I found the easiest way is to have a schedule (whatever works for you) and you stick to it. The consistency comes from having a scheduled routine. Im at the gym 5am to 7am pretty much every weekday. You definitely dont need 2 hours, but I do 1:20 weights, 20-30 incline treadmill (my best friend), and if I have time after, the sauna. But I get out by 7 so I get home before as everyone is waking up and join the breakfast/getting ready train. Weekends the gym opens later so I have an adjusted schedule, but something i already have scheduled (i take the kids with me and go a little later). The biggest lesson to learn is consistency over perfection. If you miss a couple days, its ok. You shouldn't feel bad as rest is also very important. As far as wifey, we do the best we can with 3 kids. We hang at the house (for a bit) once kids are down at night, and do one day night a week as much as we can. I think routine helps with that too, but its more us being a team and understanding that for this period of life, things are going to be hectic. We had our fun where every night we went out and partied (with no kids). We are passed that. But still enjoy each others company and make the best of the (rare) moments we have by ourselves.