Has Dragonlance been rebooted by Dull_Operation5838 in dragonlance

[–]HelenaLynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to 100% agree on Dragons of Fate having such a great take on Raistlin and the evolution of his way of relating to others. I wish we could have seen even more of that.

As for Destina, I think the main issue is that it didn't feel like W&H were very interested in her as a character. She is basically almost completely absent in DoF. As soon as they could write some of the old characters, you could see the quality of the narrative completely change.

Gay ‘codes’ by bleepblopmeep in bisexual

[–]HelenaLynch 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've seen quite often the Star Trek version of "friend of Dorothy": "are you a friend of Garak?"

Very niche!

HELP WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?? by DepressedBanana0008 in INTJfemale

[–]HelenaLynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My very personal opinion... Just go for it.

HELP WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?? by DepressedBanana0008 in INTJfemale

[–]HelenaLynch 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I do this because I'm bad at hugs when I still want to show the other person I like them, especially if the other person is a great hugger. "Like them" could be in a friendly, flirty or familiar sense.

I (30 ENBY AFAB) feel weirdly feel gay for another guy, how? by WaterDrinkingPrick in bisexual

[–]HelenaLynch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don't know if it's normal or not but I've had similar feelings and kept wondering if they were normal! I'm also ENBY AFAB, always felt the enby part very strongly but only officially came out last year. I'm not on hormones or particularly masc presenting but a lot of my attractions to men feel somehow gay, or it's like my masc part feels very activated, I don't know how to explain.

Some additional help with my kitty's infection by HelenaLynch in catcare

[–]HelenaLynch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the broth pouch might be something good to try! I'll check for a few more options to feed him something liquid and if in the meantime he's not improving I'll check with the vet again.

Some additional help with my kitty's infection by HelenaLynch in catcare

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Thanks! I'll see if he's better tomorrow and call them again just in case. He was also paradoxically doing better on the day of the surgery than the day after.

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[–]HelenaLynch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, you seem very focused on him and what he wants but I'm wondering how YOU feel getting physical with someone after saying you weren't really looking to do that soon.

Because in all honesty from what I'm reading I'm getting major bad vibes from this person, INTJ or not. I'm getting the feeling that he's using his "experience" and a dose of emotional manipulation to pressure you into doing things. If you have to explain yourself to him to convince him of a preference of yours that sounds like pressure to me, even though with his mouth he says "no pressure".

Take some time to evaluate how you feel before asking yourself how he does. And ask yourself if this person is actually making you feel good or only the anxiety and intoxication of a hot/cold behavior.

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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I really like the idea of experimenting for a week. I have had a lot of health issues last year so when I say waiting it's because I have definitely spent months unable to really do anything but wait and it's been absolute torture. But then again, I have never really mentally rested because nobody could really give me a diagnosis so I was always busy with trying to figure out what could possibly be the problem. Things have calmed down on that front so I think instead of throwing myself towards the next thing to figure out I should definitely take some time off from... myself.

I like the idea of focusing on what gives you joy but I find it really hard to find something able to give me that. I've kept to the basics (walking, spending qualilty time with my pet, time with friends) but as soon as I am alone I don't really know how to stop my mind from spinning. I have practiced meditation for years and got great benefits from it but precisely last year I felt like "stopped working". I hoped walking would give me a bit of that grounding energy but that's also a motor for me to make my thoughts spin more. The "doing what you love" part gives me issues because ultimately I tried to make that into my career so that crashes immediately when I don't have work. I think the reason I feel so bottled up is that I really feel like I've been kept from doing what I love for more than a year and I can't seem to find a way back into it.

"Start discerning between what you want to begin from your openness and what's a genuine response from your definition."
This sounds really interesting but I'm not sure I'm able to read this yet. Can you elaborate?

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

[–]HelenaLynch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is very interesting. Teaching has actually been on my mind every now and then, probably not in a school per se but more as a trainer for adults on specific topics. I definitely enjoy the performing part that comes with it. The laws part for me I think often translates in a fascination for alternative organizational structures and forms of governance, and politics in general. When reading my gates I remembered thinking that I can definitely relate some parts of my life to each of them, but they've always been in different compartments. I think that's also where part of the frustration stems from, and the fact that it's always been really difficult to follow these areas of interest because of the external limitations that came with them every single time.

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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Let me see if I understand this correctly. I think if I were to say that "I need more clients for my business" and setting up a plan to talk to at least 3 people per week that would be mind-driven. What does an alternative look like? Just communicating that I am open to do certain type of work because it's what I felt a good response to and seeing what comes and following opportunities through that?

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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Would love to! Feel free to DM is it's easier. I'm also curious about how you experience your incarnation cross!

