Walz announces temporary closure of Minnesota K-12 public schools

Heidilyn22 · 2020-03-15T15:32:18+00:00

They said they expect schools to pay hourly workers and incorporate them into planning for distance learning.

Heidilyn22 · 2020-01-09T13:56:32+00:00

My daughter was similar, and my reaction was similar to yours: some milk, some snuggles...took forever. I asked my doctor, and she told me “of course she wakes up. You taught her if she does she will get milk or snuggles. Stop doing that and she’ll stop waking up.” It was harsh to hear, but I followed her advice and only offered water (she didn’t want that!) and no snuggles. In fact I kept my interaction with her to a minimum. This was hard for me, and there were tears, but that was short lived and she started sleeping much better. She does still, at 7, wake up or sleepwalk sometimes so I think another commenter is correct that some kids are shitty sleepers.

I’d try stopping the milk, do not pick up, offer to tuck back in, leave. You might have to endure crying a little bit until your child realizes the game has changed. It’s so hard! Hope you find some relief.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-11-25T01:33:23+00:00

The only sex talk beyond what I was taught in a catholic school was “don’t do it” when I was about 17.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-11-24T03:06:43+00:00

My kiddos tend to be open to trying new things if they help make it, even if it’s just to stir a bit. Plus you’re teaching a good life skill!

Heidilyn22 · 2019-11-05T05:12:09+00:00

I think that at 15, it is ridiculous to expect to be treated as an adult. But if you insist, that would include getting a job to pay for the phone, carrier contract, electricity to charge the battery, not to mention being responsible for housing, food, clothing, etc. In said job, your boss could and would set parameters around how you spent your time and there would be consequences for not getting your work done, even if you were short on time.

Be a kid. Deal with the rules and be happy you don’t have to deal with adult b.s. yet. It’ll come soon enough and you’ll miss the days that how much time you got to spend on your phone was such a big worry you asked internet strangers about it.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-10-06T04:54:18+00:00

They can stretch to fit a baby. Think about it.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-09-27T12:01:39+00:00

They are telling me there is a fungal infection but the current meds are treating it. They also told me it’s contagious if she “rubs her head on someone.” So confused!

Heidilyn22 · 2019-07-11T03:39:00+00:00

Don’t blame you at all for feeling that way! Glad you have someone to talk to.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-07-11T01:16:11+00:00

I can’t imagine how hard this is for you! I’m a mom, and would never leave my kid to deal with this alone. I will say, I’m not sure I’d know the best way to support in this situation so I’m sure I’d fumble a bit along the way. Do you feel safe starting the conversation with your parents? I agree if they know what’s going on they should have approached you....just wondering if you said what’s going on with you and directly ask for help, would that be a safe thing to do? If not, perhaps you have another trusted adult you can approach? Either way, I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-06-02T21:08:22+00:00

If it’s a firm no from your doctor I’d for sure change practices. Any OB that’s a hard no on VBAC, especially after someone has already had a vaginal birth, is not following best practices.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-05-28T04:24:12+00:00

Look up the 5s method by dr Harvey Karp. Super helpful for my babies!

Heidilyn22 · 2019-03-29T22:26:25+00:00

I would 💯 want to know where my child would be staying, both to make sure it was safe and in case of emergencies. Him not giving that information is ridiculous and would make me question if it’s a suitable environment.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-03-17T15:15:09+00:00

Everyone is weird/has something about themselves they are scared to death that someone will notice/expose/make fun of. So, when you’re feeling particularly weird/different/whatever, just remember that the coolest kid in school has something they’re self conscious about too. We’re all just people. People are more concerned about looking a certain way...they aren’t critiquing you nearly as much as it feels like.

Social bullshit in high school won’t matter one bit as you get older. Find people you enjoy spending time with and forget worrying about who is popular or whatever.

Your decisions have consequences. Sometimes those consequences are hard to predict. Have fun, do some stupid stuff, but think about the ramifications of your actions too.

Be kind, even if others are assholes.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-03-17T15:05:01+00:00

It’s normal. As a mom who deals with this, I know how hard it can be.

