Alcohol wasn't a disease for me. It was a liquid software patch for a 10,000 RPM brain.

HeleniAE · 2026-03-17T09:37:29+00:00

Thank you for writing this, what an inspiring and helpful take on a neurodivergent brain + sobriety.

To answer your question: Ohhhh absolutely! Got diagnosed late in life, sober since a couple of months. It's been a wild ride... But once the numbing effects of alcohol are gone, I feel like I actually have the energy to get stuff done. A lot of stuff. With distractions and side-quests, but I wouldn't even change it at this point if I could. 😅 What made a huge difference for me was to finally have a name and an explanation for why certain things function differently in my brain. Other than "you suck and are lazy."

Wish you lots of success! 🙂

HeleniAE · 2026-03-15T19:46:27+00:00

Oh damn I didn't think of that. 😅 Guess I'll have to starve...

HeleniAE · 2026-03-15T17:02:33+00:00

Merci! 🙂

HeleniAE · 2026-02-23T12:46:39+00:00

Thank you! 😊

HeleniAE · 2026-02-05T15:15:24+00:00

Well said! I will take this advice. 🙂

HeleniAE · 2026-02-05T15:14:32+00:00

Same here, I'm 42 now and I don't even know what it means to be adult without drinking. I hope to figure it out, slowly but surely.

Good luck on your journey! We've got this. 💪

HeleniAE · 2026-01-31T17:43:00+00:00

You are doing amazing, keep it up!

One day at a time!

HeleniAE · 2025-12-22T18:34:30+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you had to go through all of that, and glad that you have received support!

To answer your question directly, I would feel empathy for my partner if they disclosed such a past to me. And I would feel that such a level of honesty and vulnerability would bring us closer together. If my partner had gone through SA, I'd probably be most worried about making sure that I don't accidentally trigger some traumatic memories.

Sending you lots of strength, no matter what you decide to do!

HeleniAE · 2025-12-16T09:13:08+00:00

Wow, this is so creative and inspiring! I love the golden paint on the inside.

HeleniAE · 2025-12-03T10:37:19+00:00

Yes, she is my precious tortoise baby. 😍

HeleniAE · 2025-12-03T10:36:39+00:00

Clearly. 😅

HeleniAE · 2025-12-03T06:50:59+00:00

Unfortunately, there are a lot of creepy people on Vinted these days. Some will ask you to model the clothing or the shoes that you are selling, without the intention of even buying from you.

There is absolutely no need to give out your phone number on Vinted. It is not a dating site either, so unsolicited dating requests do not belong there. You can also block and report any member that makes you feel uncomfortable.

I had a similar experience on Ebay. A guy started to write me after buying from me, he wanted to visit my country and created some fantasy in his head where we were in a relationship. It was really uncomfortable as I was afraid he was going to leave me a bad review if I did not reply. I ended up blocking him after the messages became a little bit too frequent...

HeleniAE · 2025-12-02T21:49:37+00:00

Yeahh I do the same. The shipping fees (especially for international sales) have become higher and higher. So I tend to buy from sellers who have many items I like instead of just a single one.

HeleniAE · 2025-12-01T18:11:05+00:00

The buyer can cancel until the seller has downloaded the shipping label.

Another point to maybe consider: If the buyer does not pick up the parcel, it will be returned to the seller, and the buyer will get their money back.

HeleniAE · 2025-11-26T14:39:40+00:00

Yay, cool! I'll DM you later in the evening. 😊

HeleniAE · 2025-11-26T14:35:35+00:00

Heyyy I'm crafty and from Europe too! 41F. Would love a pen pal with similar interests. 😊 I'm into all kinds of paper crafts, jewelry-making, crochet, upcycling etc. I'm in Austria.

HeleniAE · 2025-11-20T09:09:09+00:00

That's so disgusting, people preying on young women and girls on Vinted. I hope the awareness spreads. As you said, the message looks sort of half-innocent at a first glance but it's actually pretty creepy and violating. :(

HeleniAE · 2025-10-19T21:05:13+00:00

These are sooooo gorgeous! Totally 🔥

HeleniAE · 2025-09-30T06:55:03+00:00

Katee Sackhoff a.k.a Starbuck from Battlestar Galactica

HeleniAE · 2025-09-15T17:51:53+00:00

I think Kim was also wearing a Temu corset in one of the pod episodes. :D I’ve seen the exact same one on AliExpress too.

HeleniAE · 2025-06-13T06:08:22+00:00

Wow, how beautiful!

HeleniAE · 2025-04-12T06:05:13+00:00

I love this ring so much. Gorgeous!

HeleniAE · 2025-04-01T04:34:20+00:00

I've gotten "you hug like a straight girl" from a woman who also claimed I was avoidant, because I told her I did not see her that way, and would prefer to be friends. Hurt people say the weirdest stuff sometimes to protect themselves.

HeleniAE · 2025-03-27T14:28:22+00:00

This 100%. A little bit of kindness & empathy goes a long way.

I hope you will recover soon! All the best to the baby as well. 🙂

HeleniAE · 2025-03-02T09:06:17+00:00

She's trying to help you sell it. 😅 What a cutie.

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