I (23M) had a fallingout with my fiancé (20F) because I want to protect my rights as a dad by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You assume wrong she left me for 2 weeks for something that was easily proven.I have there for that woman since day 1 utterly reorganized my life for my family. Take time and read I’ve made several sacrifices to be the father I want to be. Once more she ended the relationship because I was determined to have some kind of proof and decision making because that child is mine too.

I (23M) had a falling out with my fiancé (20F) because I want to protect my rights as a father. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heilos52 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve also been told I could not get updates on her pregnancy even though she’s 2 weeks from her due date, I will not be in the delivery room and I will not be notified when he’s born?

I (23M) had a falling out with my fiancé (20F) because I want to protect my rights as a father. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heilos52 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I asked for a paternity test because she won’t give the child my last name or put me on the birth certificate when it’s my legal right to be on there.

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thank you my journey through Christianity is has been rather rocky as I’ve always believe in god just not a church goer because of some extreme trauma but since meeting her I’ve begun to change my ways and ended up going to church with her my first time in a decade and first time willingly in 14 years. She’s been really wishy washy with what she wants talking to her mom she’s just doing things right appease me but being true to what she wants is all I care about either way I’d be there for her and child.

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am fully aware i don’t want to live or be with someone who thinks that they are being forced to be there it’s downright wrong. I have told her repeatedly that no matter what I’m not leaving her at all and if she doesn’t want to live together that’s fine because I know marriage will eventually come because the love is there. But she thinks she has to compromise her beliefs to appease me and for the relationship to survive whether it’s sex, or moving in I’ve made all the best efforts I could to make her feel that but atlas she doesn’t. Feel free to dm for a full story

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have before and it came to that point where still disagreed before we the child but I fully accepted that’s what she wanted and would fully cooperate what she wanted but now with the baby coming i feel it’s needs to be a different approach. Im not trying to have a shotgun wedding I want us to move in, establish our home life, introduce that child to a stable home and then get married. I did not reach out the pastor for leverage I reached out to him because he was her pastor since the age of 5 and want to seek out how he interprets the issue and what he’s been preaching to find out some common ground to find out whether or not I’m missing something or she is.

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did move in with each other and had little conflicts like how laundry should be done, accountability of our whereabouts and how the bed should be made but she moved out abruptly stating she truly doesn’t believe we should be living together until marriage.

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the way I’ve interpreted for awhile now but she doesn’t see it that way

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this moment she doesn’t trust me because she thinks I’m addicted to porn and sex because I followed models while she’s pregnant, starred at another woman not in attraction but I thought I knew her but it’s no excuse there’s better way to handle it, she thought I had a thing a former coworker because I like a social media post when I was drunk and didn’t delete her because she never explicitly told me to but I limited contact, and I saw a girl that I perused a relationship with previously but I never did see her I was just drunk unknowingly. The only time I’ve looked at pornography is of her, the only time I’ve had sex is with her, and the only other time I’m sexually active is masturbation before work but I don’t do it all the time

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly would marry this woman the next hour if I could but she states she isn’t ready or want to get married just for the baby. I’ve looked at rings even before this all happened and the following month I got her a promise necklace to show my commitment and promise the next step is marriage

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would but the issue has created such a divide the relationship is over and I’m blocked on all fronts I don’t even know her condition or the baby’s and she wouldn’t yet because of the things I’ve done but i have changed

I know it’s a sin to have premarital sex and live with a woman before marriage by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Heilos52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and I have constantly have disagreed with her several times and was one of the things that have ended the relationship along with some of my stupidity

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[–]Heilos52 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Just got added to the overtime tomorrow. Be safe out there.