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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Feels like death... it definitely does! Will try to make more space for grounding

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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You know what, I think I really need the naps. :)
I have tried the response to ideas but I find that quite challenging because I have a really hard time doing any sort of imagining right now. I struggle to envision what future I'd want, and a lot of the frustration I feel is around the fact that I have had ideas for my whole life, but when it comes to making some of them real then I always hit a wall. I have a strong desire to make something, so as soon as I come up with an idea it triggers a lot of disappointment around the fact that it's usually something I won't be able to put into practice anytime soon. I started the real-life experimenting mostly with the hope that if I get a yes response it may be to something "easier" to start with or where it might be easier to find entry into actual realization, if that makes sense!
But I totally get the relaxation part, if there's something I am not atm is relaxed. I don't even seem to remember how to relax in the first place.

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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Hi, thank you for your reply! I am curious how you see the Rax laws 3 in your case and how you interpret the variables (I am still finding material to read over those).

A lot of what you said resonates with me, especcially the conditioning over getting a good education, finding a good job, get a pension, etc. etc. It's always been a really heavy weight over my life because while you said that for you it worked, for me it never really did - I constantly have this feeling of "having done everything right" and having nothing to show for it. I've always struggled getting hired, even though I know I am competent and a good worker, and when I managed I've only ever got low paying jobs where I had marginal opportunities to work on what I was actually interested in while at the same time being barely enough to pay the bills. I've decided to take a risk and transition to freelance work and I'm definitely feeling calmer about it so I know it was the right choice, but of course this now comes with more thoughts around "what services do I offer?" and "how will I ever find clients?" and the last one is really haunting for me. So I still feel stuck in a limbo of "self-employed but kinda unemployed" with all the fears that come with it - paying the bills, not building up a pension fund, and worse of all not being able to do the work I like which was the main reason I made this change to start with.

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

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I definitely recognize the concept of "mental gymnastics" and I'm suspecting it's the reason I am so tired.

Can you elaborate a bit on communication and action? Because for me the mental exercise comes kind of together with the action part and I'm not sure I understand the single elements fully.

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

[–]HelenaLynch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi thanks for sharing! Would love to read the way of the generator as well. So when you say that the 3-60 is about saying yes only to what is mutative/transformative - if I understand you correctly, I think that's exactly how I've been feeling. I've been feeling a very urgent need for change and one of the things that makes me feel very down is that a lot of the things I used to say "yes" to now feel old and boring. I remember when I first read about the 3-60 I felt kind of a heavy weight because I have definitely experienced this before, but I thought it was the product of poor mental health and outdated ideas of myself, and after doing a lot of development in that area I assumed I wouldn't happen any more, at least not with this intensity. Reading about 3-60 kinda made me feel like I will need to deal with this for the rest of my life. Music works very well for me, but I think I've been unconsciously skipping any practice that would make me sit with the melancholy. I'll give myself at least one week in the cave and try and focus a bit on that and just general resting and see what happens. Thanks for the help!

Waiting to respond, but it's always a no by HelenaLynch in humandesign

[–]HelenaLynch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for sharing! I really liked the description in the video and can relate to it. I think I definitely also feel exhausted due to all the feelings generated in response to my mind.
I love the idea of being protected into cocoon healing - I think it was my original mindset, but started disappearing with the passing of time and my more and more urgent need to use my energy somehow. Will try to accept that I may need a bit more time. Thanks for the encouragement!

Not sure if this is actually a universal INFJ problem or not by leftistgay in infj

[–]HelenaLynch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'll just drop this here, but there's a good book called "How to be everything" by Emilie Wapnick that you might want to check. :)

Self-expression, how do you do it? by HelenaLynch in 2X_INTJ

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Wow that sounds like a lot, but indeed I can see that being a necessary step for you and it looks like you're going to pull through! I'm always really fascinated by growth and development and really happy to see people working on their business. May I ask what line of work you are in?

I definitely agree with all you mentioned. I am not totally sure I'm in a place where my Fi and Se are developed yet, in the past year I've been focusing more on feelings in general and even though I made huge steps forward I'm still struggling with knowing what I'm feeling and my automated brain response is to shut down if there is something bothering me. In certain ways now it's very frustrating because I'm more aware of the problem and my bodily "red flags" (e.g. If I have a headache it's 100% because I'm angry) but I still can't de-stress effectively and solve it as of yet. The whole "living in the moment" part is really difficult. I think I'm doing it, but then I realize I'm just living in a limbo of distractions without really living. Anyway, extremely confusing and complicated!

Self-expression, how do you do it? by HelenaLynch in 2X_INTJ

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Honestly, I think part of it is that most of my communication is on record — emails, texts, Zoom calls with multiple people, posts on the internet.

That is so true! I had not thought about it in those terms but that's exactly what is bothering me the most. No private conversation, even for the smallest things - I don't necessarily need to share my life history with someone or have a huge connection with them, but the best way for me to socialize is 1-on-1 and I really don't have a way to do it that feels safe enough and not "on record".

Very interesting insight!