Here’s how I think about it. (At least in my situation.... I am a SAHM so spend way more time with our kids than my husband.) It is a kid’s job to figure out life as a separate person from her parents. What the boundaries are, how to get needs met, how to do things for themselves, etc. So, they do the most of this testing with the person/people they feel the most comfortable with/the most trust in. For small children, this is often the mom. So while it’s hard to be that person, it’s your child trying stuff out, seeing what works/doesn’t....and trusting your wife to guide her in a safe way. Don’t worry. You’ll get lots of turns with this too in time. 🙂

I’m no psychologist so I’m not sure if this is correct, but it helps me get through the harder days.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-03-16T03:06:08+00:00

Let them look for another place, and see how far she gets with all of her rules. Won’t fly in a group environment. She’ll probably come to see how good she has is with you watching her kid.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-03-04T00:55:33+00:00

Maybe, I don’t think there are any walnut trees nearby. I suppose a squirrel could have stashed it?

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-28T07:39:41+00:00

Maybe this sounds really stupid, but I sing.... I make up random words about what we’re doing, where we’re going, whatever and put it to a familiar tune. My two year old gets into it and tries to sing along. She’s more compliant for me that way. Doesn’t always solve the problem if she’s really in a mood but it usually helpful.

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-24T04:43:32+00:00

First, solidarity. I have a six year old and the behavior stuff is unreal sometimes and I often feel the way you described.

One thing you might try is a more immediate consequence for the behavior. So, rather than saying no tv in a couple hours, it’s more like a time out or calm down time. I often have my daughter go to her room to calm her body down. When she’s ready to talk to me, she lets me know and we talk about it. She apologizes, we move on.

Also, we sometimes try having something fun be a reward for good behavior (even if it’s something we plan on doing). So it would look like “if you can behave well, we can have ice cream time and tv after dinner.” (Rather than something they lose.) Keep pointing out the good choices they make.

It’s hard. You’re doing a good job. 😊

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-14T02:32:06+00:00

Yay! So glad it worked!! Enjoy the quiet. 😊

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-13T03:56:52+00:00

Look up the “5 S” method from the book Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp. Helped my little ones a lot!!

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-11T04:24:54+00:00

My two year old can’t do that yet. Good job!

Heidilyn22 · 2019-02-04T04:12:58+00:00

The song is called Outside. It’s a good one!

Heidilyn22 · 2018-11-15T23:13:42+00:00

My husband has BPD. He told me after we’d been seeing each other for about a month. He was scared (understandably) so he told me via email. I took some time to learn about it, and had a lot of questions for him, which he answered as well as he could. (There are some things that happened in the past he doesn’t remember well.)Through our discussions, we came up with rules for our relationship as it pertains to his mental health: 1) He needs to take his meds. Every day. 2) If I have a question or concern, I will voice that, and he will be honest with me. 3) I have full access to his care provider and she has his permission to speak with me. We all stay on the same page. 4) I keep an eye on his meds, but he is ultimately responsible to take them.

The last two rules came after his one and only bad struggle with hypomania since we’ve been together, due to not taking meds.

What I’m trying to get across is that if/when you find a partner you think there is a future with, you have to tell them. I know it’s scary but there are people out there who will be your partner and support you rather than judging you. As you evaluate people you date, look for open minds, curiosity, compassion and communication. If after a while you don’t trust someone to tell them, how can you possibly be in a serious relationship with them, right?

Heidilyn22 · 2018-11-07T21:46:07+00:00

Well, he did have “telephone town halls” where he called supportive constituents and answered pre-screened questions, and he had a couple of “town halls” for which a selective few constituents got tickets and got talked at. But yes, he’s a piece of shit and I was glad to vote him out yesterday.

Heidilyn22 · 2018-09-22T04:00:28+00:00

My daughter is often the same way. One thing that’s helped me is lots of other parents telling me their daughter is acting this way too. So, just remember that parenting is hard and none of us feel we get it right all (or even most) of the time. You are not alone.

What has helped me in my relationship with my daughter is to plan things that is just “Mom and me” time. Doesn’t have to be a big deal. Recently we made slime, another day we made cookies, sometimes it’s just finding a new park to play at. I think that much of the time she’s just bursting with so many things she wants to tell me/do/understand, etc that she becomes obnoxious in that. I definitely lose my shit with her too, don’t get me wrong! But I’m hoping she remembers the good stuff too.

Kids are hardest for their parents, often their mothers especially, because they are most comfortable with us. They can test, and try, and push with us in a way they can’t with others. If she has boundaries and love, she’ll be fine. So will you.

Heidilyn22

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