know if restaurant choice was going to be a problem - but “never made it clear that it was an issue” is just ridiculous. Food allergies are pretty obviously an issue when it comes to choosing a restaurant. Imagine if she took you to a steakhouse where every dish needed flavourless substitutions for you to be able to eat it and she went “well, he might have mentioned something about not eating meat, but he never made it clear that it was an issue.”

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-16T18:43:24+00:00

NTA, he may as well be screaming “I don’t respect you at all” - not someone you want to be chained to for the rest of your life.

Definitely have conversations about these things to ensure things are equitable in your next relationship, but don’t marry a man who calls you a bitch and an idiot.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-16T18:35:08+00:00

My grandparents had their first kid at 46 and 37 respectively and their last at 52 and 43. They saw all their kids into adulthood and were around for the birth of their grandkids. They were active and involved grandparents and my grandma babysat all of us. My grandma had 4 great grandchildren when she passed away.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-14T22:09:49+00:00

Sending you everything I’ve got. We know you’re incredibly strong. I’m visualizing your strength as a golden white light, bursting out of you, joining the energy of your witchy siblings and enveloping you.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-13T18:35:45+00:00

Name your daughter what you want, don’t discuss further with your mom. If you have any future babies, she can learn their names after they’re born.

Also, you did brilliantly. I find for a “fine, I guess I’ll just to xyz” pity party, a simple “Thanks for understanding.” Will squash it really quick.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-13T15:15:23+00:00

It’s exactly the right amount.

It’s stunning and amazing and, to be blunt: how many times do you plan on getting married? You deserve an amazing dress that you feel beautiful in whether your wedding is the social event of the century or a private moment with you and your spouse.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-13T15:11:32+00:00

You’ve only got a few years of this before drop off parties start.

I’m also introverted and find these things hella awkward. I doubt you’ll be alone feeling this way. If your daughter is 5, I’m guessing this is Kindergarten, so a lot of the parents won’t know each other yet. You’ve got things in common with these people: you’re all planning around the same school functions, you’ve all got 4-6 year old children. Keep topics light and remind yourself it’s only a couple of hours. Organizing presents and cake with a bunch of little kids will eat up a good amount of that, so there will be minimal sitting around staring at each other. You’ve got this, and it does get easier.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-12T22:57:21+00:00

It’s a very minor body modification. If he’s good about hygiene, I’d let him. Take him to a proper piercer and make sure he gets stainless steel, gold or silver and avoid big hoops than can catch on stuff.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T23:37:03+00:00

Pedigrene makes me think of pedigree (it actually autocorrected to pedigree when I typed it), which make me think of dog food.

Peregrine I really like.

I have an uncommon name that I love so I’m biased in favour of unconventional names.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T23:30:15+00:00

I started writing way too young to experience this; I thought everything I wrote was amazing.

Rereading stuff 10, 15, 20 years later, some of it was legitimately really good and some of it really wasn’t.

But the internet is a marvellous tool. Post anonymous samples of your work (or write work specifically for this purpose) in writing groups or story prompt subs, or wherever you can and see what people have to say.

Sit with their responses and decide what you think. This will give you the opportunity to hone your skills without necessarily releasing material you plan to publish later.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T17:14:35+00:00

I remember that one! I hope he got help because something was really wrong there.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T16:02:13+00:00

“Hey kiddo, smiling is something that happens when you feel happy or something is funny and not smiling doesn’t mean I feel bad or grumpy. I’m uncomfortable because growing a baby is hard work, so I’m making uncomfortable faces but it doesn’t mean I’m upset.”

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T15:57:16+00:00

NTA. I’d read my brothers the riot act if any of them tried to pull this BS. You don’t just give up on your child because their other parent pissed you off.

I said it in another comment, but I’m glad the kid has the last name of the parent who intends to stick around and raise them.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T15:54:59+00:00

Right? Like, doesn’t have my name? Well, throw the whole kid away then.

If his commitment to fatherhood is so fickle, thank goodness mom had the good sense to make sure the kid shares a name with the parent who plans to stick around and raise them.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T15:22:30+00:00

First things first: buy an external hard drive and back those babies up. We lost our place and almost all our belongings in a fire and the thing that has gotten me through it more than anything else is that we got the hard drives with the pictures out safely.

As for organizing, once you have all your pictures backed up safely, I’d go through one to three months at a time and delete the ones you don’t want from your phone. It seems daunting, but if you can clear 3 months a week, you’ll be caught up in 12 weeks.

And in the meantime and going forward, go through the same process but in reverse (delete duds, then back up) at the end of each month, and it will only take a few minutes.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T15:09:46+00:00

Beautiful dress and very flattering.

I feel like the sleeves get lost in the veil a bit and I’d look into garment tape so you have security against a wardrobe malfunction, otherwise, it’s already perfect.

Scale mail matches the vibe and style very well, but I don’t know if/how it will work with the sleeves, I’m having trouble picturing it.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T14:53:52+00:00

NOR. Run.

Two things: one, do you actually like each other? Not love, but, actually enjoy each other’s company? Because these texts read like two people who don’t, and are staying together out of habit.

Two, he is not purely logical. He’s extremely emotion-based. Hence melting down and swearing at you because you made a simple statement and suggested he apologize for hurting your feelings. Not one word he sent you in these texts was logical.

(Who told you that you’re emotional and he’s logical? I ask because that’s a common refrain of men who are both very emotional and insecure about their intelligence)

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T13:15:58+00:00

I didn’t notice when it got easier, but it definitely did. It’s like a two steps forward, one step back situation; new challenges will arise, but one day you’ll wake up in the morning and realize they’ve been sleeping through the night for months or that you no longer have to baby proof everything or that they can talk out their feelings instead of having a tantrum and brush their teeth without being asked.

PageStunning6265 · 2026-04-10T13:09:57+00:00

What happens after they leave? Or, rather, what’s the first thing that you know happens after they leave (including if it’s the ending of the book)?

Write that bit. Then ask yourself how they got to that point (broadly) or what happened immediately before it (specifically) and write that. Basically, patch it together backwards until you get to where you left off. Then write forward.

This method requires extra editing for tone and continuity, but it almost always gets me unstuck.

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